Decency in a relationship
Hey, I wanted to discuss the level of decency one ought to maintain in a relationship. I mean, many of us have hooked up surely but what after that? How do we know when we’ve crossed the line in a relationship?
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|Posted On Jul 6, 2018 - 06:49 PM|
Blocking a person after a nice chat without any reason also shows hw decent a person is .
Which may be rude to the other person.
No harm in openly saying im not interested as no one is forced in this open world.
|Posted On Jul 6, 2018 - 07:40 PM|
COURTESY.. COURTESY .. COURTESY..... upto to N times... COURTESY...
You like or dislike a person, be it a good or bad person, a one night stand or a ur life's love, treat a person with COURTESY..
A basic human courtesy is the best way to show your decency.. Unfortunately many Indians lack this virtue.. Needless to say about the Indian gay men (90%) of them don't even know basic virtues let alone courtesy.. Now don't barge on me with comments before reading this article on gay Indian men
|Posted On Jul 7, 2018 - 05:28 PM|
@ Sude : I dont think anyone would block a person arbitrarily.. that too after a nice chat..
Probably the chat would have gone the bitter way, in which case it is always better for one to block and getaway instead of spewing abuses..
However, if one blocks without any reason... then yes, it hurts.. ..
|Posted On Jul 8, 2018 - 06:03 AM|
I agree with valentine. Basic courtesy is a must in any relationship. Further being upfront in ones expectation is a must. Once I met a guy through chat. Very decent and good looking but pure top. He was not even ready for mutual ***. He suggested threesome for which i was not ready. We chatted for a while and left-not to be seen again. But still it is ok. Asking a guy to come to a place, seeing him from a distant place and leaving without even informing him is the worst behavior one can expect. Asking for a pic with a false promise of reciprocating with his pic and blocking him after seeing his pic is another very indecent gesture.
|Posted On Jul 10, 2018 - 07:04 AM|
@valentine84 - Thanks dude for your right mentioning of the word courtesy
As Valentine said basic courtesy implies to the decency..I might be NSA..we knew that we are not going to meet anymore in life..Then what would be wrong in saying bye once everything got over
Valentine mentioned a word "dark secret" in one of his comments..Some will make people to feel like the same..They would be sweet before going to bed and the moment they come out then they will remember that someone in his family is coming within 5 mins (ha ha..WTF)
Then coming to point..The most important behaviour of not crossing line is not to ask about our other G friends and their looks and talking about the third person who is known to us and unknown to them..We shouldn't poke our nose into others business..
I used to share about my other G friends and their incidents without mentioning their name to whomever I meet.I personally feel that sharing some good and bad experiences will create some impact in person who is hearing that. I will be annoyed if they ask more about the person's Identity which I usually refuse to reveal
My personal connect and opinion in this forum- Gayspark,mahesh80,valentine are really decent
|Posted On Jul 10, 2018 - 01:27 PM|
Hi everyone. Missed coming online for quiet sometime. Missed u guys all. Its a beautiful question. Decency in a relationship.
The word decency can be inferred in many ways. We always prefer n expect the opposite person to be decent enough with us and vice versa but at times during interactions ones true self gets reflected during their behaviour.
But being decent means having the basic courtesy as Valentine proclaimed not to hurt someone intentionally or unintentionally but that never happens. Sometimes we end up hurting our loved ones either way. But we don't mean to do it.
According to me decency is understand ones limitations, extensions, courtesy, practicality and acceptance of ones ways . It comes from within. Most of the time end up not sharing my numbers with anyone for the sake of preventing myself from hurting them on the end. As I have the fear of commitment. I love some of them so much I keep away from them. I try to tell them in best possible ways politely so they don't end up hurt.