Married men of Ohmojo: Are you happy?

Guys, many got married due to family commitments or force or own interest etc.

Just did we ask ourselves "am I happy and satisfied?"

Also did ever get a response as " yes" completely?

Let's share our views here.

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No Picture ente_xperience	Posted On Dec 10, 2022 Hotncute.. All correct.. But not sure why u restrict ejaculation count with age. Me 37 which I can control only if I *** every day in any form.. Sometimes 3 times a day itself.. Not sure if it's a right one ☺😒
fifty	Posted On Dec 10, 2022 comingAhmedabad - okay. Rephrasing my question. You feel the need to get away from thoughts or only gay *** or thoughts of any *** ? Even if you were straight and thinking about *** all the time, that is wrong too. Do you get this?
No Picture Needfriend45	Posted On Dec 10, 2022 I m 52 years old. Never had proper ***. Even took shock treatment for more than 10 years with the help of psychiatrist. It helped me to be neutal in *** , I mean no like for man or lady. Once treatment was left again i have like for men .Nothing helped to avoid the need for man. But treatment spoiled mY health . Now can't even work. Someone says additiction . After college time I never went with man. But still urge fantasy is there. I tried my level best to become a hetro sexual and failed . From childhood internally I felt female. I mean mind. We are from orthodox family . So prayers studied helped me to get not exposed *** life . Still many places my feminity was found by men . Ladies easily find . I was humiliated and even approached by my school mates and college mate . I started to avoid any friends .life was work home studied as such went .i got many degrees .Except to one person in college I never accepted my nature as I wanted to live a decent life . Few times in college and school time attempted suicide. In god grace I live a decent life in the society. Living in my small saving. Yes I do feel lonely but managing my life. I m happy I didn't bring shame to mother .those days there was stigma. Parents passed away . Still living in a small village taking care of myself . In online dating difficult to belive any one and I have myown inhibition fear . I feel I m ok being alone than with wrong company . The treatment helped me to hide feminity. They taught how to be careful in walk talk and all. I have lot of body hair facial hair that also helped. Time gone . Now I just to try to be useful in teaching what I know as like English. Upto 10th any subject .all is well .
No Picture Needfriend45	Posted On Dec 10, 2022 If I married may be less loneliness. But not sure wife would have been happy. I never wanted to punish her. So one is fear of humiliation in my home itself and furthur complication another feeling of guilty .
No Picture Needfriend45	Posted On Dec 10, 2022 But I m.sure if been married life would not come these websites
No Picture Etc	Posted On Dec 10, 2022 Most Gay / Bi men are in constant trauma, guilt about their orientation and the fear of what will the friends and relatives think if they come out. How much the society has instilled fear in coming out is clear in Needfriend45's experience. I am very sorry to hear your state sir. But happy that you are living to your satisfaction now. I understand the life could have been a lot better if you had a committed relationship. But i am not sure of the treatment you have undergone sir. Because, as far as i have read/understood/heard, the therapies for Gay to Straight conversion have failed in most cases. We need a solid proven treatment for those who are gay but want to become straight.
No Picture Needfriend45	Posted On Dec 10, 2022 Etc Thanks for feeling sorry . I myself have given treatment is failed. Why not sure all these. Moreover treatment is no more legal india. High court banned it . No treatment in world Thanks . But with partner i can't say relationship would have better. Chance of relationship is 1% . That relqtionship being Successful is much less than 1%.
fifty	Posted On Dec 10, 2022 Needfriend45, sorry to hear what happened with you. You had to go through a lot. It is a good thing you decided not to get married. It might have been one more trauma for you. Do take care of yourself - physical,mental, emotional, financial. One thing I will like to tell you is there is nothing wrong with being. Accept yourself as you are. Whether you find anyone is a different matter. There is still lot of time. I have also the same thoughts about online dating. But I am still trying to take small steps. Because that is the only way I can find another gay guy. Yes @Etc, Conversion therapies have been banned in some countries. Even in india , it got banned it recently.
No Picture Cute_Rowdy	Posted On Dec 10, 2022 It's only when you realise that you do NOT need any conversion therapy nor any "proven" treatment to change your sexuality is when you will find true happiness. Let's not start on how foolish and unscientific these treatments are. We need to embrace ourselves and be proud of our sexuality/mannerisms which is as natural as being "straight". It is the 21st century and it truly saddens me hearing all this.
No Picture Needfriend45	Posted On Dec 10, 2022 Dear 50 , in god grace all is well
No Picture wingedcupid	Posted On Dec 10, 2022 @needfriend45, hope you are peace with you finally When I was a young gayling, I was advised by a few to be manly, start masturbating to female actors cleavage pics(which to this day invokes a certain feeling of jealousy than anything sexual) , use less flamboyant colours etc. On top it, my sincere following of religion, put so much of guilt inside me. I feel fortunate that I only tried praying the gay away for a short span and then learnt to accept myself. Its like if you cant beat someone, why not join them? That someone is myself in my case. I didn't care for validation from others but only from the self. So I am not apologetic about my sexuality, libido, my manners etc. Knowing about what happens around the world, gay literature, movies etc helped me in my journey.
No Picture HealthyTop	Posted On Dec 10, 2022 Nice topic for discussion , Each and every person will be having different stories and experience altogether. Basically you will find 2 to 3 types of person. First who is married but somehow his *** life is not healthy for some or other reason ( family,financially, social etc) and he is looking for some peace but issue again whether he will find right partner or not as per the situation and will keep on changing partner incase if he dont have trusted one. Second example married n satisfied both but still he want more and because of which he will never find out the exact happiness. as he is in " sitting with your bum in two boats" SABSE JADA DANGEROUS AND ADVANTAGE WALA SECOND ONE PRO'S N CON'S BAHUT HAI ISME Third who is neither married or engaged and still in confusion state with his orientation So final words - Be happy and find peace in yourself act very wisely whatever you do unless and until you are not hurting anyone's feeling or sentiment or coming back dangerously in your life. We are living in very fast moving life and sometime we forget about the reaction of action we are performing. So be safe and enjoy ur life and find solutions on your own You will be satiafied and happy in whatever your thinking or doing
No Picture Shivakarthikeya	Posted On Dec 11, 2022 Take my word nobody in this world feels happy. Happiness is not external, it can’t come from straight or gay marriage. Happiness is in mind not on external objects and other beings. *** is certainly not a happiness it is momentary just like hunger and thirst it fades away, there is something much better than *** our mind looks for gratifying that alone could bring happiness. In short marriage of mind than body brings gratification. It’s much complex but easy if v understand the dimensions of our mind.
No Picture Shivakarthikeya	Posted On Dec 11, 2022 There is no guarantee that the life partner will walk together till the end. And again the children will look after us when v turn old is again a million dollar question. Only thing is during the journey there would be someone to take care when we fall Ill. That could be overcome by building a strong friend circle. So it’s okie dokie to b single and sagacious and v can admit ourselves to a old age home in the evening of life
No Picture Aarav_Pune	Posted On Dec 11, 2022 The cost (not only financial) of maintaining a wife, family is too much even emotionally and to maintain dual life , being desperate, hooking up beyond her information, still being normal to kids qt home , all this is like living a life of too many lies. No satisfaction at the end. Being Gay and single could be difficult but atleast not lying to ur own self , by marrying a girl and lying whole world pretending to be straight
No Picture Aarav_Pune	Posted On Dec 11, 2022 @healthy_top There is 1 more category where person is not married and not in any state of confusion and orientation conflict, rather sorted.
No Picture Needfriend45	Posted On Dec 11, 2022 Life goes on hope . All is well for all - married unmarried . Each one need to decide himself based on his situation his needs priority confidence level. No hard and fast formula . God bless you all
No Picture darkdude	Posted On Dec 13, 2022 I am married. I am happy. to me these two statements have nothing to do with each other. to some some it may have, but not to me!
No Picture ManMode	Posted On Dec 13, 2022 Fully agree with @darkdude. Have been reading comments on this thread. One needs to balance the life and move forward. I think that is the only way out.
No Picture biman4u_2020	Posted On Dec 14, 2022 i am also married and bit bisexual purely for *** with some men( hate romance stuff).. and seek bisexual fun wiht men or 3sum wuth mfm.. this urge aftr marriage has doubled so much now.. but not getting right kind of person with taste
No Picture SunilJosh	Posted On Dec 15, 2022 In my profession seen many married person who is interested in bisexuality. There some reason, from child hood curious, always try to do something new. Or due to age or some physicalogy to improve own sparm have to take other person sparm. With due respect to all only *** hanger are too different they dont bother for bottom married or singal else. Just do it forget it...
No Picture Shivakarthikeya	Posted On Dec 16, 2022 I guess v r fussing over the issues. There is nothing as adultery it is artificial. We see so many animals just like they have body mind and soul they live comparatively happily and expand their family and live a community life. We created a institution of marriage dharma karma and mishandled our lives. There is nothing as such we praise Buddha but he abandoned his children wife when they were in deep sleep he also abandoned kingdom, for such act is suppressed and he is praised as God. Now we take another set of guys Aurangzeb Babur Dufferin etc hardcore materialists, they are touted to be savages but the nature killed both the good and the bad both the Buddha and Babur were turned into ashes, before nature good and bad is like day and dark, both has equal attributes nothing is great and nothing is inferior. So if you feel like having *** outside marriage just have it it’s like having food in a restaurant outside home. there is nothing to fuss as the husband and wife are not going to die together they are just like passengers in bus when their time comes they will quit. If your heart feels like having *** with other have it without fear or guilty conscience coz our body also will be turned into ashes as the fire won’t discard the bodies of bad people and accept the good ones alone. So enjoy the attributes of mind and body without hesitation.
fifty	Posted On Dec 16, 2022 Absolutely. Just let the wives, the women also practise this beautiful philosophy.
No Picture Shivakarthikeya	Posted On Dec 16, 2022 Sure all r equals if she feels it’s her jurisdiction she has right to decide how to use her body when our body itself is not our belonging how could v control others. One can’t be with his wife 24/7 so she has wide chances but one can be with oneself 24/7 that oneness is absolute coz it travels till the end. So let’s keep the one happy
No Picture fredie33	Posted On Dec 16, 2022 If one likes *** around, then marriage is strictly not for them, monogamy and heterosexuality are sort of given for good marriage. Otherwise, it will only create a big mess. It's difficult, but those are the norms of our society.
fifty	Posted On Dec 29, 2022 https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/mumbai/woman-awarded-rs-1-lakh-damages-for-trauma-caused-by-gay-husband/articleshow/96556374.cms Married men on ohmojo, take care of your cellphones. Don't let those fall in your wife's hands.
No Picture adicooliyo *	Posted On Dec 29, 2022 reading the article is interesting, the point what led wife to a situation to check mobile is because the guy was not giving her the physical pleasure plus her mother in law was also torturing her well thats one a stupid and selfish guy who would marry but wouldnt think about after effects
No Picture Lusty4ever	Posted On Dec 29, 2022 I know someone who being a gay married, divorced, having fun with guys around and has again decided to marry.. I know it's his life, his wish.. but seriously how wise is it?
No Picture Homex87	Posted On Jan 1, 2023 Story of my life - 45 married bi-curious *** sucker guy with no SEXUAL fun watsoever ... wifes frigid and NOT INTERESTED ... hence chose m2m fun, not had much fun for a long time (91-0 years now). Looking for a good guy, a secret friend who can meet daily (must be with place and really close by) if possible (no top/bottom tags) ... just seeking a guy with safe place, who can *** me and get *** ... only non smokers/drinkers , want to enjoy a healthy *** life coz i am FRUSTRATED NOW ! if there is anyone out there, pvt msg me, i am from kothanur-bagalur road, prefer ppl with 5-6 kms of my area only. Prefer bachelors, or guys staying alone or family away. HMU and help a friend out get this sexual mojo back.
No Picture hotbotpop	Posted On Apr 10, 2023 Tips from my experience: Marry *only* if you can have emotional and sexual connection with women. Otherwise, would whole-heartedly advice, no! Avoiding marriage is a matter of 3-4 years. Once you reach 30, it's hard to find match. But getting married just for the heck of society will lead to lifelong struggle. May be things will get better by 55 age, when *** is no more a concern but it's more about companionship. But good luck in even reaching that age without dying of heart attack or stroke from years-long accumulation of stress. Now if I look at my life, I do have caring wife and 2 kids. But overall, it all seems pointless. Usually having emotionally connected *** solves a bunch of problems in a regular husband-wife relationship. So the husband can be 'himself'. He need not think twice in doing things that he wants to do, even if it annoys the wife. At max, there may be some fight and drama but eventually they'll have *** and all is forgotten. This was the case when I had a gay relationship before my marriage. I was independent, had a connection, strong, no guilt and happy! But now, I cannot be myself. I cannot be independent. I cannot just be myself and fight with my wife because there cannot be 'real' *** to heal all pain. There is definitely some resentment in my wife due to lack of passion (from my side) though she doesn't show that openly. It has become like mere existence. Kind of losing my self, independence and originality. Cannot flirt openly with other guys. Have to have so many things hidden. Fridays, I start worrying about how to have *** on Saturday and spend the weekend in peace. Not that she fights if I don't have *** but it at least feel like we are husband-wife if we have some physical connection. ***, just for the heck of it. Being together, just for the heck of it. Kids, just for the heck of it. Overall, just existing and *not* living life. If I go back by 8 years, no way I would marry! Even if I were to be alone my whole life, so be it. At least I would be myself, and live my life without guilt.
No Picture cindrella_c	Posted On Apr 11, 2023 ** Marry *only* if you can have emotional and sexual connection with women. Otherwise, would whole-heartedly advice, no! Avoiding marriage is a matter of 3-4 years. Once you reach 30, it's hard to find match. But getting married just for the heck of society will lead to lifelong struggle. ** well said hotbotpop
No Picture Raajiv	Posted On Apr 11, 2023 @hotbotpop You are correct upto some extent.. but the marriage does not revolve only around ***.. what u have written in ur post is good for many other straight men who are in marriage. For some wife may not be intrested for other there may be 100 other issues.. On the other hand there are couples who have companionship, compassion are living happy life even without ***.. Marriage is not only about ***..
No Picture hotbotpop	Posted On Apr 11, 2023 @Raajiv No you are so wrong. That's what I thought and fell in the trap. Do not fall for this, please. Yes marriage is not just about *** I know. But *** is the only thing that differentiates married relationship Vs a friend/sibling or any other relationship for that matter. Lack of ***/passion will lead to a lot of resentment even though it may all look good outside. 'Happy life' without *** and emotional attachment is a complete myth. You may have a great companionship, lots of hobbies and kids to distract BUT you will definitely feel the void. Absolute void! Straight life also has N number of issues, anybody's life will have. That need not be a reason for some gay to get married and fall into lifelong hell. Being alone, being yourself is infinitely better than this guilt-ridden, fake life.
No Picture hotbotpop	Posted On Apr 11, 2023 @Raajiv For you to understand this better, you can have a gay partner and *need not* have *** often. May be once a week or even once a month will do. But you will have that 'connection' with the partner since he is a man. If you think you can have similar 'connection' with a woman, that won't happen. Only hetero or bisexuals will have that connection/passion/possessiveness and all that feel. So it is not just ***, but the whole connection thing will be missing. It'll be like you are caged and suffocating.
No Picture Raajiv	Posted On Apr 13, 2023 @hobotpop.. that "connection" is in ur mind.. if u want u can make that connection easily.. the reason u are not able to make the connection is because "***" is the primary concern in ur mind.. remove fear of *** for a while and see u will be able to establish the connection.. We all have female friends in school, college, workplaces etc.. we get good with them.. just because u have taken seven rounds along fire with one or similar of them should not change ur feelings ... (PS.. the girl should be normal and not *** demanding, which u can figure out by talking to her)
No Picture hotbotpop	Posted On Apr 13, 2023 @Raajiv Are you married? My wife is not *** demanding. 95% of the time I initiate. And I don't think about *** all the time. Also, I have lot of female 'friends' in school, college and workplace. Being friends is fine but being husband is a totally different thing. You can be friends with any man/woman but being a life partner is different. Physical connection is definitely required. That is the only thing that differentiates husband/wife relation Vs friends/parents/siblings relation. If you absolutely have to get married, I agree marrying a girl who is *not* interested in *** is the best thing.
No Picture TurinTop	Posted On Apr 14, 2023 I enjoy reading comments on this website, but too often I realise that India, albeit the second biggest country in world, has still a long way to go. Sexual conversion? Arranged marriages? Cover marriages? All this belong to past centuries. We are in 2023. Why should I marry “to make my family happy?” What about my own happiness? Should I feel miserable and cheat on my wife because I feel the urge to do it? I have met too many Indians who are married with children and get *** and enjoy big orgies. Of course this happens everywhere, I really hope that in the future guys won’t need to marry to hide their actual sexuality. There is absolutely nothing wrong in liking persons of your own gender. It has always been like this, always will be. Be strong.
No Picture YouTellMeNow	Posted On Aug 26, 2023 AGREED with @hotbotpop. each and every point of his is so valid and condemning the reckless mindset of @Raajiv, very typical of the people of his kind, just like a brilliant person once said 'poverty is the state of mind'!!! As already been said a million times, i am repeating, do not marry a girl if you cannot be romantic with her. You are straight away going to hell.
No Picture YouTellMeNow	Posted On Aug 26, 2023 Unfortunately often Gays are being advised by bisexuals to go for marrying a girl just because for the bisexuals it is natural, as against the case of gays. I have seen a lot of such misguidances in another cruising forum, 'chennaiguyys'. The only criterion they define as the eligibility for marriage is 'the ability to maintain er*ction during s*x' what a bunch of loosers!!!
No Picture Amanrockx	Posted On Aug 26, 2023 Being a Bisexual married U have always guilt to tell lies or cheat to your wife... And fear to caught one day. If you have bad tuning with her.. then it will be the wrist day when she will know your dark secrate... So at conclusion.. The Happyness is ..." She still dont know" & Satisfaction is ...still u can explore something...😛😛😛
No Picture Youngmen25	Posted On Aug 27, 2023 Bisexual is being great but i Don't prefer married Bisexual men .. because they try to hookup single on for threesome without concer .. once i got trapped between couple that was horrible.. went to meet person at his place but he surprised with his wife .. she was showing awkward but exited.. we had good time but i was not at all comfortable.. i didn't saved his number later they keep following me but got escaped ... felt sorry for those guys but i am not comfortable with couples playing bottom...
No Picture SHANTANUnu	Posted On Aug 28, 2023 My openion might b not acceptable to all. My question is, is all heterosexual married men are happy? I know my so called straight married friends, they said, so many years, doing *** with wife, they are tired, they feel bore. We bisexual are blessed bcoz we have dual sim as mobile phone😃 I always believed gays are better husband than so straight husband. We born with dual sim, this is our genetic reason, I always believed, first we each everyone should love ourselves, then we can love others, its my belive
No Picture MayankWhitefiel	Posted On Aug 28, 2023 totally agree with you @SHANTANUnu
No Picture SHANTANUnu	Posted On Aug 28, 2023 So many heterosexual people leads dual life, whats wrong with us, question is how u will lead ur dual thats depending on u, use brain, another thing dont check wife mobile and wife should not check husband mobile
No Picture sjc12	Posted On Aug 28, 2023 Sometimes marriage lacks intimacy if you are married for long time..what can we do in such situations?
No Picture raghavm	Posted On Aug 28, 2023 Hi, I am married. I love my wife and romantically happy too most of the times. The problem is suddenly I get *** by seeing men in malls or while traveling to office and lust takes me over. My first priority is my wife so I generally masterbate and forget. Plus i dont even get good dates on grinder. In conclusion - Happy most of the times but secretly *** knowing the fact that this lust for men is insatiable.
No Picture G10DRA	Posted On Aug 28, 2023 @ raghavm same with me sometimes it become unbearable :( :(
Jaytop	Posted On Aug 28, 2023 @raghavm, I meet lot of guys who feel like you. They are married but sometime they can't help themselves from touching or tasting tool. So u are not alone who is *** and full of lust 😊
No Picture PuneG7	Posted On Aug 29, 2023 I am married and not only that I am happily married and to an extent I can also say with pride that my wife is also happy. It's not about being married or single its about being himself or herself with commitments u have made or about to make. As I said I liked my wife as person as partner and decided to marry her. But I also found out that I am bi versatile so without harming my married life I am trying to find fun and happiness from this side of life. It's not that I am not happy with her but it just that I always wanted to explore this side or pleasure as well. At 39 I am doing good for both of us. I am not sure how will you take this. But there. Are lot of males who are here for this reason only.
No Picture RahulJey111	Posted On Aug 29, 2023 Well said @PuneG7 am happy married and exploring more. It's even more exciting if u happen to get a very understanding partner. I'm very happy and lucky to get such a partner. She accepted abt my sexuality and took it well. Happily married bisexual guy.
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