Just a thought...
Now since being gay is okay and things have been legalized, do you guys think, men can get into love affairs and serious relationships?
Ofcourse, *** is a prime factor for many over here. But being gay is not just ***.
Let's start sharing our stories.. nothing related to ***. Just love, marriage and relationship tales.
How good it feels to be in love? How difficult and different it is to be in relationship? Do guys really like to get committed to their partners and remain loyal?
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|Posted On Oct 19, 2018 - 08:24 PM|
I'm not in love with 1 guy. But when i engage in a date with someone, for that session I make sure I'm in love with the person, the feeling of touch n the intimacy. Basically just a passionate *** seeker who likes romancing. The whole 377 thing has made me just feel safer. I used to think I'll get conned n always paranoid. It's lesser now
|Posted On Oct 19, 2018 - 09:37 PM|
Very nice thread. I would like to share my thoughts on this. Well I have never been in a relationship or love before & I'm here for that only.
You very well said that "Gay is not just ***". Its much much more than that. Like straight ones gays also wanna do same stuffs but with men. But in maximum cases it don't happen so.There are very rare instances that two men are in a relation & they continue it with longer time or have life partner.
I have known one person who was a gay & he got his life partner & is well settled but not in India.He settled abroad to remain away from homophobic atmosphere & off course so called relatives!!. His family also accepted the relation very easily.But this is not with all as the ratio is very low. M too searching for a right man but what I see everywhere is people very scared of men to men relations. They really want to but due to social stigma not able to.
I had a very close example where this person wanted man as his life partner & he got so also . They remained in relation for a long time.But the other guy was Bisexual & he left this guy after getting a woman.Many of the gays face this problem & left heartbroken. Its quite though to handle.
As of now Section 377 is removed people should start thinking in advance about the future. Slowly we should start taking our relations seriously & give a effort to continue them. Its not just that being gay means just only to sleep with another guy & remain single for whole life or marry a lady forcefully & later regret for it. We should take a step ahead & start giving gay relations a chance & importance. So that gay men can start their family & lead a normal life. This will reduce the insecurity which many guys face due to meeting unknown person everytime for getting physically satisfied. Gay men will also be able to enjoy with love, trust, compatibility.And have a better half in every aspect of life. If such families & relations will start in the society then people will also see gays from a good angle rather than thinking bad about them.
I really hope that if such happens then it will heaven for gays to live no matter if someone doesn't accept you because if one has life partner in one's life then many things become easier & lighter to handle from the outside world. Well its my common point of view for gays as well as lesbians.
Thank you & sorry if I have diverted from the topic but this is what I wanted to share with everybody.!!!
|Posted On Oct 20, 2018 - 02:57 AM|
Very nice thread.. for me section 377 too late ..Am already at age nearing 40... finding a guy and settling down is near impossible..
I really want to support any one who want any help..
Because this whole double life is killing me already.. I don’t want anyone to suffer..
|Posted On Oct 20, 2018 - 05:12 AM|
age is no .. you can find ur man at any age ..
|Posted On Oct 20, 2018 - 06:48 AM|
Is there any old man to who wants life partner?
|Posted On Oct 20, 2018 - 07:38 AM|
Being in a relationship is the best thing that can happen. But. But.. it does take a lot of commitment. Especially for gay men, the issues are many. Most gay men are married and leading a dual life- with their family at home and with their gay partners outside. So the stress of managing 2 relationships is difficult and can be challenging. The other issue is the easy availability of other men. This makes being monogamus and true to one man very difficult and takes a lot of commitment. Invariably one finds another man more attractive and the relationship goes for a toss. I have personally faced this issue. After being in a relationship for 15 years, I started getting attracted to other men, though my boyfriend remained loyal. He knew about some of my encounters and it used to disturb him a lot. Finally about a year back we had a discussion and decided to have an open relationship. Now we are more comfortable with each other. He is free to see other men and so am I.
The bottom line is that we have decided to live together and share a life together and we have kept *** outside this equation. That takes a lot of stress off both of us. We do have *** with each other on a regular basis and even after 25 years- its the best with him. No one else comes close. I guess its the intimacy and familiarity that we have developed over the years. Our families are aware of our relationship and have accepted us. Both of us are not married and we live together.
I would definitely advise youngsters who are not yet married- to think about the possibility of staying unmarried and find at least a close male friend to share a life with. It is worth it. For me at least, it has been worth it.
|Posted On Oct 20, 2018 - 08:06 AM|
Great to hear your life. Good to see you having a steady relationship for past 15yrs, and inspire of thick n thin, you are together.
God bless you both and your relationship.
|Posted On Oct 20, 2018 - 12:37 PM|
I am.not get any one above 35 till so sad
|Posted On Oct 20, 2018 - 01:00 PM|
Enjoy bottom *** and relax wiyhout any regret. Gsy marriage may work or may not.
|Posted On Oct 20, 2018 - 05:02 PM|
Am entering into a relationship.. so far good..
Both of Ur are single and we have our own families. We are aware of facts that it's time consuming to settle down.
My boyfriend loves me. Hez a little less expressive.
But we are being loyal to eachother. We keep *** off the topic always. We don't give it a top priority. We speak for hours just like straight couple. We meet frequently. And am feeling very good about it.
I am happy that I have someone who cares for me and love me other than my family.
I hope this continues for eternity. And I wish every gay finds his true love.
|Posted On Oct 20, 2018 - 09:55 PM|
I love being in true relationship but i cant trust anyone in this fake world....everyring is tieup with money.
Be bachelor and lead happy life..
|Posted On Oct 21, 2018 - 02:38 AM|
A few years after marriage I realised I am a bisexual. Now 25 yrs have passed and I'm 50 yrs. Met hundreds of guys in the past 25 years but never fell in love. Suddenly 5 months back met a guy and without having much *** we both feel very very attracted to each other. Want to spend hours on phone and discuss all problems and joys of life. He is younger and unmarried. Both of us know we cannot settle down together but unable to get out of this relationship. Dont know about the future but we have given our hearts to each other. Whenever possible we meet but constantly think of each other and concerned abt each other.
|Posted On Oct 21, 2018 - 07:08 AM|
@Moonstar20 That’s what love it is comes in any age at any time.. don’t loose him just because social pressure..
|Posted On Oct 23, 2018 - 11:50 AM|
no one ready relationships . gay marriage it's too far away from reality
|Posted On Oct 23, 2018 - 12:27 PM|
@blueboys .. Even its not legally recognized in India.. only relationship in not criminal offence. Many people are still confused with Section 377
|Posted On Oct 25, 2018 - 01:49 PM|
I want to have real gay relationships
|Posted On Oct 27, 2018 - 01:03 PM|
wow what a wonderful thread it is! but it seems gay marriage and relationship is like a dream! I dnt say that gay marriage or relationship doesnt exist! but at the same time in india it is really difficult! I have experienced and m experiencing that how it is difficult to go through with mental trauma! First of all we people always connect love and *** together! I believe that lust is directly connected with the *** and *** can be the part of love but love doesnt depend on the ***! Lgbt members are going through with mental trauma! We are not able to express our self with some one through which we are going! definitely psychologists may be there, but good psychologists for lgbt community may exist in big metro cities what abt the people who are not from metro cities? We cant express our feelings to our family members! Unfortunatley when u fall in for some one who doesnt feel the same way as you are , it is difficult to come out from that one sided love trauma! I might have gone slightly out of the topic! It would be wonderful if gay marriage or lgbt community people can find their life partners! so ppl can live happily peacefully! In this trauma we are not able to concentrate on our personal or professional life!
|Posted On Nov 5, 2018 - 10:16 AM|
I don't support gay marriages as I myself don't like it. I love change so I can't stick to one for a long time.
|Posted On Nov 7, 2018 - 04:23 AM|
Well, I do believe in relationship and to be with someone special for long term. The feeling of waking up everyday with that someone special and morning cuddles excites me a lot. Someday, I wish and hope to find someone.
|Posted On Nov 7, 2018 - 05:26 AM|
Mee too want a good-looking bf, a lover who takes me in his arms, protects me and I offer him my all love, my body for him.. long drives , dancing, cuddling, n loads of hot fun
|Posted On Nov 11, 2018 - 12:52 AM|
I am glad you are catching up here. I’m from the UK, and we have had gay marriage for many years and it is fully accepted and so great to see so many men and women marrying their same-*** long love partners, as well as adopting children. Hopefully the mindset will change one day across the world away from gays just being about *** to just normal.
|Posted On Nov 13, 2018 - 10:11 AM|
Sometimes we search for potential partners and we never find them. I feel that you should not go with the expectation of finding a life partner. Meet and chat with guys. Sometimes if the chemistry is right and it is destined, you will meet the right person and the initial *** encounter might turn out into a long term relationship. I know of a friend who met a guy on Grindr for ***. And from the moment they met itself they realised that this might turn out to be special. And it did.
|Posted On Nov 30, 2018 - 03:36 PM|
It's seems LGBT rather gay persons is only living for *** *** *** .....there should be gay matrimonial services and marriage gay person must do to gain respect in society.,.....we all are really not that much *** hungery but in frustration or in depression or due to aloofness we have only entangedd in hookup and quickyes ......to be stable in life real gay must get married.......n
Most top / very are just because they don't get girl or opposite *** persons so easily as gay guy is easily available to get *** or *** they don't really emotional ly involved .....because of this those who are really feel emotionally attracted to guy or real gay become like *** hungry for *** hungery for ***
|Posted On Nov 30, 2018 - 05:12 PM|
M a married guy but want to keep a guy for some fun for lifetime n m vers I love to be a gay
|Posted On Dec 1, 2018 - 02:18 AM|
Prosh, there is at least one gay matriomonial service in india and there is a facebook group called amour which helps those LGBT folks looking forlong term relatonship.
As you mentioned, most of the men here are bi and they are/will be married to a woman and engage in gay *** at the same time. But the remaining guys should seriously think about having a gay life partner.
|Posted On Dec 6, 2018 - 05:21 AM|
It looks like everybody is into the physical side of the relationship. But until the mental side is taken care of, attraction will be temporary. But if mental compatibility is ensured then physical intimacy is enhanced by leaps and bounds. I myself am still looking out for a true partner whom I could open up mentally and physically for a long term purpose.
|Posted On Dec 6, 2018 - 06:24 AM|
Nice and subjective thread . I want to share my experience
I m also bisexual and married too but me also attracted to mature mens but now a days I found a man whom I love much want to be loyal wid him or share our life wid him .He also have his family and all he too shares a lot of his life experiences wid me as well as me too .It's 4th month is going on we met only one time physically only soft *** .After that we r nit able to meet like that but I m not able to atop my self think about him I m very desperate to see him always .To talk him over phone or casual meets love to be wid him spending time wid him I don't know why it is happening to me first time for last 4 months I never think of any one except him I don't know it's love or not but l love the feeling what I felt for him like kisi ko dekh kar bhi tassali mil jana phone par sun lena missing him always......
|Posted On Dec 6, 2018 - 08:14 AM|
Why only bottoms want true love?
|Posted On Dec 6, 2018 - 08:24 AM|
Maturee- It is a wonderful feeling to get connected to another individual who reciprocates your feelings. It causes a lot of heartache being away from that person and not able to meet regularly. But the feeling when you meet him or talk to him, nothing can beat that feeling. Not even ***. I am going through a similar phase. I have met someone first week of august and from the day we met till now, there has not been a single day when we have not chatted or talked to each other. We live in different cities and so have met only few times but those meets have been exceptionally passionate and memorable.
Enjoy the feeling. Keep the relationship going.
|Posted On Dec 6, 2018 - 01:02 PM|
Yes tonedbloke.. love that feeling of mutual love .. it's out of the world. Someone who msgs u calls u everyday.. may b not meet but that feeling is jus grt.. I am looking for someone like that special goodloooks top who can b my bf..
|Posted On Dec 13, 2018 - 09:00 AM|
I m happily married bi guy, happy with both sexes, take life as it comes and not a frustrated guy who is experimenting both sides just as he does not get happiness anywhere.
Anyways, we have been exploring a business tie up with another million dollar organisation, family run. Owners are muslim family in northern b class city. Younger son of owner early 30s, just married, studied in houston and me have developed great bond. Last time he took me for long drive during late hours. I wanted to drive his Porche which he obliged. He takes my hand in his hands for 20/30 minutes during conversation, sometimes soft tickling as well. I am falling for him the way he looks at me, the way he takes care of me, the way special attention is given to me all the times. We or lets say I,never shared my feeling for him. Dont want to mess up in early stages of business tie up, however guess we are heading a wall ahead of journey.
|Posted On Dec 13, 2018 - 10:49 AM|
@blueboys, that's not necessarily true. I'm a pure bottom, but I don't need true love
|Posted On Dec 13, 2018 - 04:56 PM|
@rajron - I realised some st8 men can be very physical however I suggest you do not make a move until you are sure that he swings both ways. A few years back I had a Kashmiri colleague he was very physical, during cab rides he would hold my hand and sometimes hug me. I found it very confusing he was a great looking guy. However when it came to sexual talk he would always talk with reference to a woman. A few times that I hinted at bisexuality and the best of both the worlds he ignored it. He eventually fell in love and married a girl. May be unlike west in Asian cultures (more so in India) it is seen as an extension of friendship to be physically close. There are possibilities he is open to experimenting but considering the fact that you have a professional relationship be careful else it might get messy and embarrassing for you.
|Posted On Dec 14, 2018 - 03:11 AM|
Hey exotic thanks for yr words which i agree. Guy is so hot and caring, even though i dont want to, still falling for him. Only thing which is holding me back is my principle of not mixing business with ***. I dont think i can or will ever express my feelings for him as stakes are way too high.
|Posted On Dec 19, 2018 - 05:53 PM|
There is nothing like gay marriage it's only long term relationship with guys.... one guys from South connected me for marriage... I also become agri and he kept before 4 month and also lived with him as gaywife, but after 3 month he satisfied with me...
|Posted On Dec 20, 2018 - 04:53 AM|
yes, i have seen GAY marriage never long last,..... i had few friends who where in relation ship for 10 yrs. the top guy left & got married to women..... other incident was both guys wanted to have fun with others.... they were boarded to each other after gap of 6 yrs....
|Posted On Dec 20, 2018 - 05:09 AM|
You mean bored... and not boarded
|Posted On Dec 21, 2018 - 01:16 PM|
Hi guys! All are expressed there thinking over here I liked it
But personally from my experience I think in our country it will take long time to understand what is marriage or relationship is made about
May be it is m2f or m2m no matters
Basically in our country 90 to 95%marriages/ relationship are based on economical states and dependency
Marriage or any relationship if it is start only on love and understanding respect each other fillings than it will go on happy without any problem till the end
So it is nothing to do with 377 wave off. Yes but surely it will help to stop the criminal tendacy and abusing against the gay people or m2m relationship on some extent.
And hope may society will change their mentally and change positively .
|Posted On Dec 21, 2018 - 06:16 PM|
Marriage is a very old concept. I don't think it should exist either for m2f or m2m or f2f. What does getting married add in your life?
|Posted On Dec 22, 2018 - 06:24 AM|
Marriage today has no value at all. It's more of monetary value attached. Big business and marketing in this 21'C. It has no meaning or value at all. It's just an agreement between parties that's it. We hear so many stories that even for simple issues people walk out of marriage. So as rightly said, it better to be In live in relationship. It's easy and a better way to manage. Each and every person on his own, easy way out if things don't work!!