Infatuation to separation in no time.. heartbreaks
We all must have felt this pain once in a lifetime. Let's use this thread to share when and how u realised that the person you are infatuated to is not worth your time and what you did to cope up or if still struggling. Though it has nothing to do with cruising spot but felt it is an important thread for the beginners. Reply/Post a comment
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Toshhhh | Posted On Dec 3, 2024
I was new in Delhi , shifted around August and met that guy in Kamla Nagar , that was my first date in Delhi , he was 22 Vers top , when we met he hugged me , and then we went to his flat , talked a bit and did everything except *** , he was so so so good , being a top guy he gave me sloppy bj , I really had a great fun with him , I didn't expect that my first date is gonna be this much goood , we shared contact and all , after that we met after one month and at that time he asked me to *** him but I denied , cuz ik it very well it is gonna hurt him alot cuz my *** is too thick and long and I didn't want to hurt him , and that time he asked me to meet him , I didn't reach out to him bcz I want him to ask me to meet , in between I fell for him , started liking him from the bottom of my heart but our second meeting was our last meeting , after that he never texted me back and when I texted him he said I'm bit busy will meet later , but he was online on GR by this name WP Always and it hurts a lot , I'm still not able yo forget him , I still do visit nearby his location but I don't have enough courage to face him , I want someday we see eachother on the road side. , he didn't even save my contact and it's been 1 and half month since we talked , I don't know what I did but he's ignoring me for no reason and the shitty thing is that I catch feelings for him , and he doesn't feel the same way and now he's ignoring me at his fullest, I don't know what to do
I really wanted to be a part of his life , I want him to be my first and last but he doesn't want the same . It hurts , it hurts a lot :-) |
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Sahaisab | Posted On Dec 3, 2024
Hi, I don't know whether one month is considered as short period or not....it started in a what's app group of like minded people (mostly bi curious). There was one guy started chatting in person after few weeks of me joining that group. Initially it was all very general chats and then voice calls followed by occasional Video calls. One fine day he said that "three magical words". I wasnt sure about that but strange feeling stated developing inside and reciprocated after a few days with the same words. We agreed for a meeting in a event organised by that what's app group admin. It was almost a month that we started behaving like lovers with each other.
Our meeting was great, it was in his city so took care of me really well and I was overwhelmed with all those gestures.
After coming back to my city we kept on chatting and calling each other almost every day. After a week or so I felt that duration of call is getting less day by day as he started responding in Ha/ achha/ theek hae/ ok/ baad me baat karte hae and so on.
I pointed out all those and discussed with him. He was in the same mode ha achha ok theek hae etc etc....
I decided and stopped calling him from my side just to see whether he calls me or not......to my surprise it was all over with in 1.5 months.... Ha ha ha... |
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Justwntsmfun | Posted On Dec 4, 2024
The reason I started this thread was to know if i was overthinking or not but it seems it is so common. Mujhe 2 mahine pehle ek ladka mila GR pe. Mein kuch dosto ke saath ghum raha tha car mein (do dost aage aur mein peeche) aur mene apna GR on karliya. Wahan ek cute sa ladka mila. We exchanged a few text and then i told him ki abhi mein friends ke saath hun and ghar jake chat karta hun. He said okay but kept sending sweet, romantic messages. It felt so good. Pehle kuch din, humne GR pe hi baat ki. Fir humne whatsapp pe connect karkiya. For the first week, normal chat with voice notes only. Usne apni kuch photos bhi share kari (no nude). Agle hafte, humne voice call bhi start kardi. Woh itna sincere, romantic type ka insaan laga. But suddenly, everything (messages, voice calls, voice note) reduced. Mein use regularly message, voice notes bhejta raha but ghanto tak uska reply ni aata tha. Ek din mene use poocha ki abhi to mile bhi nahi hain hum and abhi se mann bhar gaya. He said nothing like that, thoda busy aur kuch nahi. I said okay and kept messaging him as and when possible. But same thing continued from his side. Honestly, uske baat karne ke tareeke se, uski care karne ke tareeke se mein bohot impress hogaya tha and had developed some feelings for him. Then my positive feelings for him turned into some desperation where i would keep waiting for him to reply, was not even able to concentrate on work or family. What bothered me the most was woh whatsapp pe online aata tha, GR pe online aata tha but fir bhi reply nahi karta tha. Mostly jab online aata tha, mere message nahi padta tha but online dikhta rehta tha with last seen. Message read bhi karleta tha to reply nahi karta tha. Fir bina kuch bole, mene bhi use message karna band kardiya. Woh message bhejta tha to bhi mein ghanto tak reply nahi karta tha. Ek din uska message aaya poochne ke liye ki "naraz ho mujhse, online aate ho reply bhi nahi karte ho" i guess now he was feeling the pain i felt for him. But me being me, i started connecting again with full love n interest. It lasted for 2 days and same behaviour started again from his side. Then i completely stopped replying to him. Its been over 2 weeks since i sent him the last message but he keeps calling and texting. I have not yet blocked him. It seems, people here are only looking for timepass as in when they have time I should be available but when i want to talk, they can't even extend little courtesy. I wish i could tell him that it is not only infatuation from my side but a little more and i am happy to offer much more but i need a little respect, and thodi koshish uski taraf se bhi. Mein ek time pass karne ka zaria nahi hun bas.
Am i wrong here? Should i call him? I just don't want to feel hurt. I have had many relationships in past but never felt so bad. I even spoke to my bhiya about it and he said to move on and find someone else but he doesn't know yet that i have developed some feelings for him. I keep reading his old chat, voice notes and keep looking at his photos :( |
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Justwntsmfun | Posted On Dec 4, 2024
It would help if people on the other side of the table (jin logo ne dusro ke saath yeh kara hai, ignore n stuff) can share their thoughts as to why they do what they do with soft people like us. Aisa kyun ki tum shuru mein bohot time dete ho and suddenly mann bhar jata hai tumhara. |
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Toshhhh | Posted On Dec 4, 2024
@Justwntsmfun
I can understand you , it happened to me multiple times and I really don't know kya mil jaata h bndo ko aisa kr k , starting me sb kuch itna shi and eventually they loose interest
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Justwntsmfun | Posted On Dec 4, 2024
Aaj hi mujhe 10 message aaye hain pure din mein. He keeps messaging me saying sorry, to pick up his call. I guess the lesson here is, don't give people a second chance to make first impressions. If u know what i mean. I am blocking him now... Thank u toshhh |
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Anirudhbottom * | Posted On Dec 4, 2024
Mujhe toh har jagah dhokha hi milaa yr the reason was probably because i was ugly & dark skinned chubby shorty guy
When i was in first yr of college one guy said for relationship i met through telegram aur yehi meri galti thii kuch din use school ke bande ne babu sona krke baat kri then he said he doesn't like me I have a mental problem tumhe koi aur mil jaeuega i become angry on him i blocked him completely then i saw him later active om telegram
There was another guy senior from me he was from s private college of Noida i chatted with him he was very good in drawing he was very good looking white tone I asked him to meet he first said yes he in interested in me then i sent him.my pics his behaviour 360 degree changed he changed tone he said he can be only Just friends then usne message krna Bahut kam kr Diya he stopped messaging me sometime he used to sent his art his home was 40 km away i was still wanted to meet Atleast once he always gave false excuses even when i called him he said who are you will talk yoh Later eventually decided to avoid him no messages nothing a week later or further he texted me & sent me his art i enquired him itne d |
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Anirudhbottom * | Posted On Dec 4, 2024
Dino baad kyon yaad kr liya you just rejected me yoi should have said me you don't like me he said it's all your fault
Them there are some plenty of guys which i met on telegram whose task is to just ask pics and block me delete history that's me
Still guys here ask telegram id 😑😑😑😑 |
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Justwntsmfun | Posted On Dec 5, 2024
Anirudh our situations are little different. U sent your photos which made the other person lose interest (as described by you). In my case, it was just voice calls. I would have understood if he had seen me and then rejected me because i was not his type but in my case, the issue is when i show interest, he loses interest. Aur jab mein use bhaw ni deta, use meri yaad aati hai, baat karne ka mann karta hai, romantic ho jata hai. It seems my guy wants someone jo uske aage peeche naachta rahe. Anyways, mene use block kardiya hai. Ab i hope mujhe aisa koi insaan na mile future mein. |
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disle23 * | Posted On Dec 15, 2024
Interesting thread. I wish i could share my experience but I can't.... But my 2 cents of this topic, sometimes it is not you, sometimes it is not them but it is simply the fact that it is not meant to be. So instead to developing self-doubt, or blaming someone else, learn to move on. |
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