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Submitted by Shriram Location: All India (All India, India)

There are several instances in one's life that reveals us or helps us to decide our orientation. If not for your first *** was a gangbang, or even if was so, don't you think it is necessary to follow a monogamous relationship at least after adolescence? I believe prostitute is not a bad word, but isn't it pathetic to know more than 90% of LGBT are having *** with 'n' number of people more than any prostitute would do...., unaware of the seriousness and the toll it would take on the entire community? Many STD's that were prevailing 300 to 400 years ago among kings who had homosex are returning back and the doctors say it's due to return of unprotected *** culture in the LGBT community. Why aren't we emphasizing more on the safety practices that we need to practice and more sexual wellness that we get in a monogamous relationship. Is it not better to die without pain than dying due to STD's ?

I know the well of young men in their 20's & 30's, the so called hot *** bombs of the city, have *** with minimum of 2 different guys a day. They opt for group fun s night after 2 or 3 one to one sessions in the day. Most of these *** bombs are from media.

P.S. I know finding a match for monogamy is very much difficult than getting a hot *** from Grindr or PR. My point is, that should not be a reason for your death. It is perfectly okay to change your partner 10 times in 1 life time but not 10 times a week! The more you grow, your sexual desires change, I used to get *** seeing a bare hairy chest guys, now I don't.. Now new desires, tomorrow much more, thanks to the *** sites for speeding up our hormones. I'm worried as to where we all will go and end up. I'm no saint, even I'm unable to practice monogamy. But I feel we can get some inputs and extend the gyan if we discuss this more. I feel this aspect should not be ignored easily stating about its practicality.

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Posted On Jan 24, 2019 - 05:10 AM

Monogamous relationship is very difficult in this community as long both the Individuals are committed to it. There are lot of instances where either of the partner cheats the other person in one way or the other because he is not into it. There is a thread here in this forum about this. Yes it is wonderful to have such relationship which will have a healthy *** and life but it's not the reality. May be one in a million opportunities will be blessed. But that apart , still safe *** practices can still be maintained. The guy I met insists on using condoms though I am clean and he is too. But still he doesn't allow me unless it's protected. It's an awareness that one has to build by self. It's good to be open minded but if you open everywhere ,you are inviting trouble for you and others around. Always remember , be safe, play safe. It will cost you and your partner if you dont.

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Posted On Jan 24, 2019 - 06:34 AM

Yea from a long time I've been wanting to go steady with 1 guy. I do not necessarily feel that I'll get a disease by switching partners because I have always used condoms.
But I have not experienced proper bareback *** and never experienced how it feels when your top shoots hits seed inside me without a condom. All this will happen only if I can find a partner who is married to only my body and me to his body, so there's no chance us infecting each other.

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Posted On Jan 24, 2019 - 10:31 AM

Hii I am also looking for a single guy with whom I can go along with steadily... Not necessarily being a relationship but with someone who u can share this part of life and be comfortable.. Be safe and njoy as well.... Damn difficult to find.. Still searching

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Posted On Jan 24, 2019 - 07:28 PM

Dude.. Though in my later teens I realised my sexuality I never had *** until I was 26. When I started I was quite sincere and was committed too.. But what I got in return was disappointment after disappointment .. I would often say in this gay life I get a feeling like an "USED TISSUE".. May be its an inherent INFEDILITY of men (even straight men), a monogamous relationship is still a dream.

Heartbreaks are the abundant more than adulation in my life. Even in my bestie's case I was only heart broken.. If you get a monogamous relationship I wish you are fortunate..

Even I am open to a monogamous relationship, but I believe in mutual affinity and a good frienship which gradually matures to a beautifully relationship. I wish to hold a guy as my friend in streets and a gay partner within sheets. I know it may sound a bit homophobic but I wish I get a straight acting guy versatile partner of my age group, presentable and above all a loving heart .. Well that has been a dream still ..

Any takers ....? ..ha.. Ha., but we can't verbalise feelings in any relationship , it should happen in its own accord..

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Posted On Jan 24, 2019 - 07:32 PM

Anyone who is mature would want a monogamous relationship. I am a woman in a mans body. And have always felt i needed to be loved and taken care off. Someone so attached to you that out of no nessety you are both together.

Lot of beautiful thingscan be done if it is monogamous, like barebacking, for a realtionship to be intimate i think its a must to have got sperms put inside you. Its not just a thrill, it truly brings two people close.

For a bottom giving his bare *** is a confirmation of giving oneself in full to someone. It is the act of losing ones virginity.

I have been looking for such a person for many years now, met a few who were close to that, but somwhow it did not get to even bed. People act close only to ask for your pictures and *** to them. They dont even meet at place i am in. I can understand the social structure, but still at least in the confines of a room people can commit themselvs?

I find some such love in older men, mostly above 40, they are married to their female wives, for me that is not a hinderence, these are two seperate things which will never meet. I hope i find such a man with whom i can be one without any barriers physically and in mind.

Hope someone needing deep love and living closer to me finds his partner in me.

My opinion is certainly the bond and depth which a monogamous relationahip gives will never come out of any other kind.

Love you all!

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Posted On Jan 25, 2019 - 03:04 AM

Oh my.. you really spoke my heart out buddy...

I don't know when the search ends... My eyes are always hunting for my man..

I know it's next to impossible to get one. But it's always better not to give up.

All the gays out there. Don't you think there is life beyond just ***?

Human race deserves love. Spread love in air.

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Posted On Jan 25, 2019 - 05:28 AM

IMO, the reason why monogamous relationship (s) don't take off, is because of expectations. We are confined to certain expectations (stereotypes).It is not bad to have expectations but when it comes to find a mate but are we willing to make the right sacrifices to get there?.. ummm that's something !!
Now that doesn't mean that you should have zero expectations! No we can't be without, because our brain gets tuned to certain things that it wants and everything (visuals)around it feeds it!
Good looking, being presentable, good body structure, age, take more precedence than others like love. In a hetero relation, even if your wife isn't much in looks you still get along because you want it to work (considering the societal pressures or otherwise). But when its M2M we just don't want to get committed coz there is no pressure. It's "either my or the highway way" decision.

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Posted On Jan 25, 2019 - 07:31 PM

Good post. Just one thing .. we don’t decide our orientation.. we realise::) just saying bcoz many people think that being gay is a choice which is not true.

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Posted On Jan 26, 2019 - 05:41 AM

Simple. Relationship take work. It tests are weak vulnerability. And most men are raised with a skewed sense of power and distraction. And then chose to be cool, strong and frivolous rather than look deeper and commit to something stronger.

Emotions are hard to steer and takes times, effort and a shot loads of sacrifices on both end of a thorny road. P. S. We're also bullshitting a lot instead of communicating and understanding the other without instant judgement. And it's the case in society in general.

I've seen my straight gay bi friends break up for the most immature reasons and it's simple stupid. Nothing is black and white. It's all grey. Get used it.

I chose to sleep with guys and girls that are individuals, even if it's a one night rather than just *** for the sake off.

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Posted On Jan 29, 2019 - 04:50 PM

Monogamous relationship works. I have seen it.... Been with couple of guys for years..... Only problem is lust and greed for *** takes over all the emotions. Everyone wants get loved or to love someone special. It is just we should keep hope and try. We will succeed some day☺️☺️💯

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Posted On Jan 30, 2019 - 03:20 AM

My close friends are a gay couple and are together since 10+ years.. They are still together and always gives me a hope.. I wish I could be monogamous like them but i couldnt.

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Posted On Jan 30, 2019 - 10:48 AM

It takes a lot of strength to maintain a monogamous relationship. The reason being that there is free *** available so easily for men. Everywhere you look there is temptation- in the trains and buses we travel, in the loos, while walking in malls and crowded places. And of course the apps...
Inspite of being in a relationship, I was like a whore meeting other men almost every second day. My partner knew about my activities and still accepted me. One day he gave up on me- not entirely but just said- you do what you want to do. Now the realization has sunk in thanks to a couple of friends who have been advising me. I have managed to remain off cruising for over a month now. Deleted all my profiles, all my contacts who I used to meet, deleted contacts who used to pass me contacts. Blocked some. Now I feel relieved and so free. Using my time more constructively. Earlier I used to waste too much time hunting and meeting guys.
Trying to regrow my relationship with my partner.
I am sure it will work.

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Posted On Jan 30, 2019 - 11:25 AM

That's great news, spend more time with your partner and I am sure will be more happy that ever! Cheers mate!

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Posted On Jan 31, 2019 - 08:13 AM

tonedbloke, good. But shouldn't you delete this profile too?

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Posted On Feb 1, 2019 - 11:55 AM

I am not looking for ***. So keeping this profile does not cause me any temptaion. I like reading some of the posts and sharing my feelings.

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Posted On Feb 11, 2019 - 09:37 AM

To be honest, I have tried and failed. I kind of understood in this zone, it just doesn't exist and it's also absurd to expect someone to be with me forever. End of the day lust takes over and then there's society and so many other factors that sends the RELATIONSHIP out the window. As a bottom I've began this with lots of love and hoping that I'd be a perfect girl for someone but I guess that's not enough. It's almost hit me in the face to realize it like make the most of it while their is the age to enjoy and stop expecting anything like an emotional relationship from your partner.

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Posted On Feb 11, 2019 - 10:41 AM

@Tamarai , I understand your pain and frustration unless gay marriage is possible monogamous relationship is nearly impossible. In today's world most of them are behind lust only.But close friendship is very much possible provided we meet the right person for us.

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Posted On Feb 11, 2019 - 10:53 AM

@Libra - Thanks for the kindness. Yeah it's a bitter truth and I think close friendship is still possible as well but monogamy is too much to expect from a friend as it would never be mutual.

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Posted On Feb 11, 2019 - 11:53 AM

There are always two sides. Relationships fail even in a heterogamous. Everyone falls for for lust, men cheating on wives, wives who cheat on husband's,the list is endless. So would you call it a failure?
So chin up and put up a brave face and just keep trying. It takes time as everyone including you have "preferences" and "expectations". See beyond those two words you will see a lot of guys who long for love and affection.

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Posted On Feb 11, 2019 - 12:40 PM

This kind of Relation is not possible. If it happens ... then it is a Miracle ..

I'm a pure bottom. 99.9% of the Tops are actually straight guys who don't have a girl friend. So they come online searching for bottoms. Now ... I will be thinking that may be he is the ONE for me ... So we meet ... talk and then ... ***

Yes ... once he dumps his sperms on my face and *** ... his behavior changes ... He behaves as if he has done something ugly ... And he says ... "Look I'm getting Late. Lets meet some other time. And please don't call me or text me unless I do. Because I come from decent Family and want to be discreet"

I just feel like a piece of ***. I gave him so much pleasure thinking that he would be mine. Okay ... if not mine ... at least a friend who can be normal with me and acknowledge that I'm a bottom who gives him pleasure.

But No ... once they get what they want ... they just disappear

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Posted On Feb 11, 2019 - 04:18 PM

Naiduhot@....you are absolutely right...after enjoyment the so called tops treat us like prostitutes. ..I think if a guy says that he is pure top ,then he is not a gay at all ...he is using us as a cheap & safe substitute till they get married...a real gay gets excited by his friend's ***..kissing him and romancing him...these tops just lower their pants and ask us to kneel down...after spitting. .just move on as if nothing has happened. ...we feel guilty as if the top was not all interested and we compelled him...sorry state of affairs

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Suresh R
Posted On Feb 11, 2019 - 05:42 PM

Monogamous relationship is a different topic all together. Nice to see this thread. Gay or Straight, if the relationship flourish because of love/affection/mutual interests and then they also have ***, there is a chance for monogamous relationship. When we meet a person with *** in mind, its very tough to have a monogamous relationship whether its gay or straight. Unfortunately, whether we like or not, here many are looking for people to have fun / satisfy sexual desires / fantasies. This is similar to friends whom we meet for drinks, or a shuttle game or office buddy. Those relationships cannot be monogamous. It will sustain, as long as the goal is met (drinks / game / *** or whatever mutual interest they have).

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Posted On Feb 12, 2019 - 04:24 AM

I don't understand why do you jump to bed at the first instance? Why can't you understand the person better before you take him to bed? Why can't you date the person to understand him and then take it forward?
The reason why you don't is because you have the same raging lust as he does. You want to enjoy likewise ,so stop blaming. I am not supportive of" pure Top "breed, they are here only to *** and forget. Having known their true intentions, why do you entertain them? There are lots of guys who long to be committed, but we don't choose them. It's because of our vision is short sighted and we look for immediate pleasure as well. Patience is a virtue in all relationships.

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Posted On Feb 12, 2019 - 06:29 AM

@naiduhot & @maduraimutton, here's a little tip based on my little experiences. If you need more loving tops, just date the ones who are into kissing. It's a very good way of weeding out the straight tops who are interested only in a hole n don't care about your satisfaction.
This doesn't mean this will lead to monogamy. Just saying, it's helped me date better quality guys.

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Posted On Feb 12, 2019 - 09:38 AM

@Naiduhot I enjoy being used by a pure top who cums and leaves. If any straight guys want to use me as their *** dump I'm happy to let them do so. I guess we are all different.

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Posted On Feb 12, 2019 - 10:22 AM

@billpotts the subject here is not of being a ***-dump but rather having a emotional bonding. Its your prerogatory to be like-wise, to be just a use n throw piece, but here it's more of a relationship factor. You are way of topic to state about how different everyone is

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Posted On Feb 12, 2019 - 11:39 AM

Idk why people would behave like that. I mean you go through so much effort of finding someone to sleep with and the moment you're done you're gonna throw him away. What happens the next time you're *** and you want to have *** and you try to find someone but don't find anyone ?? Use your own hand ? I mean others are also people. Have some humanitarian. I mean you might have just shared something good. Just because you got pleasured doesn't mean anyone has any right to throw the bot away like a piece of ***. At least stay good friends. I mean you might get an opportunity to sleep again :) Plus Karma's a bitch. If you treat others like *** you will be treated like that in the same way in the future.

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Posted On Feb 12, 2019 - 12:21 PM

Am I the only one who think this discussion has taken a turn from Monogamous Relationship to Brickbating Top Males. 🤔

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Posted On Feb 12, 2019 - 12:28 PM

Lol. I think it took a turn long back. Like after the first few comments XD

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Posted On Feb 12, 2019 - 01:14 PM

@Tamarai , Yes dude , look for close friendship rather than monogamous relationship it would not lead you to disappointment. For one to one relationship to sustain we need bit of society,family support also sort of relationship like marriage which should be there. Without all of these people mingle and keep moving on which leads to sorrowness instead of happiness.

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Posted On Feb 12, 2019 - 01:43 PM

@Libra - Totally agree with you. That's exactly what I look for, mutual respect for each other's space and humanitarian behavior with a bit of trust. After all we are all humans and not animals.

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Posted On Feb 12, 2019 - 04:15 PM

All the previous comments in my opinion were kind of related though. What those guys are saying is that a lot of tops used the as cumdumps. So that throws out of the window, monogamy. And it's not really exaggerated. Because a lot of bottoms are ok being treated like that. I guess it's just them voicing how tops to *** n forget which seems like a top bashing thing.

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Posted On Feb 13, 2019 - 06:59 AM

Monogamous relationships are very simple and easy to keep alive if yours and your partner's need are clear. I have seen so many such relationships which are still flourishing even after 15years. When you seek a "top" or "bottom" instead of a date or friends, the relationship factor goes out of the picture. So if you are always h0rny and don't value true love over your lust, don't go for relationship stunts. I have seen so many bottoms who are ready to even sell their souls if they are getting a better guy(with nice body or huge black *** etc). So, understand what exactly you want, know your needs and then proceed.

And........Cheers for all of those who have that soulmate in your life. Life is very beautiful if you have someone, with whom you can trust, share everything and live as one!!!

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Posted On Mar 23, 2019 - 11:10 AM

Lots of comments for this thread....I guess most of them reflecting here what's in my mind about the relationship.
Irrespective mono or stright relationship success lies between both the parties and few environmental parameters.
Have seen so many guys relationship ended up after 3 ,4 or 5 yrs by influencing family, society , issues between both of them etc

The straight relationship keep continues (maximum numbers but not all)just because by adding responsibilities (parenting etc.,), Long lasting love, discipline etc.,

Irrespective of any sort of relationship , there should be honest, love and commitment lead into long lasting relationship.

Ps. The above post is my personal view based on the journey that I crossed till today.
In fact I was in a relationship for 3 yrs and I (we) made it to end due to few circumstances.

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Posted On Mar 31, 2019 - 10:13 AM

Actually its 100% possible to have monogamous relationship, the thing is most of the boys here enjoy all these now here now there kind of things, u can do that prior getting into a relationship, but once u are bonded plz pay respect to ur bond,the feel of secureness and intense love isn't out there in daily or routine fuckouts. rest is someone's own choice but a way of life and certain rule of ur own to enjoy life is the best.

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Posted On Apr 5, 2019 - 06:31 PM

It is completely possible! I was in one for over 10 years and it ended, since I had to leave the country and come back here. Best part is trust and no condoms!! I hated wearing condoms and it was great for the two of us..

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Posted On Apr 6, 2019 - 12:39 AM

Its purely possible... I lived as a girl as wife of one Muslim guy completely for almost 2 years.. Though he nd his uncle both were there so I was for them nd without condom for us is a nice feeling that you giving someone authority of being urs...

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Posted On Apr 17, 2019 - 07:30 PM

I hv had 3 relationships..the last one being the strongest. Went on for 2 yrs. I wasnt even sexually attracted to him initially but he use to force himself on me and as he was my classmate we use to spend a lot of tym together in class and also during free tyms. I didn't even come to knw when the frndship got converted into love for me..i use to look smart then maybe thats why he got attracted to me and later wen my beauty withered away he left me one fine day. But i continued to love him..now its almost 2yrs aftr breakup and i cant stop thinking about him. I dream abt him daily not even a single day i haven't seen him in my dreams..i hv wokenup from sleep as my pillow gets wet with tears. And all this puts a dagger in my heart everytym n twist...i have given up on love and i feel i will nvr feel the same with anyone...as no one is serious..everyone is running aftr glamour and hence

Better i find is to visit one of these cruising spots and shove my *** inside one of these hungry holes...finish the business..end of story..no hearts broken..

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Posted On Apr 18, 2019 - 09:47 AM

Relationships require a lot of work to keep them going. My partner and me have gone through a lot of ups and downs and have almost separated many a times. But we live together and so that kept us going due to convenience. I am sure if we had stayed separately, we might have drifted away. Tiding through tough times and periods of lull in the relationship is what kept us together. I am in a state now of being again in love with him. Even now we are dealing with issues but have now opened up the relationship and so the stress of cheating or being cheated on has now diminished. I know some will think that relationships should be monogamous. I feel whatever can make a relationship work, if it is mutually agreed by both partners, then go ahead.
My personal feeling is that physical attraction is required to make a relationship work. It is what starts the relationship most of the time. After some time the physical attractiveness might diminish but start looking at few features that initially attracted you. Those will never die down, like maybe his smile or his behaviour or maybe his lips/nose anything which you find attractive.
Again I say, having a partner is the most satisfying experience.

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Posted On May 15, 2019 - 12:19 PM

Monogamous relationship is one of the beautiful relationships to cherish. That’s why the older relationship is stable, eg: our grandparents and parents. Now we have lots of options since this is very discreet. You can always spark your relationship in terms of sexual desire. I know after a long time, the sexual desires come down and that’s when we start seeing options. But there is no harm discussing this with your partner and experiment among yourself only. Like I am in monogamous relationship for 5 years and we cherish moments together. Moments are created by us and we need to live up to that. The most important is you talk!!! express your feelings, desire and something you guys don’t like - Speak UP!! you both should work towards it.

Why do we want to cheat at the end, we are in relationship with a guy and we cheat for another guy? It’s just a sexual desire what one gets from a man. So why not your partner gives it.

Me and my partner always try something sensual . We live back our old memory.

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Posted On May 15, 2019 - 12:32 PM

This is wonderful thread . Most of the guys are so sensitive and their feelings . Wish I get a partner for my life .
Many look for only looks and physique . That can be changed anytime in life but getting a true love is important.

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Posted On Apr 30, 2020 - 11:11 AM

It is not easy more so for bottom I become bottom with my Kashmiri roommate senior other two will go out when Shafi sir want enjoy with me but after few days they say you do we will not look we four live in one room hostel within one month other two also start *** me I was reluctant then they threat. I not know about Shafi sir but it is love for me it is not in bottom had anything