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Millennial singles, are you going to be married?


Submitted by Lips4hugepoles Location: All India (All India, India)

I'm not a big fan of the institution of marriage as a whole but just wondering if there are any other single guys above the age of 35 here. Where do you guys see this whole thing heading?

Particularly interested in hearing from single men from the 35+ age group. Is marriage a long term goal in your radar?

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letsfuck
Posted On Oct 12, 2019 - 10:13 AM

@fatchubbyboobs. If your comment is directed towards me then it is irrelevant, incomprehensible and ridiculous. You have not understood what I have said. Read again. Carefully. And if u don't understand then I can explain.

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subs
Posted On Oct 13, 2019 - 04:46 AM

One question i want to ask is it hard to *** and satisfy women when you are a bottom gay? If after marraige being a bottom gay you cannot satisfy your wife sexually and be the man in the relationship then it is doomed to fail..sexual satisfaction goes a long way to keep a marraige happy..

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exploreme *
Posted On Oct 13, 2019 - 04:52 AM

*** is part of marriage life. not marriage life is part of ***. itโ€™s not that much hard but the point is you need to maintain the eeection. at bed. if you can, then you can *** any hole.

when marriage life duration increases then the *** life in it decreases. when u have kids, the frequency will reduce day by day and however more bonding will b there. *** wonโ€™t stop marriage life unless both partners are *** freaks

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subs
Posted On Oct 13, 2019 - 05:02 AM

true..but lots of divorce nowadays occurs simply because partners not being sexually satisfied in marriage..
And is there anybody here who has actually come out to their wife or girlfriend as atleast being Bisexual or Versatile?..if so what has been their response?

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Debdas
Posted On Oct 13, 2019 - 09:10 AM

@subs - it has little to do with being top or bottom. It's about holding your *** while having ***. If the woman excites you or at least you can excite yourself thinking about something else or by any external means (like viagra etc), you will be able to perform a penetrative *** properly in theory. But I don't think someone will be able to enjoy the *** or give his partner proper pleasure if he uses other thoughts of external means for keeping the *** because a proper orgasm (specially for women) requires efforts, more than mere penetration.
So it's as simple as that. If you're sexuality attracted towards women, you'll be able to satisfy her and if you don't feel the attraction, you won't....
And as rightly pointed out by you, it is an important part of a marriage and if the wife is not satisfied sexually, she has all the rights to end it. If she decides continues the relation, the husband would be simply lucky...

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Exotic1234
Posted On Oct 13, 2019 - 09:41 AM

If a man feels absolutely no attraction to women to the extent that a women's body turns you off then such people should not get married as the marriage is eventually going to fail. However if someone is turned on by women or atleast maintain a hard on indulge in lot of.foreplay and kissing and love making even if the sexual attraction is not very high such marriages have a chance of lasting. Women look for a lot of things which include how powerful her husband is in the society, the money, the family background, ability to relate beyond just in the bed, caring nature, ability to be a provider for her child so if a woman develops a deep bond of love then they are not so picky only about ***. The sad part about our society is if you dont get married it becomes a huge talking point also as you age you become a social outcast most people get busy with their family life and options for older single.men are limited. It's a lot more complicated than we imagine. All this can change only if society changes its thinking which will probably take another 40 years.





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dilse4u
Posted On Oct 14, 2019 - 03:50 PM

People talk about lot many things but moral of the story is they love *** only, no relationship is real without ***

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dn38 *
Posted On Oct 16, 2019 - 02:45 PM

I feel maybe there is some hope.

That excitement and eagerness of going all out and meeting someone just to hang out.. Spend some quality time... inspite of our hectic work schedules and having our own personal problems..

Thats the core of your intention... Your feelings...it cannot be explained in words..

I have done that. There were moments.. Felt maybe this could be it. But... As they say... "Enjoy it while it lasts"

At the end of the day.. Felt foolish for pouring out.
Emotions shattered.
We've all been through it.
It's just how you deal with it and pick yourself up somehow.. Without even discussing it with your close friend(s) because we feel might stupid and vulnerable... Just out of fear.

It's not easy. The healing process take days.. Weeks..
Months.... Even Worse.. Never.

There are traces of certain things we see in that one person we meet along the way. That secretly nudges us from the inside and makes us take a second glance...
Wondering what just happened? .. Who was that? And why do i feel something?

No one can explain it.

Best, for what it's worth... give in to your curiosity....absorb it....allow your feelings to take over and see how it treats you.

If it's meant to be... Embrace it with an open heart and give it all you've got to make it work.

But remember one thing.... The day that guy makes you feel more at home.. More of a person than you consider yourself less of because of your own insecurities and experiences of how the world has been treating you... Then again.. Not rubbing salt to the wound ... But..If he doesn't look at you as his last available bootycall because he didn't get lucky...

Then thank your stars... Consider yourself blessed...

Possibly.... He could be someone who actually values you...wants to know you....

No matter how messed up you really are.

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AlwaysLusty09
Posted On Oct 17, 2019 - 03:41 PM

I never had *** with a girl, so I think I can say that I'm gay. But many friends of mine from the community have said that before you decide onto anything, try and date a girl. Only then you'll be sure that whether you are a bisexual or gay. Having said this, on rare occasions I fantasize about having *** with a girl.

With regards to marriage, I am confident then I do not want to go down that lane. The reason is that I am not interested in having any kind of responsibility in the future; getting married, saving money, then kids, worrying about their education then their future then their marriage. No thank you, I'm that kind of a person who loves to go on solo trips, read books, cook, eat, date guys and have ***.

But yes sometimes I feel scared about being lonely forever in life. Coming out will never be an option for me because it will affect my parents more than me. I can listen to the world saying bad things on my face, behind my back. But I can't see the world saying those things to my ageing parents. They don't deserve that. I'd rather become a boy who doesn't listen to his parents.

I hope it'll be a jolly good life. Maybe when I've achieved my professional goals, I'll get into social service or become a volunteer for social causes. This will give an aim to my life at that old age for sure. Let's see what happens, yes I'm scared but excited as well.

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hotrodraga
Posted On Oct 17, 2019 - 04:28 PM

A sensible decision indeed.

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fifty
Posted On Oct 17, 2019 - 05:19 PM

Alwayslusty, good thinking. Just to give another perspective -there are quite a few straight couples who have decided not to have kids

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AlwaysLusty09
Posted On Oct 18, 2019 - 03:07 AM

@fifty yes there are always exceptions. But the society I come from, people are more interested in others' lives than their's. So once post marriage, everyone start going like 'khush khabri kab suna rahe ho'. Seriously man, people in general need to seriously chill.

It's not always someone's goal to get married and have kids, gay/bi/straight. These people want to have great career, earn money and travel the world, and do things impromptu.

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fifty
Posted On Oct 18, 2019 - 04:39 AM

Alwayslusty, such questions are asked also to those who are not marrying. Laddoo kab khila rahe ho? Luckily I had to deal with very few such people. Three or four relatives, one neighbour, two colleagues. No college or school friend asked this.

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MaturedFriend4U
Posted On Oct 22, 2019 - 05:42 PM

I am pure gay, was never inclined to marriage with a woman. My parents saw lot of matches but gave some excuse or the other.

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ramsmk2011
Posted On Oct 25, 2019 - 11:32 AM

It's depend upon individual mental capacity without marriage everybody fell for *** somebody wants make permanent somebody keep temporary life goes on marriage is not easy task after struggling hard for kids you loose intrest for *** your mind w
Will be intention single guy can like free bird can do as per wish even marry gay guy too depends on you what u choose nothing wrong everybody has to die how enjoy life and die immaterial don't harm.anybody show desire for *** whome they liked you age is immaterial everybody got same *** feeling age is just number

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VDD
Posted On Oct 25, 2019 - 03:58 PM

I like the discussion here. Am going to be 39 and not married. There is no point in getting married just to please society etc. i live with my parents and quite happy in my professional life, travel around the world twice in an year going to new places meeting new people and solo group tours etc. have few very good friends. I have very good bond with both my sisters and their family, my patents and cousins etc. I love working out, read into music as well so really dont miss out being single atleast at this juncture. Am a free soul and love to be like that atleast for a while. And society is more worried about my marriage than my family or friends.

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bimale_2019
Posted On Oct 25, 2019 - 04:12 PM

living life along without marriage is surely a possibility.. but can very hard after one stage in life..

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ash45ash
Posted On Oct 27, 2019 - 05:04 AM

Living single after 65 is difficult.

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Shriram
Posted On Oct 27, 2019 - 07:43 PM

@ash45ash: yes agreed. But what will you do if you got married and lost your spouse at 65? What if you can't have children? What if she gets into depression her entire life... What if you end up spoiling your life, her life, her loved ones lifes... WHAT IF YOU DON'T GET MARRIED?

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Shriram
Posted On Oct 27, 2019 - 07:54 PM

Isn't marriage a curse for people in public life? How many hetrosexuals worry all their life that they can't afford a public life because they have promises to their family? Is it not an opportunity for us to fill that vacuum? Our responsibilities are limited. We can produce in that time an genuine public servant of ourselves. We can study for long hours to become great civil servants. We can travel and V log for hours on arts and world... We we have a reason and we have an option... If there is a trade war between China and US, then it is a golden period for India to succeed in trade at both US and China. Similarly if hetros have a reason call marriage to not entering into public life, it's our opportunity to get there and make a life. Live for people, live for the society, whether you are 65 or 25, the society will cry for you when you die. Focus on it cuz you are made for it. Every gay should become powerful members of this society. There you will have the power to change the world. Instead don't fail by entering into a marriage knowing that you can't fuxk a girl for ever in your life. For a bisexual it's totally a different game. I'm not taking about them. But others.. the Choice is yours!

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bisxxdman
Posted On Oct 28, 2019 - 01:37 AM

Shriram what if ur riding a two wheeler on Mumbai roads and your front tyre hits a pothole,you fall and is run-over by a truck? What if ur car meets with a fatal accident? What if you are crossing the road and some drunk driver knocks you dead,?what if your car catches fire and you are trapped inside?
In all the above scenarios which is very common a d happening every day,do you stop using the road or a car or a two wheeler!

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kundi11
Posted On Oct 28, 2019 - 01:48 AM

@shriram

very inspirational thoughts. insted of focusing on what is not there, we should focus on what is there. single people can be the powerbank to run the country and society. marriage is a small and sometimes selfish thing which only develops a group of 3 or 4. where as public life can impact billions and sometimes whole world.

what is required is to have a partner to just be there not nesserly as a husband or wife, just enough to take care of sexual needs safely. energy can be focussed on bigger things. LGBT should not be seen as a minority seeking protection, it should be a power that protects and serves. people should be proud of them then seeing them as a pervert group. All this is need of the hour and can be an amazing way of leading a directional and meaningful life.

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fifty
Posted On Oct 28, 2019 - 03:35 AM

Sriram, totally off track thought. If you are made for a public life, it doesn't matter whether you are gay, bi or straight, married or single. If you are advocating gay guys not to marry women, thats all right.A person who wants to do something might choose a single life, but it is not a precondition. There are enough couples , who have achieved great heights in public life.
If you are not made for public life, you cant be forced into it just because you have been forced into being single. And there are huge number of such people. They have the right to lead a life with a partner and children just like the other society. After decriminalization, the next natural step is right to marriage and children.

Loneliness is a serious issue. I am on the verge of facing it in a big way. Mind you, I am doing my bit for the society (this goes beyond taking care of parents and paying taxes etc) but it doesn't fulfill the need of waking up next to some loved one, having someone in my life with whom my soul can be naked.

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chembur
Posted On Oct 28, 2019 - 06:09 AM

Partly agree with Shriram
Completely agree with Fifty

While it is important for everyone to contribute to society at large, marital status is not a hindrance and sexual orientation has no correlation ๐Ÿ˜ฃ

But as I always maintain, members of LGBTQ must position themselves as responsible citizens who contribute to the well-being of society as much as others do..only this will ensure equal respect ( law can only give u equal rights)


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Shriram
Posted On Oct 28, 2019 - 08:33 PM

@fifty except for you calling me off track, I agree to you entirely and I do not disagree even a single percent on you... You have misunderstood me.. I'm not forcing anyone to do this or that, I'm just throwing to many minds that there is an angle in which you can see this so-called 'held between 2 chairs' situation and I'm trying to tell that one should go forward without hurting or being an harm for others... Which is where most of get confused.. even after knowing that you can lead really a kingly life where you can transform the society and turn out to be a demi God for the needy, one is free to choose the life they want to lead.
In the try or in the efforts that one takes to do service to the nation, you get a change where the time you get depressed turns out to become productive making your life much more meaningful... Even if you don't become a demi God, the process that you go through in your try by itself is an experience which many can never understand or get to feel. We will learn many things in the process.. more over there won't be any time left over to think about committing suicide, when you define a purpose for your life, the purpose to die doesn't arise until you achieve it. To everyone who is reading this, please don't misunderstand that I'm demeaning other choice of yours. No.. never.. you have got the right to live the way you want..
All that I feel is, there is a natural way that welcomes homosexuals, esp gays and lesbians, to lead a life for the state, for the country.. most of the politicians who were single had that as a reason for the better service that the did. Singles, really get an opportunity to see the society, state or nation in total as their family, where as the one who has family can simply utter it, as mere words, just for the sake of saying it and can't live it as easily as the other... Being in a position to serve what others deprived about is an experience.. someone is deprived of food, giving them food is an experience where you experience satisfaction of satiating one's hunger, similarly one is deprived of music, technology, jobs, peace, prosperity etc etc.. and you get to fulfill them.. may not be all.. need not be for all.. at least for 1 person whom you never even know? If you can smile at 10 strangers, passing out love and affection? If you can make some 10 people forget themselves for 5 minutes by your blissful music? If you can give jobs to 20 people on your tomorrow's startup? If you can mediate between India and pakistan for peace? If you can work on making the nation prosperous by managing it's affairs? It goes on and on... Why do we shorten our thoughts? The world is big! Sun rises everyday and everyday is an opportunity to make a change.. instead we feel deprived of unrequited love, not having a latest gadgets in hands, not able, unable, disable, cannot, not possible, sad, depressed, down.... oh my God! This mind only!!!! There are so many gifts around, so many ways to look at things.. yet we cling to negativity.. let's be happy, let's be proud of what we are with what we have.. let's spread good thoughts and make our own lifes and the life's of everyone surrounding us peaceful!

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Darkstarchild
Posted On Nov 24, 2019 - 01:56 PM

marriage? I'm happy If i can get someone to just finish a board game

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AD2405
Posted On Nov 24, 2019 - 02:54 PM

It's been just an year since *** between two consenting adults of same gender has been decriminalized. And we are already talking about GAY MARRIAGES ? a bit early isn't it ?

Don't forget, India is a country where even intercaste marriages are considered taboo. Indian society has a lot of growing up to do. But it won't happen because the policy makers of this country doesn't want it to happen.

Now .. let's introspect a little. Just look at the most basic, common sense stuff that is needed for a long term relationship or marriage. Open your grindrs/PRs/blueds and tell me how many people use it to ACTIVELY search for a lifetime partner.

Chalo chhodo, just tell me how many gay or lesbian couples you know who are in a committed monogamous relationship for more than 5 years. I don't think l need to answer that question. You know it very well.

The marriage we all have seen very closely is of our parents. You think they were PERFECT for each other from the very first day ? No !!! The reason of their long lasting relationship is a lot of compromise, adjustments, understanding and willingness to make the marriage work. And this is socially accepted, approved and publically celebrated relationship !

Gay relationship is obviously infinitely more difficult to carry out in comparison to a straight relationship. The society obviously doesn't accept it, but we ourselves have so unrealistic expectations from our relationships they end up not working for us.

There is a damn good reason why LGBT+ people are more vulnerable to loneliness and depression and being more prone to suicidal ideation. And it's just not "society's inacceptance" but our own unwillingness to accept everybody.

Now I'm gonna vent out my own frustration. But I'm sure a lot of people who read this post are gonna relate to it somehow. Yes, it's a fact that I'm fat, and yes it's again a fact that maybe I'm not well endowed as one would perceive. But that doesn't mean that I'm not worthy of even SOME attention as a human being . The least i expect from anyone is to be open minded, and be able to hold a conversation. But I still get rejected just on basis of my *** size and body shape. Or I'm expected to play a passive role, which i simply can't do because i dont derive any pleasure from that.

Is it too much to ask for ?





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sandynaveen
Posted On Nov 25, 2019 - 06:09 AM

@AD2405
Well said / explained

I remember a Gridr posting
22 years old guy
" Looking for well settled, Rich ,only very good looking guy for committment. He shd spend for me a lot. Others dont disturb"

Lol for a day

V all have to accept a basic facts that There wont be acceptense even within community and outside
Nothing will work out well in India as our society set up s completely differs
Self acceptance is much questioned

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Tasty8Lollipop
Posted On Nov 25, 2019 - 07:41 AM

I'm bisexual and have tried being in relationship with a guy but couldn't as I get pretty bored easily. Someone may suggest I try out for other more compatible partners but maybe my blood is still young and wild to explore more and more adventures. One of my exes suddenly wanted me to settle down with him in America and after that I realized that thing scared me the most in life having to spend the rest of life solely with another guy. Having said so I have always had this dream to marry a girl and have kids as I'm so fond of kids I could go on holding babies for days I've done it for my sister's baby. Expressing my fondness for kids does not mean I'm inscribing my own selfish interests on a girl to give me my miniature version because in this modern era there are so many other options without imposing this obligation on your partner I mean who am I and what rights do I have to expect my partner as some sort of baby machine (that's a pure classic case of patriarchy)

*One, I've always been passionate about adoption. I'm an optimistic person but I'm not an immatured delusional kid. I was since then so inspired by this 26 year old Nagpur bachelor who became the first single guy in India to adopt a kid. Imagine giving all your love to someone who's been abandoned by the world without keeping any selfish expectation in return, would that be the most gratifying moments in life. Now do I sound like I'm giving sermon but trust me it's my dream. Whether or not I bear my own kids married or not I'm one day going to fulfill this dream of mine

*Second, there are many options of surrogacy, test tube babies and so forth. By any chance I end up single I'll at least fulfil one of my mother's wishes as she stresses on the importance of maintaining your lineage through sustenance of offsprings. That may sound a bit obnoxious to others although it's typical of all Indian families but the smile and joy on my parent's face when they see their grandkids it's the same feeling I get when I make them proud by accomplishing gold medals in university

*Third, today I've come to the realization relationship is not about boy or girl boy or boy girl or girl trans so on. It's about sharing a common dream and creating a new invincible bond. I've always wanted to have a traditional wedding dream destination wedding not fancy ones shown in Bollywood infact I plan to do all the decors myself imagine. So for me it's about coming into union with the person who shares the same dream. I mean I have lots of female friends who say that they don't want to bear kids for the first five years after marriage. But there are people who are passionate about motherhood and no that doesn't make them a docile woman she can be strong independent financially successful but she can equally be passionate about motherhood the same way I'm passionate about fatherhood. Again this is only one of the many possibilities if I can share this kind of life with another guy I'm up for it

So many people here have shared their anxiety and societal woes but I say age is just a number. I believe we should give ourselves enough time to explore endless possibilities in life make yourself so strong independent invincible that you don't have to depend on someone else not even your family is there any guarantee our dependence on them is secured forever. Thus keep exploring and not letting ourself trapped to a constricted idea of devoting to one person. I'm not against monogamy but I feel we need to explore ups and downs with diverse people ofcourse with caution to learn and unlearn as you filter yourself to understand your own self much better before settling down in life. I've worked in call centres have done social work in university have worked in NGOs have worked in corporates now doing PhD and is taking up modelling singing and showbiz to become an influencer as well as I've started with my own YouTube vlogging. All of these have been instrumental in defining me who I'm now in being the better version of myself. Similarly I think we should explore these multiple possibilities in sexuality relationship romance and all. Initially I used to feel guilty because I was charged for being this unfaithful ruthless kids but today I want to tell those people who are they to enforce such moral obligations and such expectations on my shoulder and even if they are comparing me to sluts street prostitutes aren't they humans too if we say we deserve dignity for our sexual orientation don't they deserve equal respect for us. I've always been honest about my approach and never ever try to be deceptive to break someone heart just to gain monetary benefits or use people. I've always been honest to myself and to people that I wanna be young nomad now career focussed passion for fame and image building independent. So maybe I'm still playing the role of rolling stone that gathers no moss but there are so much to life beyond being gay straight bisexual monogamous and so on. Just because I have dreams and ambitions does not mean I've destroyed that humane side in me. I know once I'm financially independent I'll adopt a kid to whom I can see a part of my reflection. It does not matter whether I'm going to be single asexual partnered or married.. I have so much of love inside me ready to give to somebody else Even though I happen to meet someone I plan to settle down with or get married I'm going to fulfill this dream of adoption. I know it's not easy many of my friends are earning me not to but whatever the consequences if im truthful to my own conviction why not give it my full heart

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masterbot
Posted On Nov 25, 2019 - 07:54 AM

@tasty you should definitely look into polyamory... That's my goal too ...

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BoobyBear
Posted On Nov 25, 2019 - 04:23 PM

Tasty8Lollipop, I think you a very beautiful heart. The words just do magic with your beautiful thoughts. Very well expressed. I wish you all good luck! :-)

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Valentine1984
Posted On Nov 25, 2019 - 07:52 PM

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BoobyBear
Posted On Nov 26, 2019 - 01:22 AM

Tasty8Lollipop, judging a person is very easy. Understanding the circumstances and situations is very important. You took time to express your thoughts and that makes you honest about your feelings and yourself. Being honest is very courageous. There is nothing shame in sharing your thoughts, especially when you belong to a spectrum of rainbow. :-)

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Doriangray666
Posted On Nov 26, 2019 - 03:40 AM

I'm 29 living in Bangalore. I'm quite worried about my future being single and living alone. I'm not able to find good friend or partner. Once I get old I'll be out of this gay scene also like everyone else, with young guys rejecting us ๐Ÿ˜ž๐Ÿ˜ž๐Ÿ˜ž๐Ÿ˜ž. Have to find something substantial

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Doriangray666
Posted On Nov 26, 2019 - 03:41 AM

Even if we find someone compatible to be Friend, they will be having other friends and plans. We don't get what we wish for

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Unimate *
Posted On Nov 26, 2019 - 04:32 AM

@dorian, i don't know about your orientation as it's not specified in your profile. So i am gonna assume that you are bi (safe side), then what is the reason to worry about . You are just 29 and it's a matter of time before you get married and thus you wouldn't be alone. But everyone does die alone ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿคญ.
IF (big IF) you are gay, then you will have to make a stand about your life and your future. There are lots of threads and thoughts shared by wonderful people, read those and see if it works. You will someone for you but you need to be sure if you can make it work. It requires a lot patience and perseverance to.make it work (even hetero marriages do).
The problem is with ourselves. We have been given with too many choices to choose and that makes us keep looking for better and better. This is a never ending game of choosing. It's good to have expectations but too.kuch into this will only cause more pain for you. You will always keep finding another better person in your life but many don't realise this and keep thinking this life is for eternity. It isn't!!!

So crux of the story is dont keep hopping and find that person and stick to him. Don't keep seeking more and more , there is never an end to this.

Life in a heterogeneous relationship can also get boring. It's all upto how we lead it. I have known many of my married friends who say that they are bored of the monotony in life just 2years into it. That's life!!

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BoobyBear
Posted On Nov 26, 2019 - 05:27 PM

Doriangray666, we come in this world alone and we leave alone this world. Never be scared of being alone. Make a habit of solo traveler, you will not feel alone and you will enjoy your life. :-)

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tvmman
Posted On Nov 27, 2019 - 10:39 AM

@boobybear totally agree with u , getting married with girl r committed to guy is not going to help , u need to complete ur read the book which u started , i didn't say that every one should stay alone , but don't be scared of staying alone have ur own rules(which should never bother others) n enjoy the world

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exploreme *
Posted On Nov 27, 2019 - 10:42 AM

Marriage is one of big commitment where both needs to sacrifies their own interest incase if itโ€™s required to give up. and itโ€™s a joy of togetherness if understanding goes smooth and share happiness, tough period, sad moment in equal way. The life will just continue like this till the end, plan-compromise-execute-adjust.

And this will give you your own world with set of defined rules where you may need to give up what you loved if your partner hates. For example, i wish to have my home clean and wiped before 6am and i should finish my pooja by 9am. this i was following it up before marriage. After marriage, maid itself will come by 9am. and my wife or me donโ€™t wipe or clean bcz we are not habituated. so there the first change will start. Like this small minute changes will make your life direction different.

Incase if you are not getting married, you can form your own world again with your own rule and with few known friends and if there is a incompatibility just unplug yourself and move on and extend your wings.

So i feel, marriage is suitable for who can able to adjust and who are ok to drink coffee in same tumbler with great sentiments ๐Ÿ˜œ

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MatureGuy
Posted On Nov 27, 2019 - 11:53 AM

U r just 29. Why the morbid thoughts of loneliness at this age. Enjoy your time now. Cross the bridge when u come 2 it. I'm 56, never married and still living a decent life. Chin up and live today.

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MatureGuy
Posted On Nov 27, 2019 - 11:55 AM

Sorry. My post was 4 Dorian

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BoobyBear
Posted On Nov 27, 2019 - 02:17 PM

Mature Guy, I agree with you. We have family and friends around always. I don't feel any worries being alone. I m used to it now Infact i enjoy being solo :P

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Dirtyboii
Posted On Nov 28, 2019 - 06:21 PM

Guess we are conditioned to think marriages help battle loneliness and that people who remain unmarried live a lonely miserable life. But it isn't essentially true.

Sadly queer relationships fail more often than heterosexual relationships do, due to a number of reasons! Lack of social acceptance is one of them. Gay couples, in the middle and lower middle classes, most often need to face a lot of pressure - families, the society, acquaintances, etc.

Also the changing times have in any case placed enormous pressure on couples (queer or straight) to have and fulfil 'couple goals', 'relationship goals' which are often quite ridiculous!

So marriage/ relationship is a lot of work and one needs to be a lot strong to make it work.

Also personally, I have been so much harrowed and bugged about marriage that I do not think I would marry a man even if it gets legal recognition!

Beyond everything, marriage isn't a cure to loneliness and we need to understand that! If you can't be happy when you are alone, all by yourself, sorry you won't be content with another person too!



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fifty
Posted On Nov 30, 2019 - 03:59 AM

Read a news about Kerala's first openly gay married couple - Nikesh Usha Pushkaran and Sonu MS.

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NeedTOP4me
Posted On Nov 30, 2019 - 10:39 AM

@ fifty itโ€™s very nice to see the couple Nikesh and Sonu . Blessed are those who get the soulmate for life

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Lazyguy007
Posted On Nov 30, 2019 - 04:20 PM

Chennai Yesu Raja and Satish also a gay couple. I met Yesu Raja once. He is a nice guy

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Guideme
Posted On Dec 1, 2019 - 05:02 AM

@Dirtyboii : If you can't be happy when you are alone, all by yourself, sorry you won't be content with another person too!

You won my observation bro... I now feel like having a good conversation over coffee with you bruh!!!

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Guideme
Posted On Dec 1, 2019 - 05:03 AM

@Lazyguy007 : R u serious? Yesu Raja?

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fifty
Posted On Dec 2, 2019 - 02:18 PM

Hotel Lalit (owned by Lalit Suri who is a petitioner in 377 case) shared a photo of a gay wedding that took place today.

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