Managing dual life

How are you managing two different lifes simultaneously being a gay/bisexual and a family man...?

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Adwait420	Posted On Mar 9, 2025 Rahulxv It's Very Much Easy And Made My Life So Easy When My Ex Boyfriend Broke up With Me I Told My Home That I Am Gay I Can't Tell Them Lie And Can't Keep On Hanging My Family That I Am Straight And Look For Me A Suitable Girl Now It's My Time To Get Marriage The Most Important Is That I Don't Have Feelings For Girl Don't Know Why But I Don't Have Feelings For Girl I Can't Destroy My Her Lifealso Even Though I Want To Live Whole Life Single 1 Guy Is Dating Me Hope For The Best And Our Vibes Match
No Picture Kappu_k	Posted On Mar 9, 2025 @adwait420. Great work. Kash baki log ye bat samajh pate...bahut log ye khud ki or dusro ki life sharab krte. Sirf apni image bachane k chakkar me. Wo log khud hi khud ko accept nhi kr pate to family or society kyo accept kregi unko......saf saf bolna chahiye nhi pasand to nhi pasand....but uske liye Himmat chahiye...or sbse phle khud k dimag ki clarity chahiye.
No Picture Explorer0690	Posted On Mar 9, 2025 It is difficult, my home tutor was married.. after his wife left with someone he started seeking all kind of *** around everywhere. Turned to be gay. After few months/years she came back later got divorced stating he is gay.
No Picture Rajivstud2	Posted On Mar 9, 2025 @Adwait420...that's all fine but why does every word start with a capital letter? It is so annoying to read
No Picture BtmBoyRJ *	Posted On Mar 9, 2025 I m bi , married for 5 yrs. I am able to handle both keeping my wife satisfied and getting *** by tops. Its a game of balancing both life styles. Making sure both the sides are equally satisfied
No Picture Bandrasc_hlong	Posted On Mar 9, 2025 It's not difficult, must always keep the two seperate unless you have a kinky understanding partner that doesn't mind you playing joining or watching
No Picture Rajeev790	Posted On Mar 9, 2025 It's so difficult to survive as a straight and gay at same time. But my sexual desire is much more and I also want to involve her in this but she denied every time.
No Picture shera_badmoss34	Posted On Mar 9, 2025 @BtmBoyRJ i am also married since 3 years, and trying to get *** but the chances i get is very less, even though i told my wife about my desires and she fingers me also. But i dont have courage to tell her that i had *** with someone else, it may ruin our relationship.
No Picture Sandeephard *	Posted On Mar 9, 2025 I think even unmarried men are living dual lives, straight for the society, and gay/bi while having sexual encounters. But the mental gymnastics married gay/bi men can do is incredible. I personally won't be able to do it, even though I am bisexual. Unless there is a girl who is okay with having a bisexual husband and an open marriage, but I don't think such girls exist. FoBetter to stay unmarried for some of us.
No Picture stuck_alone	Posted On Mar 9, 2025 i opened myself to my spouse but she is not much open minded about it. I did not want to cheat but realized that it was mistake on my part not everything is fair .. i never had *** with guy but i always want to have an emotional support from a man who is more than friend .. i
No Picture Sandeephard *	Posted On Mar 9, 2025 @stuck_alone Sorry to hear about it brother. Men relying on each other for emotional support can be a beautiful thing but guys rarely look for it or talk about it in gay /bisexual community. It is my dream to have nice bromance with a like minded guy.
No Picture Silverkok	Posted On Mar 9, 2025 My BF and I both are married. He's a bi top Ik a gay bottom. The outside world sees me as a very pious type man. I have many kids wife They love me respect me. But I'm sure once they knew that their father is a gay, they all will not want to look at my face. All respects and love will vanish. That's the only reason I love my boyfriend soooo much as he loves me in both forms. A religious guy as well as his bottom partner. We love each other the true love really. We share our family and personal matters with each other. Find solutions. Respect each other's families. We are happy. But we both have to hide our relationship from them, otherwise his newly wedded wife will not spare a moment to leave his house. But we both can't live without each other. I love him and he loves me too.
J6.5inch	Posted On Mar 10, 2025 @SilverKok Keep it up buddy... Hamari dua ye aap ke sath hai... I have somewhat similar story But my BF is yet to marry...
No Picture Hotpole29	Posted On Mar 10, 2025 I have been doing it all.my life with ease
No Picture Hemant1990	Posted On Mar 10, 2025 Hey all, I am Managing my dual life for more than 10 years now.. Earlier i had the privacy to dress whenever i want and keep my dresses for myself, But now i can do it only when wife is out of station and throw it when she's back. I become a sissy when i do CD and with my wife (She was my gf also for 4 years before we got married 3 years ago) i am a straight husband. I have met many top/bi/ bottom's before and have had fair amount of fun, But now i'm looking for a longterm friendship with a top/vers and secret fun. Anyone in Bangalore can connect with me for this.
No Picture boy_homo	Posted On Mar 10, 2025 there are many dual role guys .. I feel bottoms are good husbends to their wife in terms of caring .. I got quite handful bot who were slaves a decade back now mostly they are happyly married .. very few % turned out to be cuck and mostly happyly marrid and when wife is not in town . they will get satisfaction from their trusted long term partner. Indian women are not that open to accept thery hubby is gay bot.
No Picture BtmBoyRJ *	Posted On Mar 10, 2025 @boy_homo agree with u 100%
No Picture cindrella_c	Posted On Mar 11, 2025 managing. im not married. still it needs to be managed for family and friends. im nearing 40. all questions come from all sides. this is regular life. personal life is different. the comfort given by young top lads keeps me going.
No Picture MusclePigBottom	Posted On Mar 11, 2025 @cindrella_c: Same boat as you. I put myself through the arranged marriage process just to say I tried. Thankfully the women rejected me for the most part so I seem to have gotten away with it :)
No Picture koushikchnbot	Posted On Mar 11, 2025 @musclepigbottom if we had annoutlet for our desires in the form of a long term partner, that is enough. Marriage isnt necessary
No Picture Bussywussy	Posted On Mar 12, 2025 You guys.. this has been a very interesting read and take on perspectives, I believe on both sides... I'm single, been in a relationship, mid 30s... I understand and can relate to some perspectives while others such as by those who are married is interesting.
No Picture Kumar_Aman	Posted On Mar 12, 2025 married myself, 20 yrs now.,,. the urge for ***, craving for touch & intimacy keeps getting stronger each day., with no end in sight my desires are stronger than my wife, she is getting passive every year on the contrary *** with wife is weekly once or twice - even then i find myself seeking in the middle of the week, someone to *** me off... weekly guilt and promises have not helped. How many of you are in same Shoes as mine ?
No Picture Rakesh4986	Posted On Mar 12, 2025 @kumar_aman I believe the same happens with most of us married gay men. Even I feel the same. *** with wife once in week or sometimes even in a gap of 10-15 days, sometimes not even able to satisfy her but continuously finding guys for gay *** or jerk off regularly resulting in guilt feeling but unable to help.
No Picture Bussywussy	Posted On Mar 12, 2025 Do you guys feel lonely as age advances?
No Picture Bussywussy	Posted On Mar 12, 2025 Question is for all married or single.. I'm in my mid 30s, and I feel lonely already at times. Sometimes I like being alone, sometimes not... so is it the same with all? As age advances?
No Picture Kumar_Aman	Posted On Mar 12, 2025 hmm....@Bussywussy No, never lonely I have no regrets,.,.happy with my life, wife and all things considered,.,. I am bi-sexual so to speak,.,.(still love p*ssY) Plus, one can't generalise, my response is mine other';s may feel differently @Rakesh4986 .....well said, i can relate...(but I always satisfy her,.,.(my wife)...she never *** / orgasm with penetrative ***,....so I make sure I pleasure her to orgasm (fyi)
No Picture Kumar_Aman	Posted On Mar 12, 2025 I am so happy to Post here and share my thoughts, while reading responses from guys who feel the same. (I am not alone) tx for this Post ! Cheers !
No Picture Easy_mark_5	Posted On Mar 12, 2025 Nobody knows that I am gay. In my office once a fair looking muscular but shorter and weaker than me guy approached me for gay *** because he was mesmerized by my forearms and physical brute strength. He wanted to get *** by me. But I pretended to be a straight guy and told him that he needs to become a real woman with tits and *** to get *** by me. But in reality I am a dirty sissy whore who would drop to her knees at the drop of a dime to *** *** if I knew that nobody would ever come to know about this and this man whose *** I am about to *** would never find the people that I know ever. My parents don't know about my sexual orientation. Deep down I am a gay bottom sissy *** whore who wants to get her *** hole licked and *** hard. I want to have my nipples licked and bitten by men while they *** me hard. But still I have to act like a straight man in front of society due to fear of getting ridiculed and judged. My parents would feel so ashamed and defeated. I am their only child. Because of my muscles and always angry face men check my pecs, shoulders and biceps out a lot more than women. Infact women don't look at me at all.
No Picture CCBomb	Posted On Mar 12, 2025 My parents & siblings know of my bi nature. It was difficult to tell them for the first time thinking that they would hate me but it turned out to be my own imaginary fears. My family is open minded and it didnt bother them that much! There was no drama. No crying. No threats. My siblings were the first to know and they support & look out for me! And only after discussing with them, i worked up the courage and I was able to tell my parents. Better me than some hateful aunty or stranger tells them. Only my closest friend knows about my bi nature. My family wants my happiness and thats all that matters I guess. I am not married and dont plan to. Although, i am lucky to have a nice GF at the moment who goes along with my kinks. As for cross dressing, my family doesnt know much about it since thats between me and my partner or when I am alone at home. I am careful with my lingerie & toys and I am fortunate enough to have my own space in my house without worrying about anyone going through my stuff. When i was in my teens & early 20's I was mostly looking for one night stands with girls like most guys, its only as i grew older and met different types of women and then men that i was fully able to understand myself and also learnt to mange this lifestyle along the way.
No Picture Hemant1990	Posted On Mar 13, 2025 You are very lucky @CCBomb.
No Picture CCBomb	Posted On Mar 13, 2025 @Hemant1990! I know, and i am very grateful for that fact! I am very lucky to have such a supportive family if it weren't for them I would be a tormented individual like most people in this lifestyle! By no means am i saying we are the perfect family and have our ups & downs! But I am always thankful for their support & understanding!
No Picture Bussywussy	Posted On Mar 13, 2025 @game_start.. sorry, I think what you're suggesting is called sexual exploitation.. you're suggesting offering seats for sexual favors or in the hopes of sexual favors or maybe in the hope of getting sexual favors. Kindly do not promote this method anymore anywhere.
No Picture lvrkalyan69	Posted On Mar 13, 2025 @easy_mark_5 - your parents are not supposed to know. You can have fun. Give a glimpse of your *** to your office admirer . It will make him happy.
Suraj_Top	Posted On Mar 13, 2025 Good evening, First and foremost, be proud of who you are. There is absolutely no shame in being gay or identifying as a pure bottom. Your identity is valid, and you should never feel otherwise. However, the unfortunate reality is that society, with its deeply ingrained prejudices, may not be as accepting as one would hope. No matter how much progress is made through movies, web series, or discussions about inclusivity, societal mindsets take time to change, and many people still hold narrow-minded views. For this reason, it may be wise to keep your personal life and fantasies private. While you should never feel ashamed of who you are, openly expressing your identity in an unaccepting environment could invite unnecessary challenges. Protecting your privacy can help you avoid unwanted scrutiny, judgment, or difficulties that may arise due to societal bias. Ultimately, your happiness and well-being should come first. Live authentically, but also be mindful of the reality around you. Choose the spaces where you feel safe to express yourself, and remember that your identity is yours alone to embrace, regardless of how others perceive it.
No Picture Crossyanamika22	Posted On Mar 14, 2025 Its so tough specially for middle class
No Picture kojjodiniii	Posted On Mar 16, 2025 I was mastrubating more like 4 to 5 times which made me weak with mine. i did marriage but no much *** after 2 years which i m managing . now i m turning into bottom .if u r aware of this feelings early. shouldnt be in marriage relation . . roniel. u r correct
No Picture Akshay Kumawat	Posted On Mar 17, 2025 @kojjodiniii same here that's why I didn't get married. I know I will not be able to satisfy my partner. Neither she will do that kind of things in in bed which I like. It's taboo in Indian families. Also i might not be able to give child.
No Picture bisxxdman	Posted On Mar 22, 2025 Have u guys ever gave thoughts to a cuckold - hot wife relationship ( marriage) , where you don’t need to worry about satisfying her or giving her a child as she is free to *** with whoever she likes, whenever she likes with your consent of course while you remain in restraint and if a bottom can be caged too. You live your gay life but be her soulmate and she satisfies her physical needs with someone else?
No Picture versbot40	Posted On Mar 22, 2025 @bisxxdman its better for a bottom if his wife agrees for cuckold hotwife relationship. This way they both can remain sexually satisfied and live their life happily. Being a bottom I can’t satisfy my wife so we adopted this lifestyle soon after our marriage. And enjoying life fully.
No Picture Behance11	Posted On Mar 22, 2025 I’m living a double life right now with my girlfriend. Would love for both of us to get high and have someone come and *** her. She orgasms so easily, I make her come 3 - 4 times a night without even trying. Most I ever got to was 12 times a night. She has a really tight *** and I love *** her but it would be amazing to watch someone with a bigger *** *** her (she keeps saying I’m huge, I want to show her what a real *** can do to her) while I watch. But I also want to be involved. I feel she would never agree to this as she’s pretty traditional, thinking of playing some cuck *** next time we’re *** to see if she’s into it. Any other tips? Dm me.
No Picture bisxxdman	Posted On Mar 23, 2025 Behance11- are you serious about ur relationship, I mean r u going to marry her?
No Picture Sevenday	Posted On Mar 23, 2025 @behance 11.. Hi dear..dont try ur fantasies on her..she is putting love trust and faith in u..respect her and her privacy..u enjoy ur dual life as long as u want..but remember *** is just not physical pleasure and release..once u get married u can then try all ur fantasies..
No Picture stuck_alone	Posted On Mar 24, 2025 Hi all. Bisexual married with 2 kids. Never had x with guys. I watch just p0rn late night (it has become habit, i hate it too) and release my tension but lately my wife is making big noise and making hill out of mole. I feel i am wrong but dont know how to naviagte this. Idk how to explain her that I seek emotional support from a man too but wifey is being super homophobic and possessive. Its difficult. Lessor learnt never expose yourself even to you trust the most and your feelings to anyone because i thought she would understand but it backfired. All homophobes are same. Its better to keep your feeling only to you because they will not share and understand what you going through. I cried but she thinks I am being useless and my feelings are sin and null & void.
No Picture Roykhannaa	Posted On Mar 24, 2025 @stuck_alone i am sorry brother.. im too stuck alone.. and going through another level of mental and sexual issues.. i feel u man.. !