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Being bottom is it ok to like getting dominated?

Submitted by suryanmy Location: All India (All India, India)

I am a gay bottom and always like to get dominated, abused by tops, it kind of excites me. I am not sure is it fine and common.

I always meet guys who are more dominate. are all other bottoms feel same..

Do share your thoughts and experiences

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Posted On Nov 23, 2018 - 03:51 AM

Don't worry.. you're not the only one. Many bottoms find a dominating man a massive turn on.
Everyone has their own kink/fetish.

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Posted On Nov 23, 2018 - 04:13 AM

True that Androgynous17 most bottoms have a submissive and servitude fetish and enjoy being dominated. You're a lucky guy Suryanmy not many are as lucky as you.

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Posted On Nov 23, 2018 - 07:30 AM

True. I just feel like giving myself away for their use. being used and dominated gives immense pleasure and its completely fine.

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Posted On Nov 23, 2018 - 08:44 AM

Yes being dominated excited us to play more.

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Posted On Nov 23, 2018 - 12:19 PM

I like tops who are confident. Basically the guy needs to know his craft. Nd that is to *** well. Squeamish and fussy tops kind of turn me off. I dont really enjoy being dominated much. Just the guy needs to be manly and confident.

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Posted On Nov 23, 2018 - 01:13 PM

Dominating means not rough and tough.. Your tool must be dominated.. Begging bottoms to *** more and making women coming out of them...

Best domination is if you *** a guy and he gets prostate orgasm and cumming without touching you are the best dominant in top...

Other humiliations not making you happy and not humanity

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Posted On Nov 23, 2018 - 02:00 PM

No problem unless and until bottoms done get confused and hypocritical at some times..(sorry for this heavy word, but this is the closest word i can recollect )

Tops/straight are mostly same minded, and thinking frequency..
For a top, a bottom who begs and deliberately asks to abuse him both physically and verbally, is nothing short of a whore..
Infact many bottom guys loves themselves to be called as a whore..
A top also enjoys it , and it gets over then and there.. Both top and bottom enjoyed and got what they wanted.. Period..

But demanding respect from top apart from ***, complaining that tops are very selfish, egoistic, dominative and what not.. I have seen such threads in this forum itself..

Bottoms just need to be clear in what they want.. If they demand respect then dont beg and demand for abuses..
If you like to be dominated, and being abused, then dont demand respect.. And dont confuse the tops too..

Well, I have a curious question..
If any bottom could clear my curiosity it would be great..
Every human demands respect..In particular every women demands respect and to be treated well..
No girl wants to be abused/ill treated..

Then, why does only bottom guys, who identify themselves with woman hood(not all, ihave seen very very self esteemed bottom guys as well) love being dominated and abused..
WAts teh pshycology behind this?
Can anybody clarify?

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Posted On Nov 23, 2018 - 02:18 PM

Yes,we like to be dominated.. especially if more than one top is there

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Posted On Nov 23, 2018 - 02:49 PM

It shouldn't be generalized, and particularly when talking about sexual activities, it is a private and intimate encounter between two individuals, so it is more of a 'to each his own' kind of a thing. But I'm sure that there might be a lot of guys who like being dominated and it might be a big turn on for them. It is even applicable to the heterosexual population, as in there might be straight men too who like to be dominated by their women partners, so it is more of a personal thing rather than a universal phenomenon.

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Posted On Nov 23, 2018 - 03:06 PM

I agree with @jimmy56,

Sexual pleasure is again a spectrum of what makes you pleasurable and orgasmic. This is just not restricted to bottoms. It exist in every gender. The definition of pleasure changes with person to person and purely depends on what you enjoy most (Including extreme BDSM).
Dominating Top is just one fetish which makes few bottoms enjoy most and feels orgasmic. Some bottoms may not like it at all.

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Posted On Nov 24, 2018 - 02:07 PM

@ReallyGood i agree with you .dominant doesnt mean rough tall muscular man only.. he needs to be dominant in bed in his act, who gives you the utmost pleasure takes you to orgasm without even touching. these tops are best one.

@Aarif2018 i completely agree with you. bottoms who likes to be abused and treated like a ragdoll and then complain that guy doesnt repsect him. so be clear what you want.. if want to be treated like a cheap whore then its fine.. its upto you.

i like to be respected but that doesnt mean i dont like to be dominated, for me dominated doesnt comes from getting abused by your top partner. For me domination is when he takes command of the act, when he orders you around, when he talks kinky stuffs to you, he talks those erotic talks to you, where he knows his act so well that you are willing to give it all to him and both get utmost pleasure.. pleasure.. pleasure....

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Posted On Nov 24, 2018 - 06:22 PM


Guess what, i have seen bottoms who like to be abused at the level, beyond our imagination.. It goes so weird that, I often loose interest on them..

Stuffs like holding hard and riding the bottom on bed is fine..
But there are some bottoms who in the name of kinky stuffs go beyond imagination..
Some of the stuffs i have encountered like,
bottom asking me to scold him very very badly.. not only that, he wants me to scold his mom, and sister very very badly..
he wants me to f**k his mom and he says he will enjoy it..
wtf???? come on.. seriously, is it called fun??
not just one or two, quite handful of the bottoms i have encountered have this kind of interest.

some say they even want to drink my p**s and eat f****s.. yuck!!!
i wonder how could i kiss those lips which have probably eaten so many person fea**s..

And some wants them to get beaten badly and physically getting abused..

I wil tell one secret to botttoms here..,
We tops love to ride, control and handle an adamant horse rather than riding an already submissive one.. hope you get the point..

All i want tell my bottom frnds is, there is nothing greater than a person than his own self esteem..
Dont sell your self esteem and particularly your moms/sisters/wifes self esteem to tops/striaghts for few minutes of lust..
You may have right to lower your self esteem but definitely you dont have right to lower the self esteem of your beloved ones..

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Posted On Nov 24, 2018 - 07:19 PM

Ohhhh ..I love getting dominated to lowest...like being treated as a dog for my top partner....let him use body,***,***, nipples as he wishes....tops usually love it ...when I just follow whatever they order me to do....be it drinking their ***, ***...licking their ***... cleaning their undies, bathroom,bed,room....they look so cute after unloading their *** in my *** and just grab my face and putting their *** deep in my *** and moaning loudly....I love squeezing their ***

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Posted On Nov 25, 2018 - 02:42 AM

@Aarif2018.... true i cant even think of it how a person (bottom) can act in such a horrible manner, i mean talking *** about your family? getting beaten up? drink p*** i mean what the *** is wrong with you.. see too many profile of bottoms here have a name like Ra***, whore , etcc seriously? Gosh!
and for me top or bottom or vers is just a positon/ place where you the ultimate satisfaction in the act.. and people need to undrstand whats the difference between being dominated and being degraded and lose that respect even in your own eyes...

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Posted On Nov 25, 2018 - 04:03 AM

It's a true turn on,, whether you are straight, bi, top, bottom or both. This the fetish that takes you to top most feel of orgasm, where both feel the true satisfaction. There never comes any disparity being bottom or top.

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Posted On Nov 25, 2018 - 04:09 AM

*** play is a very normal thing for kik friendly people. Scat play isn't common but not exactly unknown. So @kinkbud and @Aarif2018 can stop judging bottoms who want to play it. If you are not okay with it or is not your thing, respectfully say so.

People like you are the same kinds who have looked down up-on gays and bisexuals. Because those people found it yuck.

I don't want to get into subs asking you to abuse their mothers, etc. That has a lot of moral conversations around it. But BDSM, *** play, etc. doesn't mean the bottom has no self-respect.

I like being dominated and I like *** play. I like being told to do things. I like being abused occassionally. It turns me on. Has got nothing to do with self-respect. But I decide who gets to do it. It's MY choice, not yours @kinkbud and @Aarif2018. Grow up and accept consensual relationships & activities. Else, you are as similar to homophobic people around.

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Posted On Nov 25, 2018 - 05:19 AM

@mumalesub very articulately written. Kinks and morals are an individual choice. Healthy open communication should clear what is ok and what is not, If the top is uncomfortable he should say so and if required a middle ground found. Bitching about it and behaving homophobic is what has given society confusing and conflicting directions. To each his own live and let live, simply enjoy life guys. Do what you want to do and be happy.

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Posted On Nov 25, 2018 - 01:44 PM

No *** ways would I let a hole plugger dominate me..
It is sad to see bottoms who fancy domination spread a notion about the so called carnal passivity while other bottoms are then prejudiced.

I am sure this passive bottoms end becoming cucks while the dominant ones are the biggest losers of life.

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Posted On Nov 25, 2018 - 01:49 PM

What kind of *** logic is that - if a guy likes certain things in bed, you get the licence to abuse n disrespect him 24x7?

Digest this. He is as much of a man as you are. And if you feel he is inferior, guess what, you yourself are inferior to all the straight men by the same token. Would you enjoy being disrespected for that? I guess such guys live their whole life in denial n illusions. Kudos to all the gay bottoms who have the guts to be who they really are, even at the expense of being ridiculed or mistreated by their partners. If you are having *** or are engaged in any sort of a relationship with a person, you are supposed to support them, compliment them in whatever department tgat they may be lacking in, taking care of him; not hurting him, abusing him, ridiculing him, n not 'neechaa dikhawing' at every oppurtunity.

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Posted On Nov 26, 2018 - 12:48 AM

Just because We have small or medium d***s should We be bottom getting dominated

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Posted On Nov 26, 2018 - 06:58 AM

Yes! I love to be dominated. A dom doesn't need to be strong or muscular. They have to be confident about *** the resistance left in a bottom. If we say no, f.uck our brains out till we scream for more.

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Posted On Nov 26, 2018 - 07:05 AM

@pundairegan - actually that is exactly my instinct. I see *** Size as the determinant for me feeling gay. If my top has a massive *** and a dominating personality, I just wilt.

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Posted On Nov 26, 2018 - 08:35 AM

It is OK to like being dominated as a bottom by your top partner. But it gets irritaring when some of the tops start making this a general behaviour for all bottom. They come around abusing even other bots for no reason. Not everybody likes it

To each his own, guys. U have to communicate as to what you would like clearly. It is best not just to assume and act.

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Posted On Nov 26, 2018 - 06:11 PM

I like being dominated. One tym my top *** me opening my panty very quickly. It was awesome

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Posted On Nov 27, 2018 - 04:59 AM

Likes toward domination come with time.. Initially we all like to have normal ***... Regular fucks...With time we like to have something new from regular ***..then comes domination from tops...We become more and more submissive..We desire hardcore rough ***....And belive me it gives immense pleasure to bottoms

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Posted On Nov 27, 2018 - 02:59 PM

Due to unacceptable of gay LGBT relationship polygamy and non sense behaviour is happening ....to getrecognition to LGBT sexuality we should work towards it and should not be involved in non sense behaviour

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Posted On Nov 28, 2018 - 02:59 PM

Being bottom is a honest feeling and you are submitting your body, feelings, love , trust to your partner and you expect the pure love from your partner . Being bottom is just giving your soul to your partner to make the relationship more memorable and enjoyable. Tops should take care of his partner,s feelings and should give true love to the bottom partner.

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Posted On Nov 28, 2018 - 05:07 PM

Hi. Its not like that. Its all our think

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Posted On Dec 1, 2018 - 04:59 AM

Many bottom like domination. For me it is more as i find top on street aftr crossdressing . They generally are truck drivers or low class people. For them *** is quick wild *** . No respect and good behaviour . They are already loaded with *** . They want hole to fill them wth *** at cheap price. So for me 90% of the time it is domination from them . Bad word is most common. Many time thy cl me by name of their gf or wife . Quick hard deep pentration is common as they in hurry to empty their load . Weird things like holding tight sometimes chocking you or ur *** . Somtime pressing very hard *** or any body part. Many weird thngs. But it is ok as they are TOPS . We bottoms need them . So satisfying them in the way they like makes us satify the inner women . So stop all nonsense takes of self respect and bla bla . If u care so much of self respect then be home and be straight and live a family life .

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Posted On Dec 4, 2018 - 02:53 PM

I don't know much about this as I am not a submissive bottom..I put my conditions..But one thing not found in discussion..many Tops think that bottoms do not do *** with their wives and are incapable of satisfying their wives..they offer to saisfy wife of a bottom..perhaps seeking female by searching bottom gay..Do bottoms really offer their wives to bi sexual Tops ? And are wives of bottoms likely to go with such tops for their sexual needs? cuckolding amongst bottoms...

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Posted On Dec 4, 2018 - 04:07 PM

@Man2please Cuckold and bottom is different unfortunately here everyone see both as same...

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Posted On Dec 6, 2018 - 03:49 PM

I think yes, it is common not only for bottom, but for many men and women (straight or gay). The 50 shades saga was successful because of this very reason. I myself like getting dominated in bed. My hands pinned over my head while my top ravishes me in anyway he likes.

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Posted On Dec 10, 2018 - 03:26 PM

Am pure bottom, i strongly believe that my man should be able to overpower me and make me do things. A man who will use someone who wants to satisfy himself, not me..

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Posted On Dec 11, 2018 - 05:39 PM

It varies from person to person, I personally get turned on at the thought of getting dominated by someone. I have been in d/s relationship for a brief moment and I liked it, it wasn't too much intense but it was still pleasurable.

To everyone its own kinks and fetishes, so nothing wrong with that at all. Cheers! :)

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Posted On Dec 11, 2018 - 08:49 PM

Being a bottom, I want my partner to be agressive and dominate me on bed, he should force me on bed..and play with my body as he want..I wanted him to bite my nipples and press my boobs as hard as possible, slap on my ***..and *** my *** even I opposes it due to pain..

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Posted On Dec 12, 2018 - 03:30 AM

I want my partner who would force me like ***

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Posted On Dec 12, 2018 - 09:58 AM

Anyone wanna *** me today