First of all , thanks to all the contributors here for making this forum not just about the sexual aspect of homosexuality. One thing I have noticed to be missing is that there isn't a discussion on coming out.
Coming out to my parents has been an idea I have been toying around with for sometime now but I also know that this would not welcome in my family. It would be really helpful if people can share their experiences or even any advice
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|Posted On Nov 15, 2018 - 10:27 PM|
@Valentine84... Thanks dude.. point taken..I can keep to myself rather loosing him..definitely I can’t manage it if I am loosing it
|Posted On Nov 20, 2018 - 12:54 AM|
Thanks guys..Good that I didn’t come out to my friend.. that idiot also homophobic..I have observed it today.. I don’t want to loose him.. if not I am taking him to my arms..at least I feel warm ness.. standing next to him..
But I hate to live like this.. horrible double life.
|Posted On Nov 20, 2018 - 02:58 AM|
Dirtypig, you find warmth in being close to a homophobe? Wow!
|Posted On Dec 22, 2018 - 02:22 PM|
Parmesh, 39 | Head, Godrej India Culture Lab, and author of Gay Bombay: Globalization Love and (Be)longing in Contemporary India
There are many coming out stories in my case. Which ones do I share? How about this one: I came out to my mom in my mid-twenties when I had my first boyfriend. It was anti-climatic. Her response was, “So what would you like for dinner?” I said, “Didn’t you hear what I just said?” She deadpanned, “Yes, and we still need to eat.” It was really such a non-issue for her.
Or how about how I came out to my school friends? Most of who happen to be settled on the West Coast of USA. I went to L.A. and we had a big reunion. I decided to host the get-together at a gay bar called The Abbey. Most of my friends had no idea about me being gay, or about this particular bar being a gay one. One of them even wore a sari and had her husband wear a suit, since they thought it was a formal dinner. Of course, once they entered, and squeezed past the dancing go-go guys, and the fabulous divas elegantly perched at the bar, some of them might have had an inkling. So, when I did come out over the course of the dinner, one of my friends excused himself, and called his wife, saying, “You were right, you win.” They had had a bet earlier about whether I was gay or straight. His wife had said ‘gay’, and my friend had said, ‘straight but creative’. They were all very upset about why I had taken so long to come out to them. As my school friends, they expected to be the first to know.
|Posted On Dec 22, 2018 - 05:33 PM|
@Shiningarmour "I came out to my mom in my mid-twenties when I had my first boyfriend. It was anti-climatic. Her response was, “So what would you like for dinner?” I said, “Didn’t you hear what I just said?” She deadpanned, “Yes, and we still need to eat.” It was really such a non-issue for her." - Are you kidding? Are you from India?
|Posted On Dec 22, 2018 - 08:00 PM|
I just can never understand what is so big deal about coming-out about your sexual orientation to your own family....may be it is an Oscar winning achievement for some people i guess.....
|Posted On Dec 23, 2018 - 05:50 AM|
Sasmathu# there is nothing to be hyper about this. Even I came out to my mom when I was 19 and she asked me whom r u dating? r u going to marry him? She used to call him "JAMAI" which means son-in-law in bengali. Soits quit normal for few families. Even in india.
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