Coming out
First become a celebrity n then disclose ur orientation.. ordinary person is never accepted in our society.. its too taboo in India.. unless u have lots of money and u are a celeb. |
Coming out
For some, or maybe many, being gay means suckung a xock and getting ***.
There are guys, for whom, being gay is not just about ***. It is also loving another man and having a man as a life partner.
I don't care about the former category and their opinion.
Crazy cruiser, i know, you don't like being complimented on your comments , but must say Your words are worth more than gold. |
Coming out
Coming out to your parents is one thing
Coming out to your siblings is other
Coming out to your extended family, like Jeeju, Bhabhi, cousin is another
coming out to your close friend(s) is another
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Being OUT and OPEN is completely different.
So choose wisely.
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It is not like if they understand it or not
It is also not like what they will say
It is like, how much it is needed to you and how much it will affect your relation with them.
And believe me, we all know which relation is real and which is just for namesake.
So don't come out to the people for whom it does not matter or the relation with whom is not important to you or them either.
Come out to the close ones. And step by step. |
Coming out
Considering Cutewhitey's enlightening comment about "dual life", let me share with you the experience as a guy who is out to his parents: The relief that you get after coming out is unparalleled. Sure, your non-progressive parents are going to take time to accept such a huge thing, but as long as you are doing well in your career and life, they will be happy for you over time. After that you don't need to have this fear about 'what if someone tells my parents" or "what if they find out about me from someone else" (and finding out from someone else is way more disappointing, mind you!)
You need to explain what being means, and what it will mean to you. They might have notions that being gay means you are a woman, or wanna dress up as a woman, or stuff like that... As long as it's not true in your case, you should be able to convince them slowly and steadily. If you are a jobless, pansy man, who can't even fend for himself, but does only avargardi sitting at home, then of course don't expect your parents to be progressive about your life choice if they are already regressive. This kind of coming out news requires a strong barter of convincing support about you being an independent and strong man. Please ignore cutewhitey's ignorant rambling. ("99.9% society is not yet progressive" i believe! where does he even get such kind of stats? No wonder your parents don't want you to be more queer than you already are! Stay in your closet and be straight) |
Coming out
my advice would be not to come out. Our society is not yet that progressive. 99.9% the chances are that it would go against you. You will have to suffer the hardships, the struggle. Trust me the *** you may have after this would not be worth it. Instead i would suggest you to embrace this dual life. Its so thrilling, so exciting. Be adventurous, *** some ***, hook up with dudes, get ***, try gang bangs all with the comfort of knowing that no body knows your little secret. |
Coming out
The question should not be IF you should come out to your parents, it should be HOW you should come out to your parents. All these degenerate guys saying you should not come out because your family won't accept you and *** is nonsense. These are the following things you should keep in mind before planning to come out to your parents, family or friends:
1. You yourself should be able to understand and judge how progressive your parents are.
2. Have they spoken about homosexuality in any context? Be it something seen on TV or news. What was their reaction?
3. How strict and rational they are when it comes to you, their son. Are they the kinds to take your side no matter what? Or are they more concerned about society and 'log kya kahenge'?
4. Are they malleable and open to being subconsciously conditioned to be educated about homosexuality? There's a difference between ACKNOWLEDGING their song as gay, and ACCEPTING their son as gay. Former comes first, the latter comes later.
5. What is their age? Are they in a physically good condition to handle such kind of life-changing truth?
6. What is your age? If you are not of marriageable age yet, it would be good to come out now, and give them time to get used to it. It will get messier once they are looking for girls and you proclaim you're gay. You're gonna *** everyone's happiness in that case just to be happy by yourself.
7. How much involved are your parents with your extended family? Is your coming out going to bring additional family members into discussion?
8. Are they the type who might kick you out of the house out of shame? In that case, what is your independent financial standing?
These are some of the things you should do a self-evaluation about before you come out. Bloody don't listen to other guys who have had bad experience, nor to those who have had it easy coming out. Everyone's situation and parents are different. The fact that anyone should give advice against coming out just because they had a bad time proves that they are a part of a backward setting and had an unfortunate time. You should go do what your gut feels like, but weighing all your options. |
Coming out
Someone may not want to lead a dual life.That's one reason to come out.
There are many who are out and have been accepted by their family and friends, co-workers.
It is better to attain financial independence and gather enough mental strength before coming out.
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Coming out
Do not do that!
Strong advice.
Even own family won't accept you.
You will be branded as a degenerate.
Ones who don't have the orientation will never be able to understand.
If you are lucky, they will think you have some mental disorder, try to force correct you. If you are unlucky, worse may happen.
Besides, what's the point?
If you feel lonely, you can always come here.
Certain things should be kept buried inside closet |
Coming out
Please think deeply and weight the pots and cons before you tell your family.
My cousin informed our supposedly open-minded khandaan about his orientation and there was an eruption of disgust, nasty fun making, and shock from his parents, uncle's and cousins.
He's gone into his shell and is not welcome at any family functions.
Unless you know for sure your family is going to react positively, please think carefully before u take this huge step
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Coming out
Sorry I meant pros and cons |
Coming out
I agree, one having such feelings, must come out. Probably in our culture, it's bit difficult but one really want to enjoy their life, must have face the facts |
Fairs of India
Annuall Kutralam Gay meet
Kutralam is water falls town in south Tamil Nadu. The peak season is from July till October. This gay meet happens on August 2nd weekend. It is an unofficial gathering of gay guys from Tamil Nadu, Kerala and Bangalore. All lodges and cottages will be full with gay guys in groups. Most of them will be roaming half naked, since it is common near water falls. One can pick up guys near falls or the parks near by. You will be having hundreds of choices... |
Gay Confessions
@ rahulroy
U r lucky indeed
I touched my hot co passanger's ***, very hot, but it was tiny :((
My fantasy is to seduce & grope hunks
Milk them heheheheeeee
Pls share some tips guys
How to approach guys |
Coming out
There are some LGBT NGOs who help in this regard. They will explain how to go about it. They also get you in touch with a psychiatrist who can explain things to your folks.
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Coming out
Hello...hope you are you doing well...my suggestion would be to settle yourself with a job first. If you're are well settled, then you may think of coming out...think and act.
Hugs Albert. |
Gay Confessions
I act like a man, but am purely a woman inside. Always dream of a very manly macho man, dark, muscled, with lots of hair and beard doing me. In his manlyness i lose mine to become a woman and live with him as his wife. Just as normal woman.
As a boy i got touched all over by bus conductor. Till date i wonder what would hav happened had he taken me to a room, dressed me as a girl and opened my virginity. Maybe i would be his wife by now |
Fairs of India
But what about the places that are near to Delhi.
Kurukshetra amavasya mela is a monthly thing and it is getting famois. Even so that during amavasya lodge owners try not to give room to any guy who looks too gay. |
Coming out
Same I to think, not necessary to come out |
First time Anal - Tips?
I had *** wd my frnd for the first time last month after one weak i am getting pain at opening of *** it starts after going to loo and when iam getting feelings that time also i feel pain there i dont know why it is ...please sujjest me ...wat to do ...when he pushed his *** in mine it's very pain ful his *** head only enters in me ... |
Fairs of India
Wow being a keralite i knew thrissur pooram will be a good space for gay activity as there is lot of crowd and will be easy for someone to touch. But never knew such wild gay activity was going on |
Gay Confessions
Hv sukd kissed frottage with couple of my cousins when in school... quite hot.. thinking about it i get hard |
Coming out
Why would you wanna tell your parents you secretly love *** ***? Lmao |
Gay Confessions
Rahulroy, you're a lucky one |
The Cousin Factor
में और मेरे कजिन के बीच पिछले 5 साल से ये सब कुछ चल रहा है' हम आपस मे ***, ***, और एक दूसरे का वीर्ये पीते है / अब हमारी शादी हो चुकी है दोनों का जॉब भी लग गया है लेकिन अब भी जब कभी मिलते है तो पूरे मजे लेते है पहले की तरह
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Gay Confessions
I'm working as professor in reputed college in Pune.one student used to look at my zipper during my lectures.One day I asked him wats wrong?
He said nothing sir .wen I asked wat u look over there ? He just didn't say anything. After he completed course he used to message me n wanted to meet..I met him once at my flat ...n it was nice ,very nice.. |
Gay Confessions
@Master
I agree with you. Have thought of not doing anything... I just talk sexual (str8 ***) with him now a days... That too less often.
Hope my infatuation to him reduces soon |
Gay Confessions
@head you are playing a dangerous game if he doesn't reciprocate. |
Gay Confessions
Trying to seduce my domestic help (male), who has just turned 18.
He is very cute... I often wish to kiss him... Seems he also have got my intentions.
I always open the door, when he comes to work in the morning, in just my briefs.
He does not mind... Or say anything.. neither he looks at my crotch.
Today I asked him if he shags, he said yes he does, but it comes little..
Once he asked me, when I was teasing him, if his *** will grow more... He showed me his *** and it was 2 inch in soft.
So I said yes, it will grow.
I touched his *** even took it in *** just for 1 time.
He dint react.
I often asked him to cuddle me in the bed... But he refused.
Will see if I can get him sometime or not.
No intention to *** him or make him to *** me.
He is str8 and I don't want to feel bad making him to perform oral or *** for me. |
First time Anal - Tips?
ChristianTurner, great post. |
Gay Confessions
Slept with a friend's dad along with his friends for two nights...3 tops n me a bottom..they banged me so hard |
Scared while cruising - How to overcome fear?
Engaging in sexual activity, whether gay or straight at a public place cannot be or become a right. Not at least in India.
If one wants to stop that kind of harassment and looting , (not to teach the guys a lesson) it is better to approach the police, directly or in group or via LGBT NGOs. |
Fairs of India
The below link has a dedicated spot for trissur festival u can visit for more details
http://www.ohmojo.com/cruisingspot.aspx?cruisingspotid=7960 |
Gay Confessions
it's 9 years ago...
one of my friends father who had come to visit us he did the unwanted thing to me while sleeping..He was a aged person I could not even do anything |
Gay Confessions
*** a guy.
Gave gandhi to one.
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Gay Confessions
I am a curious guy, yet not done anything with same ***. I really want to get groped by other fellow men. |
Fairs of India
Thanks kinkbud. I read an erotica about Kumbh mela and the asked some guys around too. It definitely is a gold mine of desi cruisers. Where are you going kinkbud. Tell about your plans and strategies. He he. |
Fairs of India
kudos to @manbot for creating this post. well let me tell you something these mentioned places are very apt to have fun. someone mentioned that its crowded and so how can you have fun. well you dont need to just cruise and find that person. it takes one to know one. you will find lots of men bathing in the water, from young to old, muscular to chubs its a treat to watch.. for other stuffs you can easily rent a place, because these places witness humongous crowd no one really pays attention. i have been to Kumbh mela at Allahabad but havent found anyone like this may be i wasnt interested or maybe i want exploring the right way. well this year certainly i will try |
Fairs of India
Any fun happens at such place?? |
Fairs of India
I would have added my experience for sure if I had visited... never got that chance, but heard from friends and forums... |
Flirting with a guy
I will share an experience I had at a pub in Mumbai a month ago. This guy was the bouncer there and I really liked his body. It started with casual talk and about his place, where he lives, his family and such social talk. After a few minutes, when I was sure that he would agree to bend ;), I just started staring at his booty. This happened quite a few times, as I continued casual talk. After some time, I asked when he would get off. Getting the cue, he called his break time guy and we went off to a secluded space where ... well.... thats history. Called him to my hotel the next morning and another steamy hot session followed. |
Fairs of India
Thanks for the addition dingdong, but can you please add some details in a comment about this event. Have you been there?
Would love to hear the stories of your hunt. |
Scared while cruising - How to overcome fear?
Pride parades, be it pink or of all the seven colors, have got nothing to do with extortion. The police are abusing their power to make money. Like most of the government offices do.
It is unfair to undermine important events as an antidote to a crime. Pride is very important for the community and has its own place.
We must fight this evil as a collective instead of expecting others to do it for us. |
Scared while cruising - How to overcome fear?
I would like to appeal to any lgbt ngos staff or admins, if they r reading this, to look into the matter. This is a very real threat n menace thts happening out there. N a lot of us r falling victim to these types of incidents. I wud urge u to take sm steps here. Rather than organizing pink pride parades all over the country. |
Scared while cruising - How to overcome fear?
@fifty
Its not abt starting a gang war, its abt fighting for our rights. U can give 1 million safety tips to a person here. But the truth is, even after following all those tips, he can still be made a victim by the scamster. The only real way us to get rid if that menace from the root. If we all think of keep avoiding the traps, one of us only is going to fall for that trap one day. May be someone who is not as smart as u n me. Not as bold. Or not as instinctively sharp or physically strong. Shudnt he hv the right to enjoy his life. If we dont care abt our own community who else will. |
Fairs of India
You can enjoy by touching other's in crowd but not more than that. Not of much use. |
Scared while cruising - How to overcome fear?
sorry to hear about unpleasant incidents, but i can offer some pointers after many years of experience:
-it's good to frequent a spot that you know of, where you can get friendly with some of the other regulars. this helps build a camaraderie and also discuss possibilities. many times, other regulars have helped me get out of possible sticky situations by telling me to avoid characters who could be dangerous.
-get a sense of the area and don't rush into any situation. know how to leave if that needs to be done.
-trust your instinct. in my many years of going to spots, i have always trusted my gut and if i dont feel comfortable with a guy, i don't go. |
Fairs of India
i think thrissurpooram can be a good addition, given how much *** happens there every year |
Fairs of India
But in fairs and melas.... there is so much crowd.... How do you get lonely and safe place. |
Scared while cruising - How to overcome fear?
No words but it's touching really sad |
Fairs of India
That's really a huge list. Looks like almost all great gathering will have such sexual encounters ..
I have heard few other such gatherings and festivals too.
Jathra in various parts of Bangalore - A festival happens around Bangalore and heard a lot that many sexual encounters happens there
Trissur Puram - A famous festival in Kerala.. and now a days seems many guys are travelling from all over the country just to have great encounters as I heard it happens very openly and almost all hotels there during this festive season
koovaagam festival in Tamilnadu - Transgenders gathering and very famous for activities now a days.. |
