Daddy issues. Uncover the secrets.
Even within the LGBTQ community, there are some topics which people still find uncomfortable to discuss like kinky fetishes and need of mature men.
I have Daddy Issues. It means that I seek comfort and love of mature, manly, well settled man who treats me, loves me like his baccha and fucks me like his passionate partner. When it comes to daddies I'm a pure bottom.
Guys below my age never attracted me physically. Though I can communicate hours with anyone, in a nonsexual manner.
What are your views on a daddy-son relationship?
By daddy-son, I do not mean actual incest relationship. It is just a metaphor. Though I do not judge people on enjoying incest relationships. They too are more than welcome to share their views.
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|Posted On May 1, 2020 - 11:03 AM|
Great topic really... I have been with one mature guy who was 52... Fact that mature guys are so well behaved, caring attracts towards them... Also they are experienced in fun part adds the charm.... we we used to sleep over at his place he used to take care of me like his son and made love at night on the bed like loving his wife...
|Posted On May 1, 2020 - 11:49 AM|
Absolutely true n though I am matured man (48),I still prefer matured men over youngsters n no offence meant.
It is just that the way they make u feel n make u an important part of their life.
Matured men have always attracted me n I like a mature feet too.
|Posted On May 1, 2020 - 11:52 AM|
I became a CD n bottom only for and because of mature men.. Every man I met till now we're above 45+ age and I never had any complaint and any trust issues. . . Best understanding and supportive even when they are dominant they care about u. . Thanks to all matures for helping me live my secret desires .. . .
|Posted On May 1, 2020 - 12:32 PM|
Hi some young guys come to matured men only for money. Sometimes they try to loot them or create problems like blackmailing, police, spoiling the name in the society etc. which is not correct. Requesting all younger guys & all matured men discuss the matter of ***, likes etc. before meeting for actual act. If you are prostitute who sells the body or commercial *** workers please mention very clearly in discussion before meeting or before taking step forward.. Cheaters better you find another job to earn your bread but don't cheat innocent matured who just wants to enjoy & have peace of mind. Happy hunting. I am educated matured. Waiting for the youngs 18 to 22. Thanks
|Posted On May 1, 2020 - 01:13 PM|
Interesting topic. As said by Sagar, most guys exploit the age of men above 50 for fulfilling their wishes in terms monetary value. I personally know a few guys and one person even asked me audaciously, for a expensive watch to gift his gf. That's the real experience
|Posted On May 1, 2020 - 01:41 PM|
True agree.. But every coin has two sides.. Some older men to spoil boys by giving them money and gifts. I am against money either giving or taking. . And I feel u should be away from cunning and over smart people be it young ones or old ones.. .
|Posted On May 1, 2020 - 01:57 PM|
I have had few encounters with daddy bottom,the things which I like, they have patience, they go slow & steady.
But I have seen some daddies like younger guys, that's their choice,they pamper that young guy so much ,because some of them, don't want to loose him, they think, now they have become older ,slower little bit unattractive, so that's why some of them are much caring, but beauty lies in eyes of beholder.
One thing I want to say go Daddy go, just go for it
|Posted On May 1, 2020 - 02:09 PM|
With older men it's jor about *** or stamina.. It's about exploring our kinks and desires with security and secrecy.. When it comes to kinks and secrecy older men and the best.. . They are always ready and prepared to fulfill theirs and urs kinks and fantasies.
|Posted On May 1, 2020 - 08:38 PM|
1) there is difference between mature and oldies.. Define clearly.
2) most youngsters thinks its easy money to get a guy who is well settled, good earning and have family for personal monetary intersta.
3) if u prefer oldies, aren't u worried about hell lot of diseases they have
|Posted On May 2, 2020 - 03:47 AM|
I m in relationship with my 47 year class sir , i like to roleplay with him father n son , we kiss, happily molest each other sexually, sleep nude, it releases stress in our lives for 2 years n i feel happy with him its little like sugar daddy its like though temporarily but we r made of each other. Its not blood incest but like rolepay. But *** is real.
|Posted On May 2, 2020 - 04:02 AM|
Hey guys nice thread. I agree with both views. There are some young guys who keep relationship with mature for money, deriks etc while there are guys who genuinely like matured guys.
I personally like you g guys 28 above but i like them to be top and dom. May be its my fantasy or fetish just to submit to them and let them take control
|Posted On May 2, 2020 - 04:19 AM|
Yea it's all about choices and everyone has it diff.. Like u i prefer a dom mature tops.. Who could take control of me and use me properly. .
|Posted On May 2, 2020 - 04:49 AM|
I also met with one mature uncle of 48, *** him nicely but the main problem was when he try to *** me. He can't as I'm Virgin and his *** is not fully erect.
|Posted On May 2, 2020 - 04:59 AM|
I too like mature, I hav met a lot foreign uncles nd couples they take gud care of me.we talk like frnds nd they don't rush in bed they take it slow nd enjoy.even after *** we still lay in bed nd talk abt things nd all.i had a uncle who's in German but visits Chennai often while he comes he will let me know so we can enjoy.
|Posted On May 2, 2020 - 05:09 AM|
Bottoms meeting the older ones - they seek money from older men that's the only reason
Tops meeting older ones - either they need married old men so that they can *** old men's wives and secondly they need money from old men
Conclusion - 98% young guys have an intention of money or something they will get in return other than ***.
|Posted On May 2, 2020 - 05:25 AM|
It's something like the contrast matches and the rate of affection and attraction is literally very high for both the young and old. It seems to be that old wants young and young wants old and when it happens it's the ocean of orgasm and pleasure. When it's the matter of money I truly interested in man's honey than their money. But u know sometimes to stay away from cheap people false money love shown to those people is accepted. Mmmmmm
|Posted On May 2, 2020 - 05:54 AM|
@Raajiv...Feel surprised about your opinion that elder people carry lots of diseases.. Elder people can control themselves and do not indulge in risky acts, normally being experienced and wise therefore...Youngsters rather can't control and being inexperienced, might get carried away in risky acts as they may not have options....its not about young vs old but I find your this comment biased and a myth
|Posted On May 2, 2020 - 07:50 AM|
I am quite surprised that some people are saying that youngsters like mature only for money or with intention of *** their wives.
I really don't agree with that. Everyone has their own choices. As uncle's are soft, they care youngsters while fcuking, they play with body softly and want to keep frndship for long term and they give every inch of pleasure to youngsters.
While young guys they are little rough, they just think ant their pleasure, they don't even think whether it is hurting their partner or not.
This is why most youngsters prefer older men over young boys. Hardly one or two boys prefer olders with wrong intention
|Posted On May 2, 2020 - 12:32 PM|
I had my very first encounter with mature man. Since then I only enjoyed with mature men (prefer above 40). Trust me they all know how handle their boy, not only during the *** but in general also. Now a days I mostly inclined toward hairy daddies with moustache.
I will not lie but I still share a special bond with the daddy with whom I had first time.
|Posted On May 2, 2020 - 12:57 PM|
I am 23 and I’ve always been inclined towards mature more than younsters.
Mature daddies take good care of their partner even outside the bed.
and when on bed, they are already experienced.
I’ve been with around 3-4 matue tops and they all were good.
|Posted On May 2, 2020 - 01:23 PM|
old uncles are best who *** me deep and lick my armpits and navel before i ram their hole like there is no tomorrow
|Posted On May 2, 2020 - 01:30 PM|
As I like mature men only... I see no problem with Daddy-Son or Uncle-Boy Relationships
Relationship is something when two soul cares for each other... Gets attracted physically and mentally.
Seeking *** between young and mature guys is very easy... travel in 2by2 train or goto any public loo you will get plenty........ but finding a genuine guy for relationship will take years.
Relationship doesn't mean that mature guy becomes an ATM from younger boy or vice-versa.... Personally I'm against people who seek monetary favors... not only mature men but from anyone.....
I heard many cases where a young guy seeks monetary help after ***..... ARE YOU GUYS PROSTITUTES?? HAVE SOME SELF RESPECT!
|Posted On May 2, 2020 - 04:33 PM|
I'm a big fan of matured men and daddies. They are easy to deal with. Majority of them accept to do the things you like on bed and most importantly since they are much more experienced in life, they are very caring and humble. (Atleast most of them). They agree to whatever you say and are mostly soft natured. Its best to be a top with daddies.
|Posted On May 3, 2020 - 02:04 AM|
Never been with one but want one daddy who can teach me the art. I love the smell of daddy. They are mature in all way mentally, physically and emotionally to say a few. Twink like me likes to be pampered and average guys just come and do their thing that's it. I hope daddy are different. Have saved a date for a daddy because he is so nice to me. Daddy of dominative nature is gold.
|Posted On May 3, 2020 - 04:50 AM|
Very well said..the way mature uncles treat it's so goood..I've few encounters with both young and mature tops ..but the way mature daddies treat is so kind and soft...their sexy *** with a belly is just a delight to *** and *** for long..it feels I can do anything for them..it feels I can go upto any limits for them jus coz they treat so well .I am a bisexual man but when it comes to daddies am forever ready to be a btm or a slave
|Posted On May 3, 2020 - 07:40 AM|
i love daddies too...especially when they are bear type...the older the better for me....would love to *** their ***...for hours together..play with their nude body ..take bath together...sleep naked on them.,...give them nice massage....but never got a chance
|Posted On May 3, 2020 - 10:06 AM|
Been with few older mature top daddies , trust me they are best , they know how to give you pleasure and they manage things better way , I will always prefer top 45+ daddies whn it comes to pleasure
|Posted On May 3, 2020 - 01:26 PM|
I 27 yo btm,the main reason I prefer men 45 and above is the comfort level,it's not just ***,they make sure you are ok. With young tops it's always like "lega kya?" 🤣😂.Maybe not all but atleast the ones who have approached me :)
|Posted On May 4, 2020 - 06:03 AM|
i am daddy as u call, i hv been with young college boys, enjoyed them well, i enjoyed *** the iron rod like *** which throbs inside my ***, the mourning sound while they *** is the height of ***, love to squeez their smooth buttocks, some guys make me happy *** my *** i felt like hitting heaven
|Posted On May 4, 2020 - 05:24 PM|
Most amazing thing about matures is that.. They are very comforting and their minds are filled with kinky stuff...
|Posted On May 6, 2020 - 06:01 PM|
There is something about a 40+ man with a bit of a paunch, a hairy chest, a bit bald which makes me leak in my pants every time...
There is something about how he looks at me as if I were his kid, how he takes care of me, how I feel safe in his arms, with my head on his hairy chest...
There is something about how my smooth hairless petite body looks with in the arms of his hairy huge body...
There is something about how he never rushes things, he takes good time licking my smooth ***, lubing it and stretching it out with his fingers...
There is something about how there are always some pubes around his ***, which tickle my nose, when he hold my head and pushes his *** slowly down my throat...
There is something about how he keeps messaging me, even when I don't reply to him for days, keeping his ego aside and forgiving me every time...
There is something about how he takes care of all my 'nakhras', my 'shauks' and makes me feel like a real lady bottom...
There is something about how he takes care of even my small useless *** and sucks it so that even I come every time...
There is something about how he lets me wear his daughter's sluttiest clothes in front of him and then treats me like a Las Vegas stripper...
There is something about a 40+ man with a bit of a paunch, a hairy chest, a bit bald which makes me leak in my pants every time... :D
|Posted On May 7, 2020 - 09:25 AM|
Love this topic!
Unfortunate fact: I'm still to experience the love of a mature daddy.. though I'm craving it and genuinely need it at this time of my life.
Also, the reciprocation is as much a necessity. To see in his eyes, the excitement, pleasure and joy this little one can bring ☺️
|Posted On May 12, 2020 - 09:28 AM|
Hi guys, I had always longed for the fatherly love since childhood. May be thatswhy I was most attracted towards the same *** n sought attention from elderly guys right from young age. I needed someone fatherly to day that they cared for me n loved me, I was ready to do whatever I could to be in their good books. My mom was there through out for me but my dad never was. May be that was also one of the reasons for me becoming gay. My childhood gay experiences always majority with elder guys may be in mid 30s , 20s or even 40s.
|Posted On May 12, 2020 - 10:01 AM|
Please don't try to explain away your sexuality. There is no scientific evidence for any such theories. It is perfectly okay to be gay. It is perfectly okay to desire an older man as a partner. We all are attracted to a certain body and a personality type. If one missed a father they could always seek fatherly love from an older person not necessarily a sexual partner.
|Posted On May 12, 2020 - 11:18 AM|
I have tried to approach few guys in my past.
Young guys approach me only with demands
1. Get me a Job
2. I need Money
3. I need your wife
Dispite the fact that i have always hated all the three demands. I have helped few guys with money and support. But, people only took me for granted and asked for more. After knowing my truth a guy started emotionally blackmail me saying he will resort to unnecessary things if I don't give him money.
I stopped helping anyone and infact stopped talking to people.
Felt random hookup is better.
|Posted On May 12, 2020 - 12:14 PM|
@biguy007, just because you were attracted to men older than yourself doesnt make you gay. You handle says you are 'bi'guy. If I have got that right or is it "big"uy??. There is no science that relates you to be made gay. No one can be made gay or straight. It is just how your brain and you are wired to be. So let keep that you were attracted to men above your age. Simple!
I am also sorry that your father wasn't there for you,but that seriously doesn't make you gay in anyways!!
|Posted On May 12, 2020 - 01:14 PM|
i am 55+ guy. I met more than 50 guys in the ag group of 23 to 45 yrs old. Not one was disappointed and mostly young sought my company time and again, which I did not heed fearing reprisals and continuation of connection. One boy from WGL is having crush over me.... and we met only once and we are having irrestigble urge to meet again and he wants explore me. Its not my chocie. being Mature and behbing less than my son's age, i feel gfuilthy to follow him. Many other young guys simply turned on, seeing my profile pictures.
|Posted On May 12, 2020 - 02:24 PM|
Hello I wanted to share I became a bottom for a daddy only. I met him in interview he asked me to visit his room nearby because we were having great conversations but as soon as we reach his flat he started touching me while talking soon he was half naked all coming closer talking he was huge and hairy I tried to think about other things but he kept showing his muscles he then suddenly kissed my chin. I had no idea what to do so I closed my eyes and kept quiet. He kissed my lips softly but soon it became more deep because I was enjoying it too he took me inside his bedroom and turned *** on in his laptop made me watch it while he was taking shower he came out all naked with his huge thing out. He came took and started kissing me. I left his face and went straight down because I wanted to do it I *** it more and more till he *** in my face
|Posted On May 13, 2020 - 01:40 AM|
Here my experience goes. I was chatting with a guy in 50s in Telugu gay chat. He is very rough in his words. He said that he is cab driver. Can come to pick me. I liked his rough Ness in words. So I asked him to come and pick me. He came and picked. We were on ORR Hyderabad. He asked me to takeout his tool while he is driving. Its growing bigger. Asked me to remove my shirt. That day I wore my wife bra. So I was on jeans and bra. His tool has become big around 8 inch. We got one remote place on service road. There he stopped and asked to come towards driving seat. I got down from car and went towards driving seat. Then he asked what is u r wife bra size, I told. Then he asked show how u r wife do down there. I shown him how she does. Then shown how I do. Like that it went till 40 min. He is very rough using bad words. I loved his language. By the words only he made me out in my jeans. Later he came on chest and face. I scooped and drank. It was one of my special outdoor experience. Literally they care much and enjoy things slow and soft even they are rough
|Posted On May 13, 2020 - 10:45 AM|
I think only a older man can give a bottom feeling of being feminine. The way they care and slowly they make you their *** slaves. They mostly have place and are more confident. The penetration and breeding happens rarely, but romance is real. One forgets he is a male and starts to behave like a real woman under their love.
I like lying on their hairy chest, feeling up their muscles, my soft nipples and breast rubbing on their rough chest. The feel of their lips and mush on my nipples as they milk my breasts. One feels married to them. Older man are those who made me a woman by using me during my school days, that experience made me see myself as a woman and though I try to hide it, on seeing a older man, I am not able to resist and within no times eyes meet, and I am taken in his den to be looted. And after ***, I belong to him.
|Posted On May 13, 2020 - 04:31 PM|
Dad/son relationships: a view from an Anglo-Australian
Intergenerational relationships between men are nothing new, and we have been moving in between our age brackets since Kamadeva was a boy. That tired old canard of abuse of either the senior or junior partner is reflected in comments here. Academic research has identified this ‘concern’ as belonging to social agendas in Britain and Germany during the 19th and 20th centuries which has persisted in post-Colonial legal systems until recently. Having noted that, it might be of benefit to examine – in a 21st-century social context – what a Dad/son relationship is by dividing it into its constituent parts: Dad, son and relationship.
What is a Dad?
A Dad is a man who applies a state of mind that encompasses care, consideration, mentorship and leadership to a junior male. A Dad is usually a cis-gendered male, though this may not always be the case. He has the welfare of a younger man at heart; his natural impulse is benevolent guardianship. His is the safe space. A Dad offers stability, dependability, experience, patience, encouragement, a steadying hand, advice, challenges, priorities, and manhood by example. He self-identifies with the role of care-giver, if not the label; a Dad takes over where a father leaves off. Above all, a Dad is a foil against toxic masculinity.
A Dad does not have to be ‘old’ (as some commenters in this discussion maintain), but he is – by definition – senior in years and life experience to his ‘son’. That seniority slides along the age continuum: a Dad may apply his attentions to a man, men, or series of men, anywhere between 10, 15, 30 years his junior. Old or not, a Dad remembers what it was like to be young.
What is a 'son'?
A ‘son’ is a junior adult male who finds he is attracted to an older, usually cis-gendered, male. He is often developing in his sexuality, exploring his new mind-set and still learning how to be a man; he is becoming familiar with his body and its capability. Often experimenting with peers, he feels disappointed with his age group and seeks out males who can assist this exploration in a safe but adventurous way. A ‘son’ will finally find comfort in the company of a male his senior in both age and experience. He is what a Dad used to be, young and adventurous.
A ‘son’ who is developing, or recently developed in, his sexual needs seeks out a man who can provide stability amidst uncertainty, an ally in adversity, protection in acceptance, novelty in experience, and pride through being challenged. What a ‘son’ feels is beyond infatuation or conferred hero status: he looks for a man who understands his new life (where his father may not), through guidance, instruction, and clear practical advice. He’s looking to add to the tool kit of modern gay life and will find it in the company of older men.
What is the relationship?
Gay relationships exist when variations in age, race, background, or social difference create novel conditions for men to engage physically, emotionally, and socially. Not all gay intergenerational relationships operate on a Dad/son basis. There is, however, a recognisable connection between the two: the interplay of a strong, protective Dad with an adoring, enquiring ‘son’ combines love, power, and masculinity, and goes with the territory of being human.
In the hetero-normative context, the father/son, teacher/student, coach/protégé relationship is assumed to be finite and not questioned, but an ongoing relationship is looked at askance, and with suspicion. That said, Dad/son relationships are a form of mentoring, and the shared homosexuality of the partners is a personal extension of societal gender norms and expectations about masculinities. Most partners in Dad/son relationships subscribe to common values: masculinity is praised and therefore celebrated between them. It has become a stereotype in the gay community.
Age differences overlap other gay subculture identities (Bear/cub; SM Dom/sub dynamics; muscle studs and gym bunnies; Chubs and their chasers; Suits and pretty bois; Scruffs and their lads; the list goes on...). For some relationships the only imbalance is experience.
Age difference may be the initial attraction, but it is more a mutual attitude that makes the Dad/son relationship work and thrive. There is a resonance between both Dad and ‘son’ based on essential personal values: recognition of different levels of experience; honesty and clarity in communication; a lack of selfishness and a capacity for giving; the need for mutual emotional expression; guidance and learning; an acute awareness of respect and boundaries. Additionally, the negotiation between Dad and ‘son’ can galvanise right-minded behaviours and resolve inner conflicts in both parties. Both will be better men for it. This resonance dictates that the relationship is thus negotiable but based on mutual organisation and complementary self discipline and restraint. There is genuine and mutual admiration.
The rewards of mentoring go both ways. The ‘son’ gains the opportunity to experience the particular masculine love that a tender and nurturing Dad can offer; for the Dad, receiving attention from a younger man by modelling the virtues of stability, caring, and perseverance adds a greater value to what is, after all, the parallel to parenthood. It brings out his best and completes him as a man.
Socialisation is important to both parties. A ‘son’ can learn from the discourse between two gris eminences, when invited to observe or participate in the social setting. Older gay men are custodians of gay history. (The gay rights and legal benefits enjoyed by young gay men today were fought for and realised by the age group they seek. Older gay men smoothed the way for the next generation to be protected under law.) Older gay men have grown up during health and social crises, and have an understanding of personal safety and community caution. Dads have a well-developed sense of justice and are attuned to inequalities and bias. A ‘son’ can keep Dad abreast of social nuances from which he would otherwise be side-lined.
A Dad assumes his role once he enters into the dynamic alongside his ‘son’. Dad and ‘son’ cannot exist without one another. Thus, the phenomenon of the Dad/son relationship continues as it has for millennia.
|Posted On May 15, 2020 - 08:53 PM|
Your theory sums up my attraction towards my boss. He is 6 years older to me. I am not entirely sure whether he is 100% straight or not. But his fatherly care for me is something I treasure. His masculine presence is always intoxicating for me. I wish someday he would realise my love for him and reciprocate. I want to have a Dad/Son relationship with him.
|Posted On May 16, 2020 - 08:16 AM|
Thank you for the interesting post. Everyone has their own preferences. In my point of view, Daddy son relationship is one of the best like other fun with man of same ages. There is nothing to blame. The first guy who introduced me in to this was an old man (40+) when I was 21. Now I am 25 but still continued meeting only mature man. Though I get many chances and approaches to have fun with young man in Saunas and bars. I prefer only mature. Almost 99.5% of my gay *** which I had was only with fun. There are several reasons behind it (my personal opinion)
1) Psychologically I got attracted to them as I had my first fun with mature man.
2) Safety in terms of secret fun. I don't blackmail or disturb my mature friends but I can expect the same from them as they do have family responsibilities. Comparatively, these secret relationships safety is not well maintained by many younger men (comparison)
3) Health and trust. They are more concerned about protected *** as they have family so no second thought or guilt after having *** with them about diseases.
4) Friendship out of bed. They can be normal and talkative out of bed too. They don't simply strip off
5) well experienced in bed. They are very romantic and cooperative in bed. Not just a normal *** and ***. They all have passionate romantic sense in bed.
There may be many deviations and many deny my points but this is just a comparison. There are few bad daddies who cheats and few good young man with all these points which I have mentioned but majority lies with the mature man. All these grows with the age.
I don't have particular relationship with a single man but I love to maintain friendship. I have friends in all metropolitan cities and even in few countries. Some I met but some over phones but these mature man still maintain the friendship. Everyone has their man of own choice, I prefer only classy mature who are well educated and settled. Those men attract me a lot. I have friends who are doctors (mostly), Business man, Scientists and we'll positioned Engineers. Not for money but for the looks. I never asked for any benefits and they do enjoy simplicity. Even some are really rich, they accept the way and had tea with me in normal shops. Why am I telling this ? Unless money or gifts or benefits are out of focus. Our fun and friendship will be focussed in a healthy way.
Being a graduate from Indian's one of the premiere institute, I got approached by many men and youngsters either directly or in social apps after certain conversations. I am open to have friendship with young but can't have fun with them. Out of all mature, I prefer and choose my own. Choice is yours, you are choosing it so you don't have to blame anyone if you are smart enough.
Right now, I am in Germany visited few countries near by too. But mature men take their rejections in a positive way. I have few bitter experience if I say No to younger men as they take it very personally.
The major disadvantage of having relationship with daddy is that they can't give you the time as they have family. But they will give 100% time if they are with the guy ..Lol
P.S: Open for friendship with all but fun with only mature, well educated and settled man. Cities or distance doesn't matter. Feel free if u wish to connect :-) Stay safe
|Posted On May 17, 2020 - 04:48 PM|
I don't prefer younger one, reason age factor, understanding, and above all the money they demand.
|Posted On May 20, 2020 - 01:25 PM|
I am mature bottom. I like young tops. Most of the tops I have met are actually looking for money and favours. Some are looking for wife for *** in addition to *** with me. Many young guys who did not explicitly ask for money or favour, expect dinner, wine and gifts or outings. I would say almost 99% of young guys like mature bottoms only to get money or favours
|Posted On May 20, 2020 - 03:32 PM|
@love2 I have no problem helping out young tops with meals or money provided they are honest about it. Some who are sneaky I have less time for, also those who want big gifts like an iPhone are not for me.
|Posted On May 21, 2020 - 12:56 PM|
@Love2 - I completely agree with you. Most young ones come with some expectation or other, and those are nothing to do with relationship or ***. I have, however, met some amazing, genuine young guys here on ohmojo who have become good friends over the years.