Frauds- Where they are, what they do, how to avoid
Just thought of putting up a post for people to discuss all the troubles they have faced over the years. A lot of us have to deal with the paranoia of getting duped, tricked, mauled or any other dicey situation while cruising, and rightly so. So please post about your experience, the location, how to identify and avoid those people, and what to do if caught. This will help us be safe through our collective knowledge and prevent others from going through the same ordeal as us. Thanks Reply/Post a comment
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raju1987 | Posted On Aug 10, 2020
Yes the trap is become a fashion now. And many of them are involved. With the information people research here there are many guys who plan things and people fall to their prey. Think before u cruise and don't be desperate. |
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Babee69 | Posted On Aug 10, 2020
Stay typically away from profiles which clearly state "looking for housewife for satisfaction" or so called 4 inched BULLS
These lowlives generally prey on gay guys and seek either money, or may put us at risk. Mainly they fall from lower echelons of society ( no offense ) but these uglies neither have money nor any fem-honey to satiate themselves. Hence they resort to trapping! |
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letsfuck | Posted On Aug 10, 2020
There are syndicates of guys whose main occupation is this in NCR - Delhi. There have been many stories in newspapers about these plots. A bunch of young attractive guys get together and plan the whole set up. The target guys, especially married guys in Grindr and once they have them they loot them like crazy.
Indrachaap - well done ! You have given the mantra on how to deal with these goons. They feed on our fear. The best thing is to be fearless and give it back. Once they know you are not scared they will get scared and run away. They may try to abuse you and even beat you or push you around. The best way is to make a scene or start shouting to attract attention. That way they will know that you are not ashamed or scared. |
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Callboyindian | Posted On Aug 10, 2020
Its very risky now a days...there are news articles even in dailies like Times of India
One has to be very careful with regards to the people they select to meet. |
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ayam | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
Try to carry pepper spry for safety. |
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random_gay | Posted On Dec 23, 2020
Even there are guys on Grindr who pose as paid *** and ask for money in advance. This happened with me once. A guy from Gr approached me said he was paid and have safe place. Initially he looked genuine, offering his service for 1000 rupees but later insisted that I pay half of amount as advance.
When I said I'll pay in cash, he insisted on online transaction. This made me suspicious of him so I asked for his number linked Gpay. The number was different than the one he shared before for contacting him. When I searched the number of Gpay the name and profile didn't matched with him.
So I took screenshot of one of my past transaction....edited the profile picture and other details in paint so that it look genuine.
I shared the edited picture with him on Grindr and said the transaction is successful when can we meet?
He's next action was ....he immediately blocked me. When I approached him again with new account ...he blocked me again and started abusing me.
So guys be cautious there too...this frauds are everywhere. |
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Shankmumbai | Posted On Jan 2, 2022
Today got a message from one of the ohmojo guy
(Andheri East near Sher a Punjab place.)
Who wanted to enjoy. So I called him at my place(near airport road)
Later he asked me to also invite his Random 3 Friends and i said no.
Later he said I'll come at nearby your place so I went outside and he told me to take an auto n visit his place. So I took my friend's bike and visited his place. When i reached at his place, his picture was completely different.
In profile pictures are so dark complexion, in real a fair handsome guy inside a dark lane and his gang sitting in an auto outside the lane. And he keeps insisting to come inside dark lane.
I immediately left as I've been through same situations as it's not my first time facing such things.
Just don't be despo and go anywhere
Take precautions.
There are many frauds taking place like 2 tops calling you at some lane place, one guy will be at home and other will take your mobile and run away in lanes. They have a gang with sharp knifes so you need serious strength to fight. 2 of my friends lost their phones.
Just take care of yourself. |
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Kharbottom | Posted On Jan 3, 2022
I had same experience on Friday..One guy msg me blu×× that they are two tops with place at Vakola...I reached to valola spot then one guy came...He took me to adjacent lane..then told me give my phone to call other partner as he kept his phone at room..I didnt give my phone and instead asked phone number ..No one picked up..Then he told me to wait in lane and said he will go to too room and check with second top..Then he never returned.. |
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Shankmumbai | Posted On Jan 3, 2022
They invited me from blued and it was lane next to Santacruz station main signal where it connects to all roads towards Kalina. Bandra, Santacruz station..beside which metro work is going on. |
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HotBot | Posted On Jan 24, 2022
I have been cruising for almost 17 yrs now and with God’s grace have been fortunate enough to never have a bad experience but recently I was abt to have a bad experience but I stopped at the right time. It was a Sunday and I was cruising whole day and met a few in 2/2 train compartment and went for a few drinks in a bar but did t meet anyone. Late at night while I was returning walking from Nana Chowk towards grant road station this man started following me and came and asked me the way towards the station. I said thts where I am going. He said ok I will walk wid u. I knew he was looking for some fun. Looked like a roadside cheap fellow but bcoz I was *** I entertained him. He then told me let’s sit for sometime so we sat outside a shop and he started touching me and asked if I have place and I said no. We made out little behind a shop and then he told me let’s go on the skywalk. For people who are familiar with south mumbai wud know Nana Chowk has a huge skywalk. I have been there in past wid a few decent guys so I thought it shudnt be a problem. As we reached a point where it was empty I told him to stop as we cud do it here but he insisted on going to extreme end which I found fishy. I was walking behind him. As we reached extreme end I saw a man standing there and the same second I took a uturn and started walking back as quick as I cud. This guy kept following me and started walking wid me and told me I don’t know who he is etc etc . I told him to just go but he kept walking behind me. I finally took a cab and left from there so he can stop following me. I felt it was a trap for me bcoz people who know dis skywalk wud know if ur standing on top it gives u a clear view of what’s happening on the road. What I am assuming cud be wrong but for my own safety I didn’t want to take any chances. Infact I remember while making out wid him behind tht shop he told me u have nice Bluetooth |
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RealGayMumbai | Posted On Jul 28, 2022
Learn to identify fake photos and if they don't share before planning any meeting, don't meet.
don't go to his place especially if it is in remote areas and not many people around, meet at neutral point in a cafe or a bus stop and make sure he is real as he shows in dating apps then keep an eye around surroundings when you actually decide to go to his place.
Most Importantly....
Don't panic if he threatens to call neighbours and police if you are in his place, since 2018 it is NOT a criminal offense for 2 Adults to have consensual ***, especially if you are in his place you don't have to worry.
Keep the chat records screen shot.
Even police can't charge you with anything if two adults are having *** in privacy.
However, police can charge you if you are caught having *** in Public anywhere whether you are Straight or Gay on the grounds of public indecency etc, it doesn't matter if a Guy+Girl or a Guy+Guy or a Girl+Girl, if it is in public they can charge on the grounds of indecency, in private 2 adults can consensual ***.
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SalmanDear | Posted On Jul 28, 2022
@RealGayMumbai
Nice Inputs
Also one need to plan on safety during fun. Sometimes in the heat of the moment, you go into actual intercourse without protection which is super dangerous. So always carry safety with you.
I have seen this dangerous behaviour in Video Parlor cruising spot where people indulge in actual s*x without any protection with multiple partners. |
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Indrachaap | Posted On Aug 2, 2022
I do not know whether I am a right person to give advice to someone or not but here are few suggestions from my side -
1. Never ever give your family details to unknown persons in first chat.
2. Don't carry valuables while meeting people through any dating app.
3. If you have two mobile handsets then carry that mobile handset in which there is no any banking app or dating app.
4. While meeting people always be confident about yourself.
5. Never meet any person without knowing him properly.
6. Always be ready to fight with fake people.
7. You can take help of Humsufer trust or any such organisation to take action against such frauds.
8. Think very practically about your surrounding conditions and then take help of police.
Happy Cruising
Indrachaap (इंद्रचाप) |
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Babe_inBed | Posted On Aug 28, 2022
I had an bad experiance few months back and i had literally stopped coming online for almost 6 odd months.
that day i was very *** and wanted some company, a guy started talking with me here and said he have place and i can visit. Address he gave was the colony opposite Oberoi Mall Gregaon East.
when i went he kept saying coming and asking what am i wearing and all, then suddenly one MUS guy with beard wearing Dark Black Glasses aproached me as said " jis se milne aaya hai wo mera bhai hai aur ghar pe bahot mara us ko and *** "
they he demanded money... OK i had to pay because i had shared my number and have discussed every personal details about family in whatsapp chat.
To all here, this guy is MUS guy with one EYE... his left eye is gone and wears dark glasses to hide this. He called me at Oberoi mall but his tone was like we hear from Kurla side folks. |
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Hoty1995 | Posted On Oct 22, 2022
@babe_inBed.... Same happened with me in few months back...this guy chatted with me over ohmojo n we shared mail id for future chatting...he called me near pathanwadi at 5am as he having place that time only ... I rchd over there n some one called me by my name ...so I go there by to check that guy....after that guy ( he is middle age uncle around35 or above) with wearing black goggles n face mask told me...mai jise baat kr rha tha wo ek murder h n m from ngo come to rescue you...hamne us bande ko aage pakad k rkha h ..n situation are under control...by this time trickly he got me phone in his hand ...now he was saying why u want to do this gay stuff all this wrong ...u must stop all this... Den I listen all his saying ....n I ask him to give my phone... Den he was saying I hv to pay him charges for his ngo around 1600 some where.... I clearly show him my balance ...n said I don't hv money ...den he started threatening me about my location....n my patience got finished ...I also started shouting him ....n pushed him with my all forced n escape from that place...that was horrible experience I had....after few days I saw that same guy in gokuldham market buying home stuff.... that guy is residing over there only may be. . From this i learned never share ur personal details in first instance ...n do not trust any one |
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Hoty1995 | Posted On Oct 22, 2022
Also before pushing him away he asked me to delete my ohmojo & email ID permanently ...n in fear I also deleted the same ...later I came to know he was deleting all the evidence from me after showing my balance. He also threatening me to submit at police station for having gay *** chat |
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amoldesai2011 | Posted On Oct 22, 2022
Reading these experiences, I have STOPPED meeting guys altogether...I never have place and even if someone with place invites you over, I find it difficuilt to trust the person,thinking there may be a trap laid and I would just walk into it and be a sitting duck...My take... Go to any gay party and enjoy there fearlessly. Pick your choice, hit the dormitory or a secluded place at the venue and Njoy yourselves thru the night. But yes, one has to have the patience to wait for these parties and attend them wherever and whenever they are organised. |
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raju1987 | Posted On Oct 22, 2022
Seriously this is become so common these days. It's risky to visit someone and also to call someone at our place and also to enjoy in cruising. You never know what will happen next minute. Lost all the trust in people these days. Better to hangout or meet someone who u already know. Rather we should have a guy who will be a friend as well as be for long term atleast u can trust people after 2-3 meets or sharing bed if this person deserves to be with u for long term |
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Nipsip | Posted On Oct 13, 2023
Hi guys, this discussion is worth reading. I want to share a recent incident with me. I was on GR few days before and just saw a profile of an American nearby me. I don't remember exactly whether he has started the conversation or me.after chatting he told me that he is a US citizen and is interested. I asked him how his profile is nearby me and he also don't have any clue about it. I casually invited him to India as I know nobody will come to India from US just to have fun.we shared our WhatsApp number and started chatting , VC was also a part of our chatting. Within 2-3 days he told me that he is coming to India to meet me. I was super excited but told him don't to waste money just for meeting me. Also he send a pic of Rolex which he is bringing for me.But he booked the flight tickets and shared it with me.(I blocked the number now so all chats disappeared).
Today he called me at 9 - 9:30 am and told me that he brought USD 245000 as cash with him and he was stopped by immigration department to pay tax upon it. Someone can import / bring any amount of foreign currency in India but need to fill currency declaration form. As per what I have read on internet, tax which is charged on foreign currency import is 18% which comes about 44100 USD. And that guy is asking me about some 45000 - 50000 INR . That much calculation doesn't came into my mind at that moment neither I have idea about tax on import of foreign currency. But the moment he disconnected the call , I blocked his number. At the same time I received a call from domestic number mentioning custom on Truecaller.It's a common fraud technique where fraudster tell u that he send some gift and it's stuck on airport . In this case the fraudster stuck on airport and ask me money and that too incorrect one means as per calculation it's USD 44100 and he is asking INR 45000.
Now few points which clicked in my mind -
-Why is he asking money from me if he has USD 245000 with him.
-He booked flight from US to Delhi stating the reason that there is no direct flight to Mumbai - Really, I don't believe
-can someone bring u Rolex on first visit when u came in contact with the person only 4-5 days before -may be but I doubt
- checked his FB profile , it has only 2 pics, no other post, joined in April 2023 and there is only 1 friend . (Although His friends profile looks normal) - looks suspicious
-why custom has called me if a foreign national is stuck . Later I have called on that number but nobody received the call. - really custom calls the host if someone is stuck on airport and that too only 1 time.
As per me I have blocked a fraudster and not a potential date.
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Chuckle | Posted On Jan 15, 2024
Wow, I was so ignorant about the crime against gay community in India. Last year in the month of Jan & Feb 2023 I was traveling around all the major cities in India and I used Grindr to hire escorts and/or to meet young guys, I had no problem at all. Ignorance Bliss, I guess. For some reason all the boys were asking travel expenses of about Rs.1000 for taxi which I had no problem. The boys who ask for taxi money are very young which is understandable. I should be very cautious in my next visit to India in Feb., March & April 2024. I haven't visited Mumbai for a very long time, may be more than a decade, thought of spending few days in Mumbai. But don't know where to stay.
Guys, could you please be kind enough to advise me where to stay in Mumbai. Read somewhere on online that Colaba, Bandra & Juhu are the best place for gay tourist to stay in Mumbai.
Any advise/information will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
Charles
Love Dark & Spicy Meat. |
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CheekyBubbleboi | Posted On Jul 24, 2024
I always believed that cruising spots are a great risk to us. A cruising spot is known to be a cruising spot for a reason and is known to most of the goons and cops. This fact alone makes it extremely risky. So I have never visited even one cruising spot in my life.
Best is to look for people who have a safe place and meet in a crowded place at daytime or a well lit place and then proceed. Never ever share any of your personal details like number, email, face photos, job location, your social media profiles, home address etc to anyone even if the person seems genuine.
What's the use of sharing these details anyway, this is not Shaadi.com. Just meet people, have safe fun, make friends and stay in touch on websites like ohmojo. |
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Maduros45 | Posted On Aug 11, 2024
Yes, even I git someone who was just 3km away from me, when I messaged him, he said he is from Dallas, Texas, USA, and asked me where am I from, I was surprised how someone who is in Texas showing 3km away, that would be Andheri or Bandra. To test him, I said am from Fortworth. He asked, where is that? I immediately understood this is a local fraud, who knows nothing other than few random places in USA, plus a fake picture of a foreigner in profile. BTW someone in Dallas not knowing where Fortworth is, is lime someone in Mumbai not knowing where Thane is or someone in Delhi not knowing where Noida is. |
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