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First time *** - Tips?


Submitted by [deleted] Location: All India (All India, India)

Hi I tried *** for first time and it really hurt and I could not take it in. My partner has a 7 inch but really really thick ***. We used coconut oil but still my *** hurts. Can anyone tell me the best lube or cream to use? Are there any specific positions that help in easy penetration without pain? Please help!

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chennaikeralite
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 05:50 AM

Try a lube or other moisturizing cream. It hurts initially, but later take you to heaven. Enough care should be taken not to turn into an addict later. Do safely always, if you are a family man

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293405
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 06:13 AM

ok. water based lube or numbing cream? position?

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Sups
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 06:15 AM

First habituate your hole hole by fingering it..and at the time of intercourse have a lot of body play,then tell your partner to rim your hole for at least 10 min,so that you feel sensetions over there..then he should start fingering you hole and stimulate the prostate,after that increase the no of fingers one by one..and use some water based lube,or you can use lox5%,then tell your partner to put enough amount of lube on his condomed *** and slowly push it in...and he should not push it suddenly,1stly you will feel pain at the 1st muscle ring..and he should stop there anD keeo a slow to and fro motion..then slowly push it deeper..for 1st time and less pain you can just lay on your stomach and tell him to penetrate you from back or doggy goes well for newcomers!

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shreenisah
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 06:26 AM

also, clean your *** well.. douche before ***...

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293405
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 06:35 AM

ok tnxs guys... i wont be using condom

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293405
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 07:05 AM

yes important to mention that u tried without condom n wil be getting *** withiut condom. so lubes cream oil. compatible with that

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Kinknik
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 08:05 AM

For *** fun u can even try a simple trick just reverse the condom and then try.

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Vijiraja
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 09:47 AM

Which position is good and easy for *** ***

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cindrella_c
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 10:57 AM

Be open in mind and hole. As a bottom you are going to give pleasure to a top. Feel proud about it. Feel proud about allowing a man inside you. Ask your man to insert one finger first. play sometime. then two fingers. some play. then three fingers. some play. by them your hole must be ready to open. Ask him to lay down and sit on his ***. it will help to take the *** as much as you can. Pain is just a momentary thing. Pleasure continues further. Nothing to feel shame about being a bottom. Only a top and bottom can make the bed HOT. All the best.

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293405
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 11:41 AM

tnxs Cinderella c. i hv been fingering myself and the fact that he half inserted his *** my hole is opening. hopefully ill be able to satisfy him n eventually feel the pleasure

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Ĺolypop01
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 12:30 PM

I am usually top but one day I thought to be btm .. I tried but did not happen hole was so tight.. on d other hand guy had not so strong *** ... but it pained .. a lot ..

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Varunx
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 02:42 PM

Hi Tightboy. Actually your problem is quite common among early bottoming. I went through the same. My partner was very patient and ultimately we could actually do it after 3 months. Firstly you have to indulge in good foreplay so that you overcome your nervousness and your muscles get relaxed. Ensure that you have cleaned your entrails thoroughly before going for it. Use good jelly like KY which soothes the *** tract. Ask your partner to make a slow entry by applying steady pressure till it goes beyond the spinster. While it is crossing the spinster, you will feel sharp pain. At this point don't ask your partner to take it out but stay still at that point itself for a minute until the pain subsides and then continue further penetration. Once the *** passes the spinsters you won't feel much pain and you will be able to respond automatically. Just relax, stay calm and safe and enjoy.

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Varunx
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 02:58 PM

Tightboy, people who love bottoming love thick ***. You are lucky to have one.
But what surprises me is how come you are doing it without protection from the inception. Usually as the relationship progresses over a span, the decision whether to continue with protection or not is taken.
Also remember there is nothing like opening, tight or loose hole. The anus retracts to natural tightness once the act is over. Its only the anxiety that makes the *** valves clench but with experience a bottom learns to take control of his *** valves.

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Varunx
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 03:01 PM

As for positions, for first timers doggy style is best as the penetration isn't very deep and even the very passionate spoon position. With time you can try missionary and bull dog or any other positions.

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Candy047
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 03:10 PM

Being a pure bottom myself, I can try to help by saying what i do. Lots of lube! And i mean lots!!! You're not ready till there's enough lube to let two fingers go in without any resistance at all. Then apply same amount of lube to the head too. Secondly, its psychological. You're with a top. A man. You need him to complete you. Your sole purpose in life is to please tops. Your pleasure comes later. Be grateful you have a top who is there for you. That used to help my mi d.

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Candy047
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 03:12 PM

Position is best with bottom riding on tops c*ock. Let gravity do its work and then when u are comfortable with it inside, do doggy or whatever

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228485
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 03:36 PM

Useful comments by folks here! Thanks! I’ve a slightly different question, one of you had mentioned about keeping the entrails thoroughly clean, could some of you also throw some light on how you guys manage it? I did read quite a bit on the Internet, but many made reference to using some water pressure gadgets etc. is there anything else that you guys use/do? Looking for more of a home based solution.

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Tender_hole
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 05:24 PM

Best is to start with bottom sitting on the tops ***. That position pains the least. Apply a lot of lotionn then sit. Yes at the tip it will pain a lot but allow to stay there then it will slide nicely inside. You can then jump on him and then take different positions. I have a very very tight tender hole myself inspite of being fkd a few times. But every time it gets tight again. Though the missionary position is very painful but I love it.

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Candy047
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 07:10 PM

Use *** pump. Easily available in med shops to clean your ***. Go to the med shop and say u have a friend due for colonoscopy and need to douche. He will give u a big dropper type of thing. Fill it with soap water and push it in your ***. Keep the soap water in your *** for a minute and release it in the toilet. Repeat till the water coming out of ur *** is clean. Havi h *** in your bowels while *** is a turn off

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CurioS_EX
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 08:20 PM

@candy047, dude are u mad? Soap is just wrong to put inside ur ***!! Someone can easily get diarrhoea. There's a reason it burns when u put it inside, it's your body saying that it's causing damage! Your douche idea is correct but it should be used only with warm water at most. Also you shouldn't fill the *** cavity continuously. If you see the internal structure then the passage bends to the side after a short distance. Pumping too much water is gonna flood it and you'll have watery discharge leaking for the rest of your day. You only need to pump enough to fill the vertical part of your colon.

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CurioS_EX
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 08:35 PM

Also I noticed but no ones mentioned butt plug till now. Its used to stretch the hole before ***. Ideally one should wear it for the whole day before having *** ***. It helps a lot by reducing the pain. Although it's hard to get these toys in India. But inserting things of similar shape works just as well, hand railing ball heads are perfect. You just have to make sure that it has a wide base, otherwise if the whole thing slips in by mistake then the only way to get it out is by going to a hospital. The wide circular base must remain outside the hole.

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SaneLove
Posted On Jul 18, 2018 - 09:44 PM

How to use *** pump?

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CurioS_EX
Posted On Jul 19, 2018 - 03:38 AM

*** pump or douche is basically an oversized ink dropper. You fill it with warm water insert its head into the anus and gently squeeze it so that the water goes in. Just one or two rounds is good enough. Wait for 10-15 mins and do not lie down during this time, either sit or stand. Then just sit on the toilet and let it all out. Repeat if necessary.

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Varunx
Posted On Jul 19, 2018 - 10:48 AM

If you are regularly bottoming or even otherwise, ensure that you include lot of fibers (salads, leafy veggies) in your diet so that the stools pass properly. Any left over particles inside hurt during penetration or are great embarrassment. I clean my butt with fingers and douche it just before hitting with someone.

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Vijiraja
Posted On Jul 20, 2018 - 07:29 AM

Is *** *** really gives pleasure or pain

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rock2017
Posted On Jul 20, 2018 - 08:47 AM

Hey guys, i would like to share my experience with you as well. I am a vers guy & initially i have always been top guy but over the period of time i developed this curiosity to take something in my ***. So i initiated with the marker pen after applying coconut oil on it. But unless you dont clean your *** track, *** might come out along with it. So i studies a lot over the internet and finally i came to know whats the actually procedure to follow. It took me more then 3 to 4 months to finally get my hole a bit broader. What i actually used to do is basically hand shower jet and fill my bowel area with the water and then push it out. I repeat this at least 5-10 times. Till the time all my *** track is cleaned. I then wash myself properly with soap and again insert my 1-2 finger to drain out the residue liquid which generally left out in it, which actually comes out a bit warm, due to the body temperature which warms the water. Anyways once i am all cleaned up i practice fingering myself with the help of ponds body lotion(dont use coconut oil rather the water based gel, which is actually costly to use regularly so i prefer ponds body lotion. I start with 1 finger then 2 then 3 and then 4, i keep stroking my fingers in and out for at least 5-10 mins daily, which keeps my anus smooth, soft, wider and lubricated. Once i am done with the finger i do a bit of prostate massage which is by far the most pleasurable exercise that once could ever imagine on this earth. I perform it with 2 fingers, the middle finger and the ringer finger. I keep tickling the prostate and believe me its the highest level of ecstasy that one could ever attain. Out of my 10 *** sessions, i hardly offer my anus to a person or 2 at max. Its an art which basically hardly 5% guys can perform it well. I have *** many guys and i have felt what they feel while i am penetrating into them. One has to work upon anus rings for few months before going for *** for the first time. Its a slow, steady, pleasurable process. Dont rush to widen your anus, sometimes while finger, it cuts inside and even the blood comes out, but dont be afraid of it. Let it rest for 2-3 days and again continue. Anus rings are not like any other muscles, they stay relaxed and soft when we work upon it. And it goes back and stiffed when not worked upon for few days. Note : 1. do not pressurized the soap water ever, rather use normal water. 2. Avoid using cold water in winters rather use warm water.3. While doing the penetration exercise use front camera to see what and how you are performing. 4. Last but not the least always use follow the breathing process while penetration, which is the most important parameter. Let me clear what is it. While you penetrating the finger always exhale (Breath out air through ***), because while you breath out your anus ring gets opened making the way for your finger/dildo/toy/*** to pass or slip inside more easily provided if the area it fully lubricated with the ponds body lotion.. i hope my experience would be useful to many.i urge you guys to provide me your valuable replies if i proved fruitful to you somehow..

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cm_tu
Posted On Jul 20, 2018 - 10:34 AM

Who said doggu style ?? U will be stupid to do this for fisrt time.

It open ur hole well and open u for deep penetration and this can be proble if ur partner is ageeasive,anger or not taking clues. I mean he have to push some buttons but u dont want take risk .

I think best possion for first time is missinary or cow boy/girl variation.
In missinary, ur parnter can take help of lube and gravity and insert himself. Speed control is over ur partner but this position really help cause of gravity.. u can pause and use gravity,pull out a little then use gravity ....

And second is obvious one u sit on ur partner. All control is on u ,unless ur partner decide to lift his hip for a surprise.. this position also works good cause of gravity

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jackscs2005
Posted On Jul 20, 2018 - 12:23 PM

Hi dear, if you are new to *** so you need to practice it. Your ASSSS need to learn opening up more. I can suggest you as i comfortably take up 10' long and 2 wide ***.
1. Practice your ***, start with thin dildos and keep it inside for long hours. Your ASSS should learn to stretch. I have always used coconut oil and never felt a need of lube. I use to insert & sleep in night. I have started with carrot, cucumber & raw banana ( as there was no dildo ) later bought thick big dildo vibrator online.
2. Doggy is best position with partner as it opens up *** naturally and help in stretching ASSS. But if you are practicing alone then you can try in Squat position like Indian style toilet to move toy in / out.

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rishi_20004
Posted On Jul 21, 2018 - 07:40 AM

why do u need to waste the money on dildos...the problem with it is even if u buy it where will u hide it anf someone in family sees it it becomes very embrassing...so according to me the best substitute for didlos is buy a cucumber and use it it works same as didlos...but plz follow some precaution...never insert the cucumber without washing it properly and to be on safer side put on a condom on the cucumber in the similar way as u put condom in ur *** the reason i m saying to put on condom is coz cucumber being a vegitable the chances are if u start insrting it vigrously in and out in *** motion the cucumber can break inside so better put the condom over to b on safer side

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pratik ooo5
Posted On Jul 21, 2018 - 04:12 PM

Exact solution is ky jell

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AviTop28
Posted On Jul 22, 2018 - 10:42 AM

Here are few suggestions from a very experienced Top:

#1 Take it slow, slow, slow

Like anything, it’s really important that you don’t rush into *** before you are BOTH really, really turned on and ready. So ask him to be gentleman, take your time and DO NOT under any circumstances think it’s ok just to shove the *** in within minutes. Ask him to begin with gentle licking and touching of the area around your *** … your entire ***, not just your *** … explore your body, kiss you everywhere … taste you … listen to your breathe, listen to your sounds … you will know when he’s warming up, you will hear it and feel it in his body. Tease him.

Advice for Tops:
When you feel he’s ready to be penetrated, ask him. And when he says yes (he may already be saying yes with his body and his sound … begging you with his moaning to have you inside him) then use a finger first. Gently. There’s no point in rushing this … stop being goal-oriented and enjoy every. single. moment. with him.

#2 Use A LOT of lube

Don’t be sparse with the lube, I guarantee the more lube the better. Plenty of lubricant will allow for *** penetration to feel smoother and more pleasurable. FYI - some men get super lubed up naturally and some men don’t. There is no right and wrong when it comes to how much lube men produce. Generally though, when a man is turned on and feels connected to his lover, there's a lot a precum than usual. But this is the *** we are talking about, and it's a sensitive area, so when you think you have enough lube, add more. I recommend always having extra natural organic lube on hand (for *** in particular). Or organic coconut oil (but don’t use coconut oil with condoms). My favourite natural lubricant is YES Organic Lubricant.

#3 Relax, relax, relax

*** *** will never be pleasurable if you’re not completely relaxed in your mind and body. So, if you’re feeling super uptight and stressed, I encourage you to chill the f*ck out (in life, and in the bedroom). And when you are ready to surrender to *** ***, remember to breathe and relax the muscles around your *** and ***. Don’t stop breathing! Breathe that *** in. One. Breathe. At. A. Time.

#4 Experiment with different positions

For some reason lots of people assume that *** has to be done in doggy style … this is far from the truth. You can experience *** *** in every position possible. I recommend beginning with the you sitting on top of the man, this gives you control over how much *** you want inside you and how slow or fast you want it. Missionary is also a great position for ***. But like anything we are all so unique with what feels good sexually … so experiment with your lover and find what positions feel great for you both.

#5 Surrender to the deep erotic experience that *** has to offer

*** can be an immensely sensual and spiritual sexual experience. When a man takes another man deep inside him it can bring about an opening and a surrender that he has never experienced before. Therefore, I encourage you both to truly honor just how amazing *** *** is, and don’t ever do it if you’re not feeling ready to completely surrender to the feelings and sensations that it creates within your body, mind and soul. *** *** can be a gateway into deep sexual ecstasy,, and orgasm, open your mind to that idea and the possibilities are endless.

P.S.
1. Get an enema/douche. Again it depends on how you and your partner like it.
Some keep it an natural and some are hygiene freaks.
My personal opinion? Well let's just say i have done it all.

2. *** rimming. Hell Yes !! This is orgasmic in a whole different level.
If you haven't already, ask your top to go down on you right now !
I personally can spend hours down there pleasuring my bottom.

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rehana
Posted On Jul 23, 2018 - 10:31 PM

dear, if you are new to *** so you need to practice it. Your ASSSS need to learn opening up more. I can suggest you as i comfortably take up 10' long and 2 wide ***.
1. Practice your ***, start with thin dildos and keep it inside for long hours. Your ASSS should learn to stretch. I have always used coconut oil and never felt a need of lube. I use to insert & sleep in night. I have started with carrot, cucumber & raw banana ( as there was no dildo ) later bought thick big dildo vibrator online.
2. Doggy is best position with partner as it opens up *** naturally and help in stretching ASSS. But if you are practicing alone then you can try in Squat position like Indian style toilet to move toy in / out.

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kunalver
Posted On Jul 25, 2018 - 05:20 PM

#practise makes u perfect. #my experience. i use *** douch use.. at the time of bath..i use warm water for inside anus cleaning.after few min.. got clean ***. than put lots of lube inside my *** than finguring.. after couple of month.. more than 20 practice session.. i can able to be take full *** inside

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Dreammer
Posted On Jul 27, 2018 - 06:17 AM

I think it will be better,if you start with a top with smaller and thin ***.I also found some bottom with smaller thin tool get good *** to star with them will proved to be easier to take bigger thing later on.

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rishi_20004
Posted On Jul 27, 2018 - 09:42 AM

has any one tried patanjali alo vera gel as a lubricant for *** ***?

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sudhir7373
Posted On Jul 27, 2018 - 11:31 AM

I am now 60 year old. When I was in college, about 40 years ago, I used to give bl** jobs to a friend. He insisted for *** and I obliged him. we did it doggy style. HE applied some oil to his tool and penetrated. it was little painful, but very enjoyable. His tool was not very thick, but very long, about 7" and I could feel him reaching the end of my A**. After that he F** ed me several times.and in almost all positions. After college, for a long time I could not find anyone. In my mid thirties I again gave oral to a friend. He tried *** but it was very painful and we could not. I tried with quite a few friends, and was never successful. Next success came when I was in late forties. This guy had a huge tool and I was sure he will not be able to enter. but he was an expert. he laid me on my back, folded legs, applied KY, fingered, and then slowly entered and gave reciprocations. Soon he had pushed his whole rod and I once again enjoyed. After that I have again enjoyed with some friends after applying lubricants and after fingering for some time. I still enjoy it! It is a very pleasing experience. I enjoy both giving bl** jobs and an**

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bicurious_guy
Posted On Jul 27, 2018 - 10:08 PM

Seriously scared ..trying *** first time tomorrow

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newbieforum
Posted On Jul 28, 2018 - 02:04 AM

@bicurious_guy, relax, have lots of foreplay, use lots of lubs, and go very slow. hope you will enjoy it and post ur first experience after that.

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Rahul0123
Posted On Jul 28, 2018 - 06:01 AM

Guys first of all it becomes phobia for top of getting *** bcoz they think its so painful yes it is, even for bottoms if you do it like amaturely but if you do it nicely then its a most amazing feeling to getting ***, i am explaining as an top....
First of all try it with only with that person whom with you are really comfortable otherwise guys will spoil your *** and dont let you enjoy to fun again bcoz u will be afraid
The first thing do some oral to your virgin *** friend such as rimming its a best thing to do for first timer. Then try to give a sensual oil massage to your partner *** , so muscles will be relaxed and he will feel sensual so he will be prepare himself to get ***,,.then use a jy jelly or any similar lube which provide easily entrance to your ***. And choose a average *** for your *** even thin for first time...
Talk some dirty talks it will make your mood
Try to make your first timer relaxed so insert half *** not full, if you will open him up you can enjoy his *** in future but if he will feel pain on his first ***, he will not allow to *** u again
And one special tips for those tops who wanna enjoy *** ***
Guys dard is a part of life or return me khushi ki guarantee nahi hoti.. but yeh halka sa pain seh liya to it will give you so so much fun for forever...dard isliye hota hai bcoz sphinchter muscle first time explore hoti hai

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Jackyvers
Posted On Jul 28, 2018 - 06:26 AM

Any alternative to dildo ?

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Rahul0123
Posted On Jul 28, 2018 - 08:31 AM

Yes jacky vers.. if you want a dildo to play with your *** then take a carrot or radish take any lube and one condom, now take all these to your bathroom lie on floor keep radish or carrot on floor put condom on that and then use lube then sit on it and play with it like u r *** a top who js lie on the floor.
If you want thick dildo you can cucumber also

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RajMVers
Posted On Jul 29, 2018 - 03:52 AM

Use KY Jelly. Its avaialable at Apollo Pharmacy. Also use doggie position. but ur partner has a big *** so use small things first to loosen ur *** up. like fingers, candles. also if ur partner is avaialable can i use his ***? my *** is used to it

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rehana
Posted On Jul 29, 2018 - 06:46 AM

Use Eggplant or Baigan .....I used it oftenly

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Madhavgopal
Posted On Jul 29, 2018 - 08:19 AM

just try for durex gel ...

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gayforyew
Posted On Aug 1, 2018 - 05:51 PM

I use petroleum jelly before intercourse put a max amount of vaseline in my hole and my partner pennies and i stretch my butt from my hand then he insert slowly...once you feel a horrible pain for few minutes after that everything is ok and we start traveling to heaven :)

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Me_U_ILU
Posted On Aug 4, 2018 - 02:12 AM

I have also used lubrication gel and Vaseline petroleum gelly both.
I feel that, Vaseline give great lubs than the other special lubrication gel.

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jacuesask09
Posted On Aug 5, 2018 - 08:48 PM

Tried *** for the first time ever.... As per the suggestions here used Durex lubricant before entering my partner Pennis and that guy have a huge ***.... Felt so much pain for 5 to 6 mins post that I was like in heaven... Pleasure and fun... No signs of pain after 5 mins once he inserted his *** completely into my hole.... Loved it and *** are really made to *** ***

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baimatt
Posted On Aug 5, 2018 - 09:08 PM

Nice. Makes me want to try *** again. It was really painful coz my partner was forceful and I stopped and left instantly. Difficult to find a good partner to try my bottom side with.

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mhere4fun
Posted On Aug 7, 2018 - 07:34 AM

Tips were very useful to my friend n me... Both were Vers tops.. Shared these tips to my friend n both mutually agreed to fxxx each other... My friend had a monster with almost 9 inch with 3 inch thick.. .. Mine s medium though... I was able to take the monster quite easily using lubricant n with help from these tips... Thanks to all guys who have given the tips...

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299184
Posted On Aug 7, 2018 - 05:09 PM

please try protecedyl ointment and Lignocaine ointment. Yu will become alright.

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