Moving to a new place for good life

Just a discussion for guys who have moved or thinking about moving to another place in India. Do we feel that it is better or worse to live away from your family or hometown? Please share your experiences or thoughts! Not all of us have the means to move to a foreign country, but any experiences of moving to a different city? How is that like?

What kind of opportunities do you think moving to another place in India offer? How does one decide where to move to? What challenges can one face in a new place? Is moving away from home or a smaller place needed for guys to live a better life?

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No Picture DilJale	Posted On Mar 6, 2025 There are many people who wants to stay alone. I came in contact with one guy who thinks like that. His dream is "ek ghar banunga pahado ke bich kahi, logo se dur." Sometimes I imagine that life style. It would be a great experience to stay with nature....I saw many yout*be videos of house Makiing where they built small house in woods, do farming and finshing to survive. I thik this is the best way to stay happy where no one will judged you. But I bet no one can leave their roots, job friends family and society. It is not possible to survive alone.
No Picture Akash1433	Posted On Mar 6, 2025 Staying alone is always the best option. One can travel every where they want, enjoy the time and nature and whatever the life one likes. No restrictions
No Picture blueboys	Posted On Mar 6, 2025 Nice topic open
No Picture Youngguy123	Posted On Mar 6, 2025 I am planning to stay unmarried. I am not 100% sure yet, but like 80% i can say. Doesn't mean I am comfortable in moving to mountains, for me it sounds good as a long vacation plan, like for a month or so, but permanently moving away from city lifestyle will be depressing for me. I am just too used to cities, especially Mumbai. I am preparing for having job and i reject all offers requiring me to relocate. With the exception of parents, I would like to have as much privacy and loneliness as possible in house, but I don't want to be alone outside. I can't give up on friends and chaos of cities I am used to! Primary reason not to marry is I can be independent to travel and have no financial burdens, kids' responsibilities behind me. These things just pull your legs and i don't want to drag along just for sake of doing it. I see many straight couples just dragging it, there's hardly any real love between them. And i want to stay with my parents because I love them, and secondly while we want to have as much freedom as we can, some kind of restrictions are necessary to keep ourselves in check, for our own good. For example once i met guy in 2by 2 local train, it was 11pm. He said he is unmarried and lives alone while his parents are in village. Dude didn't have dinner and was extremely hungry. Yet hunger of *** seemed to dominate and guy was travelling to and from in local trains since 5.30 pm, without eating anything! He himself told me all this..When you get too much freedom after staying away from families, given how gay world works, it's easy to become *** addict and forget all other hobbies and even need to eat! This is something to think about before making decisions, and i am analyzing myself from that angle.
No Picture koushikchnbot	Posted On Mar 6, 2025 Moving away from my home really helped me mentally. But unfortunately, I'm in US now and its hard to find desi daddy tops here. So, it hasnt exactly been a complete positive.
No Picture mat40	Posted On Mar 7, 2025 It's a much needed change. At first I dreaded it.. Then as days, months went by, I was just waiting for it. It helps reset your life in a way. Although coming across certain people in the building ( new neighbors to be exact) you come to know who to talk to and who to avoid, more like... Keep distance. Your mental health comes first. You start to realize there's just zero tolerance for unnecessary drama and trivial things. On the other hand, I do wonder what it would be like staying alone. Only time will tell.
No Picture Sundarmduguy	Posted On Mar 7, 2025 I thought moving to new place in my case USA will bring me peace and sense of calm to life , no it hasn’t even out to my close friends is not enough because I still report to Indian managers and living with need of Indian people in my life to whom I am still not comfortable to be out yet and I haven’t found anyone to take that risk yet. Nowadays I feel I should just move to India and stay little far away from home so that I can rush to home when I feel alone a lot but I can’t because I am far away and I built my career to be in USA I don’t even know how to start in India now, haven’t even able to apply for one single job in india. And now I am rambling in post of starting fresh but in conclusion that is not always good or fresh start
No Picture Easy_mark_5	Posted On Mar 7, 2025 Indians are always so racist and self depreciating. Always thinking white validation will save them and uplift them by giving them the respect that they craved so badly since childhood. Why do we need to go abroad? Most Indians that want to go abroad have settled abroad have the same story:- India is so dirty, corrupt and there is so much crime like daylight robbery and murder. As if these things don't happen in USA or other white countries. I too want to go and settle in USA sometimes when I can't take india and Indians anymore. But then I realise that I will always be seen as an outsider by goras and white skinned people. It has become cool to make racist jokes on twitter not just by whites but by Asians and blacks as well against Indians. The khalistani and mexicans hate Indians and Indian origin people living in USA too. So think twice before moving out of India. I know India is racist towards its own people and acts like puppies in front of white skinned tourists. But still india is your home. You will never be allowed to be a part of their society. Most Indians go there just for dollars and a liberal judgement free society. But now trump has become president. So all LGBTQ Indians and software engineer of Indian origin will have tough time outside India. Hte against Indian has been increasing for the past five six years. Think ten times before leaving India.
No Picture Sweetsixty	Posted On Mar 7, 2025 @Easy_Mark_5 I appreciate you put your views in apt words. I totally agree with you.
No Picture Deepakkamble	Posted On Mar 7, 2025 It's my dream to live in a bunglow in panvel get married to my crush who is a shemale , but it would take more 8 months to complete my house, once its done my Happy time will start
No Picture HeavyGayman	Posted On Mar 7, 2025 I want to live in the mountains somewhere in himachal or uttarrakhand hhave my own eatery ..run my own eatery ..enjoy the pure breeze ..air and away from city pollution ..noise ..n chaos ... hope Mahadev ji helps me ...in this dream to become a reality
No Picture Shivaprakash	Posted On Mar 7, 2025 Grass is always greener in the opposite meadow, East or West house is the best. Happiness and satisfaction is not in place it’s in mind, happiness is not located in geographic location any place will soon start to boring, stay home is my preference
No Picture Shashank_mum931	Posted On Mar 7, 2025 Isolation is peaceful but it comes with lots of good-byes Sometimes you feel lonely, sometimes enjoy solitude. People say that i will move on and start a new life but There's saying "You can't put everything at right place"
No Picture Ecityblr701	Posted On Mar 7, 2025 Well said Shiva prakash..
No Picture Iambotmhere	Posted On Mar 7, 2025 Ranchi offered me a balance between cost of living, relaxed vibe and facilities.
No Picture Sundarmduguy	Posted On Mar 7, 2025 Nice of people being judgmental here just because people going abroad doesn’t mean they are looking for validation from white it more like if we stay away from relatives we will stop getting questions for which they are not ready for answers and other things and their situation might have been forced them into that choice at that time people can always change their mind unless you have constructive feedback please and my point on topic was same as others it might not be one size fit for all. I had enough offers and sometimes it’s not just whiteness or whatever I have found people who like me for me but it’s me who is afraid of commitment which is what causing me question things that new place doesn’t mean good always, thanks shiva Prakash and Shashank I didn’t had that thinking ten years prior. Ten years younger me thought isolation is what I needed now I know I was wrong it’s just that I didn’t meet right combination of people outside my parent and sibling who I know always will miss them I was running away from relatives and extended family now I know I should have said shut up it’s my life i don’t want relationship I just want friendship in this life
No Picture bomgay_looking	Posted On Mar 8, 2025 Some really great points made! Like I said, it is not uncommon to speak with guys who feel like they will have a better life abroad. But I feel like there are many who want to stay back in India itself (or are forced to stay back because of financial conditions, family responsibilities, etc.). Do we feel like moving places within India, away from your familiar village/town/city offers good opportunities in life? Most people move for work in India, but do your sexuality and desires have a role to play in deciding to migrate as well?
No Picture Rahul xv	Posted On Mar 8, 2025 Best thing in the world is living alone, no restriction no responsibilities. Better to live in the city where no ones knows you so that there will not be any guest related issues
No Picture GanuTop	Posted On Mar 8, 2025 I am living alone for last 25yrs... and enjoying... I do anything whatever I like... j go anywhere... I sleep as long as I want ... I eat whatever k want... I do whatever I love.... i keep relation with boys girls old married single..couples... organise events... enjoy different shades of mood.mm
No Picture Arry	Posted On Mar 8, 2025 I wish i could also live with my independence i am gay my family pur much boundation its too much effecting my life i wanna get out of this thing for that i have to earn is there anyone who can guide me tell me what thing i can start doing right now to earn and be independent.
KARTHIIKTHAPA	Posted On Mar 9, 2025 Hello everyone So I’m just here to say that I desperately wanna change my job and move to other place in Bangalore Any sort of job is fine if it’s related to HR then it would be really helpful In return I can give you fun So yeah please help me out in this
No Picture Arry	Posted On Mar 9, 2025 I wish i could also live with my independence i am gay my family put much boundation its too much effecting my life i wanna get out of this thing for that i have to earn is there anyone who can guide me tell me what thing i can start doing right now to earn and be independent.
No Picture ***	Posted On Mar 10, 2025 People having been moving for better life, and better opportunities since the beginning of human evolution. You need to figure the reasons you need to move. Anything done without a proper research and plan is bound to fail, so identify the reason, resources and options before you make a move. Also know that - Being alone and lonely are 2 different things. Some people enjoy being alone, while others thrive on energy of others. If you are in 2nd category, you will not thrive if you are not adaptable, open to new culture, food habits, and new experience. If you are running away from family, relatives because you are being pressured to get married or avoid questions of your sexuality, then changing location is not going to change things for you, it is mere change of geography. If you plan to be independent, then you need to work hard... know the road map of being truly independent. 1. Research why, where and when you want to make the move. Are you financially able to make this move happen. 2. Be financial independent, money makes things move faster. It also shuts lot of mouths. If you are poor, then no matter where you go, you will be made miserable. 3. If you are 18-26 years, focus on your education, get some skills, develop expertise, so with those skills and experience, you can make a move. 4. If you plan to be in India, then know that Indians, no matter which state you choose, they will be gossip mongers. Getting rental for single independent person is difficult. You can be married and whoring around, society has no problem, but the moment you say you are single, 90% landlords will deny you rentals. Be ready for that. 5. Learn life skills like cooking, bargaining, cleaning, shopping, and other chores around house, you will require that to survive. 6. Focus on you health, both physical and mental- join a gym, get a hobby, socialise, make friends ( this again is difficult in India, because gays wants to screw around when place is available, but will not want to engage with you socially) 7. You are going to age, so ensure you are planning for your retirement, medical needs. 8. If you get in relationship, understand the legalities of your partnership. Ensure that you and your partner and your assets are protected in an event of death or separation. 9. Ensure that you have a living Will.
No Picture Arry	Posted On Mar 10, 2025 Its Hard life if you if family put so much boundations on you i wish there must be some solution
fifty	Posted On Mar 10, 2025 I had not planned it. I was transferred to a different place in another state when I was 27 - the ripe age when parents and relatives start pressurizing you for marriage. And I didn not become a free bird at the new place w.r.t gay ***. Had very few encounters - again circumstances was a factor, but my cautious nature too played a big role. By the time I had come back to my home town, had some health issues and told parents straightaway that marriage is not for me. I guess this is a good strategy for those guys who do not want to marry Move to a new place, focus on your career If a relationship happens , thats a bonus , considering the social and legal surroundings in India. But do take good care of your physical, emotional and financial well being.
No Picture DecentBott36	Posted On Mar 18, 2025 Better to find friendly city near native place. You can easily visit n keep in touch with family. Give some excuses and keep postponing marriage. That will work mostly. Living isolated life is not easy. You need to be monk to do that.
No Picture naughtymale2408	Posted On Mar 19, 2025 Nice topic here Due to issues in personal life I have been staying alone since last few years. Mumbai - Bangalore - Mumbai It has both advantage and disadvantage of staying alone you miss your family on weekend or on festival have to cook for yourself if u fall sick u have to take care of yourself , friends and partners u can't expect them to nurse you Advantage is u r ur on boss , u can spend ur time as u wish if u have a good job then there is no limit u can easily manage ur time for your passion u can date anybody do what comes in your mind
No Picture SiSSY___AYUSHi	Posted On Mar 23, 2025 I'm a secret crossdresser and I'm looking for a decent man for live in relationship far from home in any big city.
No Picture bomgay_looking	Posted On Mar 26, 2025 Looks like most of us want to live away from our families because of the freedom that comes with it! I don't know how life can be for a gay/bi man in a small city or village and what sort of opportunities and difficulties there are over there in terms of living your sexuality. But there must be so many concerns and challenges which come with moving to a new place?