Millennial singles, are you going to be married?
I'm not a big fan of the institution of marriage as a whole but just wondering if there are any other single guys above the age of 35 here. Where do you guys see this whole thing heading?
Particularly interested in hearing from single men from the 35+ age group. Is marriage a long term goal in your radar?
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|Posted On Oct 12, 2019 - 10:13 AM|
@fatchubbyboobs. If your comment is directed towards me then it is irrelevant, incomprehensible and ridiculous. You have not understood what I have said. Read again. Carefully. And if u don't understand then I can explain.
|Posted On Oct 13, 2019 - 04:46 AM|
One question i want to ask is it hard to *** and satisfy women when you are a bottom gay? If after marraige being a bottom gay you cannot satisfy your wife sexually and be the man in the relationship then it is doomed to fail..sexual satisfaction goes a long way to keep a marraige happy..
|Posted On Oct 13, 2019 - 04:52 AM|
*** is part of marriage life. not marriage life is part of ***. it’s not that much hard but the point is you need to maintain the eeection. at bed. if you can, then you can *** any hole.
when marriage life duration increases then the *** life in it decreases. when u have kids, the frequency will reduce day by day and however more bonding will b there. *** won’t stop marriage life unless both partners are *** freaks
|Posted On Oct 13, 2019 - 05:02 AM|
true..but lots of divorce nowadays occurs simply because partners not being sexually satisfied in marriage..
And is there anybody here who has actually come out to their wife or girlfriend as atleast being Bisexual or Versatile?..if so what has been their response?
|Posted On Oct 13, 2019 - 09:10 AM|
@subs - it has little to do with being top or bottom. It's about holding your *** while having ***. If the woman excites you or at least you can excite yourself thinking about something else or by any external means (like viagra etc), you will be able to perform a penetrative *** properly in theory. But I don't think someone will be able to enjoy the *** or give his partner proper pleasure if he uses other thoughts of external means for keeping the *** because a proper orgasm (specially for women) requires efforts, more than mere penetration.
So it's as simple as that. If you're sexuality attracted towards women, you'll be able to satisfy her and if you don't feel the attraction, you won't....
And as rightly pointed out by you, it is an important part of a marriage and if the wife is not satisfied sexually, she has all the rights to end it. If she decides continues the relation, the husband would be simply lucky...
|Posted On Oct 13, 2019 - 09:41 AM|
If a man feels absolutely no attraction to women to the extent that a women's body turns you off then such people should not get married as the marriage is eventually going to fail. However if someone is turned on by women or atleast maintain a hard on indulge in lot of.foreplay and kissing and love making even if the sexual attraction is not very high such marriages have a chance of lasting. Women look for a lot of things which include how powerful her husband is in the society, the money, the family background, ability to relate beyond just in the bed, caring nature, ability to be a provider for her child so if a woman develops a deep bond of love then they are not so picky only about ***. The sad part about our society is if you dont get married it becomes a huge talking point also as you age you become a social outcast most people get busy with their family life and options for older single.men are limited. It's a lot more complicated than we imagine. All this can change only if society changes its thinking which will probably take another 40 years.
|Posted On Oct 14, 2019 - 03:50 PM|
People talk about lot many things but moral of the story is they love *** only, no relationship is real without ***
|Posted On Oct 16, 2019 - 02:45 PM|
I feel maybe there is some hope.
That excitement and eagerness of going all out and meeting someone just to hang out.. Spend some quality time... inspite of our hectic work schedules and having our own personal problems..
Thats the core of your intention... Your feelings...it cannot be explained in words..
I have done that. There were moments.. Felt maybe this could be it. But... As they say... "Enjoy it while it lasts"
At the end of the day.. Felt foolish for pouring out.
We've all been through it.
It's just how you deal with it and pick yourself up somehow.. Without even discussing it with your close friend(s) because we feel might stupid and vulnerable... Just out of fear.
It's not easy. The healing process take days.. Weeks..
Months.... Even Worse.. Never.
There are traces of certain things we see in that one person we meet along the way. That secretly nudges us from the inside and makes us take a second glance...
Wondering what just happened? .. Who was that? And why do i feel something?
No one can explain it.
Best, for what it's worth... give in to your curiosity....absorb it....allow your feelings to take over and see how it treats you.
If it's meant to be... Embrace it with an open heart and give it all you've got to make it work.
But remember one thing.... The day that guy makes you feel more at home.. More of a person than you consider yourself less of because of your own insecurities and experiences of how the world has been treating you... Then again.. Not rubbing salt to the wound ... But..If he doesn't look at you as his last available bootycall because he didn't get lucky...
Then thank your stars... Consider yourself blessed...
Possibly.... He could be someone who actually values you...wants to know you....
No matter how messed up you really are.
|Posted On Oct 17, 2019 - 03:41 PM|
I never had *** with a girl, so I think I can say that I'm gay. But many friends of mine from the community have said that before you decide onto anything, try and date a girl. Only then you'll be sure that whether you are a bisexual or gay. Having said this, on rare occasions I fantasize about having *** with a girl.
With regards to marriage, I am confident then I do not want to go down that lane. The reason is that I am not interested in having any kind of responsibility in the future; getting married, saving money, then kids, worrying about their education then their future then their marriage. No thank you, I'm that kind of a person who loves to go on solo trips, read books, cook, eat, date guys and have ***.
But yes sometimes I feel scared about being lonely forever in life. Coming out will never be an option for me because it will affect my parents more than me. I can listen to the world saying bad things on my face, behind my back. But I can't see the world saying those things to my ageing parents. They don't deserve that. I'd rather become a boy who doesn't listen to his parents.
I hope it'll be a jolly good life. Maybe when I've achieved my professional goals, I'll get into social service or become a volunteer for social causes. This will give an aim to my life at that old age for sure. Let's see what happens, yes I'm scared but excited as well.
|Posted On Oct 17, 2019 - 04:28 PM|
A sensible decision indeed.
|Posted On Oct 17, 2019 - 05:19 PM|
Alwayslusty, good thinking. Just to give another perspective -there are quite a few straight couples who have decided not to have kids
|Posted On Oct 18, 2019 - 03:07 AM|
@fifty yes there are always exceptions. But the society I come from, people are more interested in others' lives than their's. So once post marriage, everyone start going like 'khush khabri kab suna rahe ho'. Seriously man, people in general need to seriously chill.
It's not always someone's goal to get married and have kids, gay/bi/straight. These people want to have great career, earn money and travel the world, and do things impromptu.
|Posted On Oct 18, 2019 - 04:39 AM|
Alwayslusty, such questions are asked also to those who are not marrying. Laddoo kab khila rahe ho? Luckily I had to deal with very few such people. Three or four relatives, one neighbour, two colleagues. No college or school friend asked this.
|Posted On Oct 22, 2019 - 05:42 PM|
I am pure gay, was never inclined to marriage with a woman. My parents saw lot of matches but gave some excuse or the other.
|Posted On Oct 25, 2019 - 11:32 AM|
It's depend upon individual mental capacity without marriage everybody fell for *** somebody wants make permanent somebody keep temporary life goes on marriage is not easy task after struggling hard for kids you loose intrest for *** your mind w
Will be intention single guy can like free bird can do as per wish even marry gay guy too depends on you what u choose nothing wrong everybody has to die how enjoy life and die immaterial don't harm.anybody show desire for *** whome they liked you age is immaterial everybody got same *** feeling age is just number
|Posted On Oct 25, 2019 - 03:58 PM|
I like the discussion here. Am going to be 39 and not married. There is no point in getting married just to please society etc. i live with my parents and quite happy in my professional life, travel around the world twice in an year going to new places meeting new people and solo group tours etc. have few very good friends. I have very good bond with both my sisters and their family, my patents and cousins etc. I love working out, read into music as well so really dont miss out being single atleast at this juncture. Am a free soul and love to be like that atleast for a while. And society is more worried about my marriage than my family or friends.
|Posted On Oct 25, 2019 - 04:12 PM|
living life along without marriage is surely a possibility.. but can very hard after one stage in life..
|Posted On Oct 27, 2019 - 05:04 AM|
Living single after 65 is difficult.
|Posted On Oct 27, 2019 - 07:43 PM|
@ash45ash: yes agreed. But what will you do if you got married and lost your spouse at 65? What if you can't have children? What if she gets into depression her entire life... What if you end up spoiling your life, her life, her loved ones lifes... WHAT IF YOU DON'T GET MARRIED?
|Posted On Oct 27, 2019 - 07:54 PM|
Isn't marriage a curse for people in public life? How many hetrosexuals worry all their life that they can't afford a public life because they have promises to their family? Is it not an opportunity for us to fill that vacuum? Our responsibilities are limited. We can produce in that time an genuine public servant of ourselves. We can study for long hours to become great civil servants. We can travel and V log for hours on arts and world... We we have a reason and we have an option... If there is a trade war between China and US, then it is a golden period for India to succeed in trade at both US and China. Similarly if hetros have a reason call marriage to not entering into public life, it's our opportunity to get there and make a life. Live for people, live for the society, whether you are 65 or 25, the society will cry for you when you die. Focus on it cuz you are made for it. Every gay should become powerful members of this society. There you will have the power to change the world. Instead don't fail by entering into a marriage knowing that you can't fuxk a girl for ever in your life. For a bisexual it's totally a different game. I'm not taking about them. But others.. the Choice is yours!
|Posted On Oct 28, 2019 - 01:37 AM|
Shriram what if ur riding a two wheeler on Mumbai roads and your front tyre hits a pothole,you fall and is run-over by a truck? What if ur car meets with a fatal accident? What if you are crossing the road and some drunk driver knocks you dead,?what if your car catches fire and you are trapped inside?
In all the above scenarios which is very common a d happening every day,do you stop using the road or a car or a two wheeler!
|Posted On Oct 28, 2019 - 01:48 AM|
very inspirational thoughts. insted of focusing on what is not there, we should focus on what is there. single people can be the powerbank to run the country and society. marriage is a small and sometimes selfish thing which only develops a group of 3 or 4. where as public life can impact billions and sometimes whole world.
what is required is to have a partner to just be there not nesserly as a husband or wife, just enough to take care of sexual needs safely. energy can be focussed on bigger things. LGBT should not be seen as a minority seeking protection, it should be a power that protects and serves. people should be proud of them then seeing them as a pervert group. All this is need of the hour and can be an amazing way of leading a directional and meaningful life.
|Posted On Oct 28, 2019 - 03:35 AM|
Sriram, totally off track thought. If you are made for a public life, it doesn't matter whether you are gay, bi or straight, married or single. If you are advocating gay guys not to marry women, thats all right.A person who wants to do something might choose a single life, but it is not a precondition. There are enough couples , who have achieved great heights in public life.
If you are not made for public life, you cant be forced into it just because you have been forced into being single. And there are huge number of such people. They have the right to lead a life with a partner and children just like the other society. After decriminalization, the next natural step is right to marriage and children.
Loneliness is a serious issue. I am on the verge of facing it in a big way. Mind you, I am doing my bit for the society (this goes beyond taking care of parents and paying taxes etc) but it doesn't fulfill the need of waking up next to some loved one, having someone in my life with whom my soul can be naked.
|Posted On Oct 28, 2019 - 06:09 AM|
Partly agree with Shriram
Completely agree with Fifty
While it is important for everyone to contribute to society at large, marital status is not a hindrance and sexual orientation has no correlation 😣
But as I always maintain, members of LGBTQ must position themselves as responsible citizens who contribute to the well-being of society as much as others do..only this will ensure equal respect ( law can only give u equal rights)
|Posted On Oct 28, 2019 - 08:33 PM|
@fifty except for you calling me off track, I agree to you entirely and I do not disagree even a single percent on you... You have misunderstood me.. I'm not forcing anyone to do this or that, I'm just throwing to many minds that there is an angle in which you can see this so-called 'held between 2 chairs' situation and I'm trying to tell that one should go forward without hurting or being an harm for others... Which is where most of get confused.. even after knowing that you can lead really a kingly life where you can transform the society and turn out to be a demi God for the needy, one is free to choose the life they want to lead.
In the try or in the efforts that one takes to do service to the nation, you get a change where the time you get depressed turns out to become productive making your life much more meaningful... Even if you don't become a demi God, the process that you go through in your try by itself is an experience which many can never understand or get to feel. We will learn many things in the process.. more over there won't be any time left over to think about committing suicide, when you define a purpose for your life, the purpose to die doesn't arise until you achieve it. To everyone who is reading this, please don't misunderstand that I'm demeaning other choice of yours. No.. never.. you have got the right to live the way you want..
All that I feel is, there is a natural way that welcomes homosexuals, esp gays and lesbians, to lead a life for the state, for the country.. most of the politicians who were single had that as a reason for the better service that the did. Singles, really get an opportunity to see the society, state or nation in total as their family, where as the one who has family can simply utter it, as mere words, just for the sake of saying it and can't live it as easily as the other... Being in a position to serve what others deprived about is an experience.. someone is deprived of food, giving them food is an experience where you experience satisfaction of satiating one's hunger, similarly one is deprived of music, technology, jobs, peace, prosperity etc etc.. and you get to fulfill them.. may not be all.. need not be for all.. at least for 1 person whom you never even know? If you can smile at 10 strangers, passing out love and affection? If you can make some 10 people forget themselves for 5 minutes by your blissful music? If you can give jobs to 20 people on your tomorrow's startup? If you can mediate between India and pakistan for peace? If you can work on making the nation prosperous by managing it's affairs? It goes on and on... Why do we shorten our thoughts? The world is big! Sun rises everyday and everyday is an opportunity to make a change.. instead we feel deprived of unrequited love, not having a latest gadgets in hands, not able, unable, disable, cannot, not possible, sad, depressed, down.... oh my God! This mind only!!!! There are so many gifts around, so many ways to look at things.. yet we cling to negativity.. let's be happy, let's be proud of what we are with what we have.. let's spread good thoughts and make our own lifes and the life's of everyone surrounding us peaceful!
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