Married men of Ohmojo: Are you happy?
Guys, many got married due to family commitments or force or own interest etc.
Just did we ask ourselves "am I happy and satisfied?"
Also did ever get a response as " yes" completely?
Let's share our views here.
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|Posted On Jul 20, 2018 - 01:40 PM|
Gulfisaforever and fifty are not understanding the point.
As I said we have only one life to enjoy peacefully. You can call it double standard but if you can keep everyone happy why not?.
we do not go sleeping around with everyone. Many times we have to let go many opportunities and that is what I meant by Sacrifices.
If any one, husband or wife betrays and gets caught then marriage will break. Being bi we do not expect our wife to accept our reality. Hence we do not come in open.
We are doing exactly what many gays are doing. All gays who are in closet are caring for their relations with parents uncle aunts cousins and hence they are in closet. Caring is not being coward. So why blame each other.
This post is about Are bi people happy in marriage. And answer is yes. If we are okay to pay price to keep our happiness its our choice.
|Posted On Jul 20, 2018 - 04:20 PM|
@fifty, If I read your post clearly, I understand that it is your complex (inferiority) that makes U call me MCP. I don't want to enter too much into your personal life to excavate the reason for that complex, none of my business :( :( Thats all how I look into what you are saying here.
As I have very clearly said, I do have a very happy satisfied married life and my wife too has which is obvious from the happiness that prevails in our family. For me that happiness is most important than becoming a "Harishchandra" and publicizing about my sexual orientation to the world. If I have to conceal certain aspects of my personal characteristic for that happiness, so be it. If, in your view it is because I am an MSP, I don't give a rat's *** to what U say.
Coming to the question of equality, I certainly would not allow my spouse to have an extra marital affair and I strongly believe that she would not need it too (probably unlike yours, I am not sure) as I am able to satisfy her in all aspects including in bed. For that matter, I strongly believe that I can satisfy any normal woman in the world in bed. And of course I do not and will not allow the partner to have an extra marital affair the same way as she does not allow me to have it. That is the strong establishment and bonding called family. The moment either of us come to know anything like that exists, that would be probably end of a happy family life. Now as I clearly said, the affairs I have with others, if at all I have, is done in utmost secrecy to satiate my desire which I cannot tell her and I don't want to tell either. And that is because, to me who is just a normal human being with desires and feelings, very clearly, happiness of my family is of utmost importance rather than being a "Harishchandra". So I certainly hide my Bisexual side from her and I never feel anything being wrong with it at all. And again, I know how to manage this life happily and perfectly, I don't care whatever others say about this being immoral blah... blah.... Hope I have made it very clear now. And of course, this is the case of probably 99% of the guys here about having the affair though many people just write about equality and some craps like that.....
Also , why R u not able to answer my questions and just come back with questions after question for which I am clearly giving you retort and U r conveniently avoiding the questions to you. Why are u so much prejudiced against bisexuals? We live the best life and we will continue to live it, thats none of your business to be bothered about. Don't be envious about it dude.... Stop talking against bisexual like a womanizer or a pseudo feminist. By calling me as an MSP, you have proven your self to be a "Pseudo Womanizer". :) :) :)
|Posted On Jul 20, 2018 - 04:40 PM|
I have never been married but have friends who have married out of pressure and the response is mixed. Some of them are enjoying their married life albeit the *** (Bottoms basically) but there are some who have just given up and carry on just for the sale of the society aka log kya kahenge.
Frankly I believe it is how you can juggle through responsibilities that come with the social institution of marriage and understanding the intrinsic nature if marriage.
|Posted On Jul 20, 2018 - 04:52 PM|
@Harikr, Very well said and cannot agree with you more.... Excellent reply for certain people who are prejudiced and biased against bisexuals. I don't know why this sudden spurt of morality and some gays think that all bisexuals are immoral and they are all so called "Harishchandras".
Avoid such divide guys. The topic here is "Are married Guys Happy Here" and many are indeed happy including me. And many seem to be unhappy too. Most of the bisexuals are commenting that they are happy in their life and I don't know why many gays are desperately trying to prove that bisexuals married life is pathetic and unhappy. There are happily and unhappily married guys in all categories and please stop stereotyping. Also stop talking about morality and woman's right and all here.
As Harikr rightly said, None here is against their partner's happiness and all married guys try to keep their family happy. Happiness of the family is more important than being "Truthful" and confessing everything like a 'fool'. At the same time, no need to suppress these feelings as long as U can enjoy this short life happily and safely without harming anyone else. Balance the life, enjoy and live it happily!!
Also no pint in crying that I am "unhappily" married, find practical ways to solve it and live happily!!
|Posted On Jul 20, 2018 - 05:43 PM|
You can do whatever you want with your lives. But please don't use the alibi of 'bisexual' to describe your extra marital affairs. Infidelity is not limited to any gender or sexual orientation. But if you try to prove to yourself or to others that you are sleeping with men only because you do not want to 'suppress' your sexual attraction toward men then I am sorry I will call it out. But if you choose to embrace all your desires and act on them, my best wishes to you.
|Posted On Jul 20, 2018 - 07:09 PM|
If you don't need her permission to carry flings or surf here, why would she need your permission either?
Assuming she has unfulfilled heterosexual or homosexual desires, doesn't she deserve to find her channel like you did?
You talk of 'not allowing' someone else to decide what to do with their bodies speaks a lot.
She too has only one life, what's the problem if she exercised her choice like you do? What's fair for the guy, should be for the girl too!
|Posted On Jul 21, 2018 - 01:34 AM|
Harikr, I had a hearty laugh while reading your latest post.
I have called you an MCP based on what you have stated here - i.e. you are free to have a sexual relationship outside marriage, but not your wife. You have substantiated my reasoning in the second paragraph of your post.
You are using such words as family bonds and happiness, but it is based on secrecy and cheating. Aren't complete trust in your partner part of your family value system? You are saying that the moment the veil of secrecy is teared off, the happiness will disappeared. This is precisely what me and others have been writing about. Your wife does not know that you are cheating on her, but you do know. So if you are treating your wife as equal, then your mind should be telling you that you have been betraying her. (To understand women's desires and feelings,I will suggest you to watch "lust stories" on netflix)
The word sacrifice has been used by someone, describing as many opportunities of gay *** encounters lost...The true sacrifice would have been to be completely loyal to your wife (as loyal as you expect her to be towards you) and forgetting your homosexual instincts.
I need not reply to the questions and comments about me, but here I am. I am not at all interested in women, hence I have chosen to remain single. Going by your previous posts, I guess you will interpret it as my inability to satisfy women sexually . But then, that will make you homophobe.
There are many guys like me who refuse to marry in spite of societal pressure, and I am happy to say our tribe is growing.
I do not have any issue with bisexuals enjoying both ways, but the only thing they should keep in mind is, if you are entering the contract of marriage, then your behaviour is no different from those married men, who have extramarital affairs, with other women. It's funny to call it a right to satisfy your homosexual urge after getting married.
Spmebody has compared bi-men keeping their sexuality secret from wife with all gay men keeping it out from their parents and relatives.
To them, I will say there is a difference between your relationship with other relatives/parents and wife.
Again, your post had reference only to ***, and I know for some people only that matters. But there are people for whom being homosexual means loving a man and not just having *** with a man. I don;t expect everyone to be like that, or even understand that, even many straight marriages are based on sexual relationships.
|Posted On Jul 21, 2018 - 02:40 AM|
@Harikr bro..there is nothing wrong in having sexual pleasure outside marriage. but if u have a mindset to not allow ur wife .. then u also have no rights to enjoy in first place.... say if ur not caught but u catch ur wife enjoying with other man? what would u do? wud u stop her or let her enjoy and u also enjoy ur way? coz she also stil maybe taking care of family i ngood way.. then why u have to stop her? and how u say she doesnot need as u satisfy her in allways..?? if u satisfy her , then u also r satisfied right? but ur having *** outside often? and hw come u as man can have lot of desires and ur wife cannot? she also is human.. if u have itch.. she also or any woman fr that matter may have right?
|Posted On Jul 21, 2018 - 03:36 AM|
However, Harikr did me a favour by breaking a stereotype of men with homosexual tendencies being more sensitive towards women.
Shudder to think what treatment the womenfolk of certain households must be receiving- not even talking of matters in the bed. Hope you do not wish for a son-in-law like yourself, (if there's a daughter here.)
I'm normally not so personal and vicious, but Harikr, your articulation here has disgusted me to the core.
|Posted On Jul 21, 2018 - 04:28 AM|
Well this post seems totally *** up now :p....
I am a married guy too ...have stopped goofing around since a long-time..it all depends how satisfied you are with your partner mentally and physically....you don't allow or command one's beliefs...what is normal for you or your perception of nothing being wrong in it might not be true for your partner every step you take whether *** around or anything else just have a sane mind and question yourself first...Just keep it simple
|Posted On Jul 21, 2018 - 01:27 PM|
@fifty,Clueless, ... Ha, Ha, Wow, very happy to see that this forum has become more active and my post caused a bunch of "pseudo feminists" and "Womanizers" to come out of their comfort zone, made such a**holes pissed off and fight for the so called pseudo gender equality which they are pretending to be the gate keepers of. You guys, better read properly what I have posted. I have never suppressed any feelings of my partner and I am sure she is much happier that of most of your partners.
As I clearly said, for me, happiness of my family is more important than anything and I am keeping my family one of the happiest one in the world. The situation of allowing my partner to have extra marital affair does not even arise in my case as I am able to satisfy her completely. I know that is not the case with you and I empathize with you for the same as the fellow members of Ohmojo. So that question of the need for an extra affair it self is immaterial unlike you guys who are not able to satisfy your partners. And these cribs are coming out loudly as an attack on me due to your inferiority complex and inability of your self to satiate your partners desire. Cool buddy, don't attack me for this, especially the one who went to the extent of talking about my son-in-law :) :) :) . Anyway u r against not allowing extra marital affair for my partner and that implies that you are in favor of your partner having that. The best solution for your problem is that you share your partner with me regularly and I can certainly satisfy them to the fullest extent. Then your full issue will be resolved and she will not pester u and also your family too will be happy :) :) :)
As I have very well explained, as a person, it is my choice how I live my life and none of any dissatisfied gay's business to intrude into that. For me the most important aspect is to live happily with my family. At the same time satiate my desires too without impacting the happiness. As someone pointed, I never said I am doing any great sacrifice or anything like that. I an just a normal human being and don't need to do the sacrifice as I know how to effectively deal with the situation. Do not intrude into my family life and don't need the advise from the guys like you about how to live my life, U r neither welcome to advice me for that nor are you qualified enough for that. Chill.....
Note from Admin:Normally I would delete such a post considering some of the points made are very inappropriate suggestions. But I'm not doing it in this case as I would like everyone to see how narrow-minded, misogynistic and chauvinistic some people's opinion can be and how when faced with dearth of arguments they resort suggestions that are completely unwarranted. I am hoping some of the members will give appropriate rebuttal to this. Dear Harikr, take note, any further inappropriate suggestions from your side and your account will be banned from the website.
|Posted On Jul 21, 2018 - 01:49 PM|
Hi Harikr, Like your posts and the way you are answering these pseudo feminist ( your own terms) guys like @fifty, @clueless in the group. Very well said and keep it up buddy. Ha Ha, such pseudo feminist guys are cribbing about allowing the partner to have extra affair without even answering whether they allow it or not. Like the way you suggested the solution too to them :) :) :)
Yeah, the partner of such a bi sexual guy will be always happier than such cribbing pseudo feminist guys who cannot satisfy their own partner. Still they crib for giving freedom to other bisexual's partner. Can't suppress my laughter looking at their attitude. LOL.
I agree with the statement that you need not be open with your spouse about the sexual orientation and create unnecessary issues in life. If u want to be open up with her about the same, do that before marriage and not after. How many of these cribbing pseudo secular guys have done it??? Answer this guys. :) :) :) What is the point in saying it after so many years of married life and bringing unhappiness in life? The question of allowing her to have the affair it self arise only if you reveal your orientation to her and not able to satisfy her fully. However, bisexuals are able to satisfy her completely unlike many gays and keep the family happy. Then why to create such unnecessary issues in life???
|Posted On Jul 21, 2018 - 02:01 PM|
@sambhog, Yes, every bisexual will have a desire to have an affair with the same gender guy too. Why should someone suppress their desire if they can effectively manage both?? They are many bisexual guys who are able to manage their desires for both very effectively and live very happily. If someone cannot manage it well, better don't go for it. If anyone can, like many bisexual guys here do, just enjoy safely!!
|Posted On Jul 21, 2018 - 02:39 PM|
@Harik any reaons why ur nt answeing to my ques ? :)
|Posted On Jul 21, 2018 - 03:55 PM|
Oh my God, where is this discussion heading to? Suddenly a lot of additional variables like Morality, Equality, cheating, sexual discrimination etc. etc. are added unnecessarily and made it more complex. A bunch of gays suddenly became offensive against bisexuals due to their inferiority complex of not being able to live a happily married life. Ha Ha Ha...
@Harikr, full support to U buddy, U have stated very pragmatic ways of how bisexuals can lead a happily married life. Happy to know that you and your partner have one of such kind. Keep it up. Also don't listen and take any steps to destroy that happiness listening to some dissatisfied guys here who are probably trying to put you in the same misery they are going through...... :) :) :)
As Harikr rightly described, now the topic seems to be a bunch of "pseudo feminist" guys worried about a bisexual, happily married guy, not giving the freedom to his partner to have extra affair, These gays do not seem to be bothered about their own partner not even being able to satisfy her desire. Ha Ha, They are more worried about a bisexual who can completely satisfy his partner and living a happily married life. Cut this guys.
The topic of discussion here is if the married guys are happy and many of the bisexuals are very happily married along with their partner. Most wouldn't reveal their orientation to their partner and that is not required too. If a bisexual can completely satisfy his partner, why are the pure gays worried about not disclosing the orientation to partner??? Sounds so strange...... Better to STOP questioning and talking about equality for partner and such sh*t here.
|Posted On Jul 21, 2018 - 05:11 PM|
Very interesting thread of discussion, however, there are a few misplaced comments too. My view is - how one conducts ones personal/ sexual life is ones own prerogative irrespective of the orientation - LGBTQ or straight. It has nothing to do with whether a partner is satisfied or not, I guess its purely about how one wishes to manage ones desires. Whether you do it by informing your partner or otherwise its your choice.
That said, it does raise questions about if such things amount to infidelity? If a partner (irrespective of gender or orientation) in a relationship violates the assumed emotional and sexual exclusivity then the partner is not loyal. That is the textbook definition of infidelity. But is it bad?/ Is it wrong? - Well, you are the only judge of your actions because only you know the circumstances of your life. As long as you are content and doesn't affect the contentment of your partner (because of ignorance or otherwise) it is could be okay. Like the famous saying - Innocent until proven guilty. That is the case with any affair outside of marriage.
Also, the question that some of you have been asking - 'Will you allow your partner to have an extra marital affair?', I'd like to paraphrase it - 'Would you be okay if your partner is a bisexual and indulges in a same *** relationship without your knowledge?'
Another question is - while many of you have a happy marriage, do you exercise your bisexual side because you are unsatisfied with the extent of your sexual relationship with your partner? or you feel deprived of one aspect of your sexuality?
|Posted On Jul 21, 2018 - 06:21 PM|
@vishaldev04 - Well said. Agree with most of your comments.
However, couple of points on what you have mentioned here. // It has nothing to do with whether a partner is satisfied or not, I guess its purely about how one wishes to manage ones desires.//
Here the topic of discussion is "Are U happy". According to me, whether the partner is sexually satisfied or not plays a very important role in a happy family life. If a guy cannot satisfy the partner, certainly it will reflect in the family life one way or the other. So, I strongly believe that it is very much necessary for a happily married life.
In many cases of bisexuals, I know a few personally too, many go for this extra affair with guys more to satisfy that additional desire.
An analogy would be like this -
Guys can happily live by eating home made food, Rice Dal, chapathi etc etc. And of course a normal man will continue to live with it when he is earning normal income. However when he becomes rich enough and hear about pizza and burger, and have the capacity to buy them without impacting his daily expenditure at home, he may secretly eat them without letting his family know just to satisfy that additional desire. If he cannot eat pizza, still he can easily survive with home food. Same case with these guys too who go for additional pleasure beyond their partner.
|Posted On Jul 21, 2018 - 06:21 PM|
@nikhpa and others
To clear the air, I am a bisexual man myself. I have been in long term relationships with a man and a woman at different times. I was open to both about my sexual attractions and they were fine with it. But that did not give me any liberty to act on my attractions. Hence I repeat, bisexual people have the potential to be attracted to all or both sexes. If they choose to act on all their attractions, good for them. But it is not sanctioned by one's sexual orientation. I can continue to feel attracted to other people being a homosexual or heterosexual person. But if I choose to be in a monogamous relationship I will hold my horses.
Fidelity or infidelity is not limited to one gender or sexual orientation. These are human behaviours. I don't support any 'holier than cow' arguments but nor do i buy the 'am bisexual; so' bit.
|Posted On Jul 21, 2018 - 07:17 PM|
@nikhpa: My comment about sexual satisfaction was in a slightly different context, more from the perspective of the bisexual partner in the relationship. I think people don't always try out things just because they are unsatisfied. Even if one is satisfied, one could try out something, especially in the case of experimenting with ***. Which is why I said that irrespective of being satisfied or not, one could still want to pursue a same *** relationship.
For instance, in case of a bisexual man, he might be having a perfectly amazing marriage with great ***, yet he might want to pursue a NSA sexual escapade with another man. In that case it just boils down to how he wants to manage his desires or how much he wants to experiment with his sexuality and not whether he is satisfied or not. This is very much in line with the analogy you gave.
|Posted On Jul 21, 2018 - 07:52 PM|
Gender chauvinism should be called out.
"without even answering whether they allow it or not."
My spouse and I are equals.
The question of allowing does not arise.
Her body is under her control.
If you're gods of your wives choices and feel proud of it, you're only English speaking versions of some cavemen.
Someone needs your permission to experience what you have- sexual freedom.
You don't know if your wives are satisfied, you just believe.
Just like your wives don't know you *** around. They just believe you don't.
My story is pasted in a link way up. Reposting that link.
We may be far from happy.
But we are transparent.
We still have mutual respect, common goals and open hearts.
You'll never come even close to understanding any of this.
|Posted On Jul 21, 2018 - 07:57 PM|
Sorry to be plugging external links again, but this is to answer questions like would one have come out to their spouses before marriage. Well, this is an example.
|Posted On Jul 22, 2018 - 01:37 AM|
@CluelessHubby totally agree wit u.. happy to knw there r stil men ... married or not but who do understand true meaning of 'equality' among genders..
|Posted On Jul 22, 2018 - 08:12 AM|
Rest assured Harikr, noone is passing judgements on your family's conduct or sexuality. In fact not even on your sexuality which we share.
We are only sympathising with your family members whom you won't allow what's right for you, simply because you believe they don't deserve the same space as yours.
|Posted On Jul 22, 2018 - 08:28 AM|
Request everyone to be cordial and use appropriate language while responding or discussing. You can use strong language while still not be insulting.
The profile "Harikr" has been banned for using language that is completely unacceptable. Along with that the profile "Neerv" has also been deleted as it belonged to the same person (yes the website can easily track this).
Having views other than the generally acceptable views or even "wrong" is never grounds for a ban here. However if you put your points across in a manner that puts others down, you will be immediately booted out.
|Posted On Jul 22, 2018 - 09:54 AM|
Nikhpa, please read up again. Noone is character-assassinating the family members of Hari. We're just pointing out the possibility that their needs are exactly identical as Hari's but Hari doesn't allow them access to what he has had- Freedom to choose. We're simply calling out his double standards.
Are you out of arguments that you have to come to abuses?
|Posted On Jul 22, 2018 - 04:45 PM|
Man is a twisted creature with desires unmatched..some. Are able to control it with deliberate practice. Some go on to fulfil them....
So the question is how can a happily married guy desire for men for NSA fun. Perhaps we are indeed too twisted.
Why I call it twisted because of this — men desire for men,s lund and it’s men who claim this is taboo. This inconsistency about being right or wrong is what is twisted....
So it’s all fair and if you want to play with lund despite being happily married... go ahead and be safe... it’s twisted people out there:)
|Posted On Jul 23, 2018 - 03:37 AM|
Hey @cruisinglunds...cud not understand y happily married men shall not b striving 4 men. Happiness is not ultimate state of mind, its constant chase. One is always chasing 4 more hsppiness. Ask a straight person to check how many are monogamist. So whats harm in married men or so called bis looking for other men.
Fair question should had been if married men can live without women in their lives.
|Posted On Jul 24, 2018 - 06:05 AM|
Well said, many boys are pretending to be straight,many people like to fullfill their desire of *** not by *** but other way.... Some like to do it directly and some like to try to see *** indirectly..
|Posted On Jul 25, 2018 - 09:26 AM|
So many comments. Tough to keep up. Anyways, i dont know where this duscussion is headed. But i wud just like to highlight one point. I think thts the crux. Sm ppl seem to feel offended or violated of their rights to have extra marital ***. Thats certainly not the issue. You are free to sleep around with as many ppl as u wish to. No one is telling u not to. Its just a matter of ur conscience. How much are you compromising on it. I guess most of the ppl, gay or straight, dont really have any concept of integrity, hence they misinterpret it as someone invading their birth rights. It kind of feels that the picture is bleak. If and when same *** marriages are legalized in india, the possibility of them working out good seem very low, based on what i see. Anyway, i reiterate my disapproval of ppl who are cheaters claiming themselves to be martyrs. Sorry buddy not accepted.
|Posted On Jul 26, 2018 - 03:24 AM|
Well answer lies in another question: What does marriage mean to you. It means different to different ppl, even to two partners differently..
|Posted On Jul 26, 2018 - 11:04 AM|
Its a commitment from both sides, lifelong in nature, to be together. Thats what its supposed to mean in my books n also according to the vows that are exchanged in the traditional marriage rituals. There can ofcourse be open marriages and marriages of compromise but then un rishto ki bhi kuch gareema hoti hai which both parties ought to respect. Ofcourse in most cases, esp in our country, open marriage is mostly open for the husband, closed for the wife. If both the parties are ok with such an arrangement, thats fine. But in such cases, i would deem the wife as the one who makes the sacrifices, not the philandering husband.
|Posted On Jul 27, 2018 - 03:17 AM|
Life is strange, changing fast, more so in last 10/15 years. Our attitude, perceptions, attitude towards life, personality, the way we look at things and experieces we obtain from environment. On the other hand, deliverables or so called vows are not changing. And once i say vows, its not just towards partner, it is towards parents, profession and others surrounding you. One has to sacrifice considering what u get fm changes in environment, either vows or yourself.
I know i have one life to live and rest have their choices.
My two cents.
|Posted On Jul 28, 2018 - 03:25 AM|
Yes times do change. What is perceived as normal today may not have been so a few decades or few years back. That fact is reflected and rightfully so in popular culture, cinema, literature, music, etc. But here what we are really discussing, or the point where the discussion got heated was, abt hojesty loyalty and integrity. I think these values matter. No matter the times. And if you argue that you only have one life, and wanna do whatever you wish to, thats certainly not an issue. It could be anything from good to bad to worst, that you choose to engage in. You can even project yourself in any manner you choose to. Just that ppl will see you as you are not as hiw you see urself.
|Posted On Aug 6, 2018 - 03:44 AM|
Even the law is as dated on adultery as some people. The supreme court has recently observed that section 497 of IPc violates the fundamental principle of equality.According to Section 497, a man who has consensual *** with the wife of another man, without the consent or connivance of that man, is guilty of adultery. It doesnt blame the married woman.
1 If a husband has a relationship with another person (male/female) outside marriage, it does not attract the section 497. An aggrieved wife does not have recourse to this section.
2. Another point is the court is considering whether this should be a crimanl offence. (which should not be, is what I feel)
|Posted On Aug 6, 2018 - 10:10 AM|
Well the most annoying, most heard and least bothered word for me is .. what do ppl think. Always remember nothing succeeds like success... middle one for those who spoil their energies poking in undesired areas...
|Posted On Aug 7, 2018 - 09:30 AM|
The thread topic is kind of about what ppl think. Let the happy folks be happy, sad ppl be sad. Nothing matters.
|Posted On Aug 7, 2018 - 11:18 AM|
If you are gay and married to a lady. Shame on you for ruining her life.
|Posted On Aug 7, 2018 - 12:36 PM|
I am bisexual and married, and cruise these boards. Come and preach me morality 24mumbai boy. You are pardoned because of your DP :).
|Posted On Aug 7, 2018 - 02:15 PM|
U can say i *** ppl n i m happy abt it. I dont care what ppl think. Doesnt make u a great human being.
|Posted On Aug 8, 2018 - 01:05 AM|
I echo mmmw. 24mumbaitop... stop teaching morality n issuing character certificate to ppl.. as no one needs it to endorse his credentials.. i m bisexual n happy wid my both sides.. i hv been more than satisfied with whatever i hv got n thank god for the same. hence dont believe in throwing my frustration on internet.. may be gays cant visualise what it means to be bi, though they are happy to bounce on good looking married men..rest my case here.. the end
|Posted On Aug 10, 2018 - 05:03 AM|
I dont see a single comment about anyone teaching anyone any morality. Its about opinions. Just like one person has the right to consider himself a martyr a sacrificial messiah for having a wife n sleeping around, others have the right to see him as they want. Dont try to thrust your "i m a great bechara" theory down others throats. Baaki jo karna hai karo. No one is asking u to change.
P.S. there are gays who hookup with married bi guys. But not everyone does. Hope u see my point. Its a matter of choices you make.
|Posted On Aug 11, 2018 - 02:22 PM|
Being married n occasionally having a *** to play is cool, you get the best of both worlds
|Posted On Aug 12, 2018 - 05:36 AM|
I have been married for the last three years and it was about one year back that I started having fun with guys. Playing with boobs and playing with *** are two different things and I now enjoy both. Yes, it is safe if the other guy is also married. and want same thing as me.
|Posted On Aug 15, 2018 - 10:12 AM|
How can anyone cheat upon their spouse just for few minutes of pleasure.. I wish every one understand and comprehend the feelings of partners with mutual respect... instead of just exploring and experimenting..
arun Kumar 4306
|Posted On Aug 16, 2018 - 01:18 AM|
hi friends mai ek marrid top hu aur 2 bottom ko chodta hu mai ek ko hapte me 2 rat chodta hu aur ek ko hapte me ek rat wekly 60rs condom me me kharch hota hai mai apne family aur baccho ke sath khus hu
|Posted On Aug 16, 2018 - 12:28 PM|
I think it depends on your strength to stand for what you believe in. If you are a married guy, it's what you chose. You lose when you play the victim card. I am a bisexual guy who chose to be gay. And stay single. I have no reservations about married gay guys. Infact I think it will be amazing if I can be in a honest relationship ship with a true bisexual married guy. But a true bisexual desi top. Not some gay guy who got married under social pressure.
|Posted On Aug 16, 2018 - 02:37 PM|
That is true,i agree with your words and it is irresponsible to cheat on your partner nd lie,no matter how good one is at lying and cheating and keeping an entire other side of himself a secret,one's partner will know the difference nd be miserable in return..u have courageously chosen to stay single but do u not think that one will miss another entire aspect of ones life,mainly marraige and children which one has been grown from childhood to think as being the norm?.
|Posted On Oct 20, 2018 - 10:10 AM|
i am married for 8 yrs now.. i am 100% sure i am gay...
this *** double life kills me like anything.. i just want to come out in huge crowd and shout ..I am a gay and dont want to cheat myself and any of my loved ones any more.. i cried lot of times because of it..
Thanks for this website.. only recently i came to know from my friend...i can share any of mt feelings...as i feel someone is listening to my problem without prejuidce
if there is rebirth..i am ready to born as gay as i am proud of it...but only in most liberated country....
Thank you all guys .. bless you
|Posted On Oct 20, 2018 - 04:15 PM|
Happy is a state of mind. One can be happy sitting on a bench in a crowded railway station and be unhappy sitting in lobby of a 5* hotel.
Marriage is a understanding between two individuals who have decided to spend the rest of their lives together.
What understandings u make,what rules u follow is between the two of us.
If the husband is pure Gay and wife straight then let there be enough room within the marriage to pursue each other's interest and yet stay Married. It's called open marriage.
Then there's swinging,swapping,cuckolding and various other variants.
|Posted On Oct 20, 2018 - 05:34 PM|
I just told abt my feelings and pain .. I didn’t tell ..my wife needs partner.. please beg you don’t inbox me asking my wife number.,I already asked by one idiot asked me.
This kind of things add even more pain .. have some respect guys.. please I beg you all
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