One of the hardest phases in a gay person's life is self acceptance. It is a battle that most of us have to fight alone. While some of us finally win the fight, a large number of persons lose it.
Knowing that I'm gay and accepting myself as gay was actually completely different. I was already struggling with my sexuality when I watched the movie "Dear Zindagi". There in a scene, Alia asked a gay boy "Why do you visit your therapist? Is it so that you can tell people that you're gay?" The boy replied "No, so that I can tell MYSELF that I'm gay"
That's when I realised the importance of self acceptance and started working out for that. It took me long to finally accept myself. But I think it would've been easier and faster if I could talk to someone.
So how was/is your experience? Pose share them. Your story can inspire many others like you.
And also to the ones still struggling, if you want to talk to someone, feel free to reach me. I can be the non-judgemental ear when you can still be anonymous.
|
| Displaying 1 to 50 of 64 comments. |
| Previous comments: 1 2 |
|
No Picture
Naveenkumar1145 | Posted On May 2, 2019
In my experience, accepting to your self or even saying it out loud is very important and at the same time very difficult thing to do. Especially when there is no one we can talk to(which is in majority of the times). I remember saying to myself that I'm not attracted to men while I was thinking about someone I found attractive. And once I slowly began start thinking its OKAY to be attracted to men and saying it out loud, I felt super relaxed and happy within myself. That also gave me courage to come out to my close friends and family. |
|
No Picture
Mehtaaa | Posted On May 2, 2019
Main abhitak khud ko as gay accept nhi kar paya hun, its very diffcult. Confidence pe bahot jyada affect karti hai ye baat. Jab log lgbt ke bare me bat karte hai ya haste hai tab bhi aap kuch nhi kar sakte :( |
|
No Picture
Auzy versatile | Posted On May 2, 2019
Dont let history interfere with destiny. We have to stop being a victim of circumstances & start living the life we want |
|
No Picture
Anush53 | Posted On May 2, 2019
We bottoms are setting up our mind as we are Gays, but society and 75 percent of gay sites are taking advantage of us. All friendship and love trust all the things going up to bed only. After *** bottoms are again alone only. I can't see any true friendship and love after *** in my experience. |
|
No Picture
kingofdesire56 | Posted On May 2, 2019
@Anush53 Then maybe you just have met the wrong people till now. I mean there are some nice people out here as well. Who just wanna have a friendship. *** is secondary. Sometimes you just wanna cuddle and talk as well. Or much less just chat. |
|
No Picture
ALWAYS4U | Posted On May 2, 2019
Self acceptance of gayism may not be much useful but having self respect is a good concept which teaches you to respect the guys who are gays. Don't blame the society, society is nothing but a group of people like us and we are part of society. Try to make yourself comfortable and accept the gays who come across in your day today activities of life |
|
No Picture
ALWAYS4U | Posted On May 2, 2019
Anush53, i agree with your comments but all are have their own life besides ***. Loving passionately with your mate is different from having possessiveness on your mate. your passionate behaviour makes your mates close to your heart but your possessiveness makes them uncomfortable in their life. I have 25+ years of friendship with my bottom guys as we have a strict partition between our sexual life and friendship. Giving heart is much easier but console the broken heart is highly imposible. First realize that our sexual relationships are different from MF relationship, moreover most of the top gays are bisexual and having thier own family which the society accepted and made by them with heartfelt bonding with the members of their family. The bottoms respecting the family relations of their tops, can maintain a bonding of family friendship with their top guys. surely you will get lesser pain than you are presently getting with the situation you explained on 02.05.2019. merely doing *** is not make you happy adding heartfelt bonding with your mate will surely make you feel happy and the moments memorable in your life. Try once, surely you will get happiness in your life. |
|
No Picture
Coolbisu91 | Posted On May 3, 2019
Anush53, no good relationship starts with ***. Two people can just meet due to other circumstances and like each other and finally fall in love or, if they aren't lucky enough to meet the partner from their day to day life, then they can start it by a simple date. *** is an important part of a relationship, but that can never be the starting point. So of you're, going for an One Night Stand with a guy, enjoy the ***. Don't expect for something great starting from that. It is called ONE night stand for a reason. |
|
No Picture
letsfuck | Posted On May 4, 2019
Anyone who wants counselling and support can approach Humsafar Trust. It is an NGO working in the LGBTQI space. They have a panel of counslers and psychologists who are qualified and experienced. Your identity will be protected. Do not suffer alone. Please seek help. You can directly go to their office on Vakola or you can fix an appointment. The details are available on google. Search "Humsafar Trust"and you will get the address and phone number. |
|
No Picture
Mebtm | Posted On May 6, 2019
Anush53 u are absolutely right I also feel the same thing
We Bottoms are jst for fun no real relationship ...........
We are taken for granted
|
|
No Picture
Anush53 | Posted On May 6, 2019
Mebtm, I'm appreciating your expression openly. Many of our gays are expressing their opinions in a something hiding manner. They always pointing the weakness of bottoms. They are really not the part of our Gay world,but they are really straight Tops only to use the bottoms in the name of friendship. They need only the pleasure of ***. But their talking is like a counsellor. |
|
No Picture
Mebtm | Posted On May 16, 2019
Then what about bottoms their life
But gay marriages happen in foreign countries
@anush53
And I dont want to be used by someone it's very slutty feeling
Y God made me a gay ??? |
|
No Picture
Here4Love | Posted On May 16, 2019
Hello everyone...
Actually the concept of gay is basically wrong in our country ..People don't know what does exactly gay means..so the problem arises that one section of our community is being used & looked down .
There is a misconception in our country that gay means those male bodies who are born to get fu*ked. They want to fulfill body desires so that they pretend to love men & want relationship . It is very well equal to female prostitute...like it's oftenly said that prostitute doesn't have heart to love ( also one of the dialogue from the movie DEVDAS of 2002) .
But then how it should be ????
GAY means a man who is interested in another men. This is what everyone knows...
But if one goes deeply - it means a man who loves other man, a man who likes the company of other man, a man who likes to watch other man, a man who loves the smell of other man, a man who wants to share his life with other man, a man who loves being admired by other man, a man who want to earn & spend for other man & much more ...etc etc & finally reaching to bed for sexual desire ofcourse afterall that's what it should be ideally..
& Ofcourse in reality there is no top or bottom ...it's just a guy when in bed just likes to *** & one likes to get ***..it's very simple ...
But in our country it's used as a Surname ...like I m Mr.XYZ bottom or I m Mr. PQR top etc etc ...that's strange
& We revolve our life around those two words which make things go in wrong direction. Bcoz of which problem arise.
But what exactly happens --- *** , *** & *** ( maximum cases) . & the word relationship is used for those sexual intercourses which are done to maintain a single partner for long time & when the purpose is over ...there is no *** & the dummy so called relationship is over . ( again maximum cases as there are rare exceptions ) ....
Now comes the love part ... Ofcourse love means having special feelings for each other & all ...but if we go deeply again it's a big science with no facts & exact definition but is purely based on mutual understanding , trust , loyalty, responsibility towards each other & much more...
But in real in our country Gay relationship doesn't have these things as base...It is called love as it based on the pillars of trust , loyalty but the pillars of understanding & responsibility towards each other are less in use .
Like in straight couples it is being taught that no matter how much difficult your relationship gets at a point of time, give it a time find solution , be with each other , it will be on track again ...
But here its just walk off ....no responsibility no understanding ...( again exceptions are there ) ..no working on problem for solution ...
Coming to very different note....
What Ancient Indian mythology says about Homosexuality ????
Answer is simple : A person who has homosexual orientation should never marry the person of opposite gender . ( Bisexual ofcourse have the option to marry ) .
& one can easily find the statues of homosexuals having *** in many archeological places in India ( won't take the name ) which clearly signifies that it was allowed in our culture.
Coming out part ???
Now-a-days much of the Indian population & foreign population also has started accepting the fact that Ancient Indian culture was rich as well as was based on logical basis ...so the reasons to facts are such that one can trust them as they are logical ( now here m not talking about the superstitions & all just talking about such texts which really are logical & even used by foreign scientist & researchers ) coming back to the thing ...
What I suggest that referring the texts which are relevant to this & then have a logical & culture based reason to support to coming out to someone...bcoz here people think that homosexuality is foreign concept...
So try to give reference of our own culture so that it is easy to accept & trustable by Indian population .
Now coming to Marriage part:
Again here Ancient Indian texts are silent but allows *** between consenting persons as well as Indian law says same thing . But one more thing ...According to Hindu Marriage Act ( don't know about others so excuse me ) two consenting adults can marry according to their wish after or at attaining the age suitable for marriage. It is completely silent which two adults ....between male-female / male-male/ female - female ...so again it's not clear.
So homosexual marriage can happen but is not considered....So now that ???
Numbers play the game --- if a huge number of homosexual ( gay/lesbian) start to have real relationship & intend to marry , they should marry ...ones the number will start increasing , obviously it will be noticed & slowly slowly society & law has to accept & legalize it ...
What we think it's the govt. & society job to accept us & legalize us ...
What if this would be the thinking of freedom fighters ( they came to rule us so its there job to leave our country ) what would have happened ?!???
Even if the considerable amount of population goes & settles in foreign countries so that they make a family & live peacefully ...then again the govt. will have to consider afterall bcoz of its mistake only it's loosing its youth & workforce .
Talking about emotions & other factors :
It's okay that the gay person who likes to play bottom role feels his man superior to him...Why ???? I know it's natural but why ??
Now-a-days even in straight couples there are signs of equality & now people think both should be at par ( no superior both equal) again this is supported by ancient Indian texts .
Coming to our part ...if we start giving respect equally to each other then this problem won't arise...
It's the fault of both ( the person who calls himself top should respect the other one & the one who calls himself bottom should not over respect& surrender the other )
It's often heard that bottom are used like materials & all
Obvious answer : if u give yourself in wrong hands that's gonna happen ( don't anyone take it personally )
& m saying this bcoz don't always blame the other ...he also gets tempted & you also ...but to stop that thing from happening it's in our hand as we cannot control the other person's mind ...So don't ever think your blamed for being used but ur blamed bcoz u didn't used your power which u have...See afterall for our ownself one has to stand rather wasting energy blaming the opposite demon who did that ( again don't anyone take it on themselves ) .
Recently I read in some thread that being Gay is only right when u have *** otherwise it's a shame to be a Gay on this earth by not having *** ???
By the way no one has the right to decide the purpose of anyone's birth in this world ...So if anyone thinks it's a shame then from such point of view every single orientation is a shame....Think over it
Thanks |
|
No Picture
Ankit v | Posted On May 18, 2019
I need to talk to someone about the confused feelings i have. I am very depressed everytime i climax because i cant accept the fact that i am a bi. The moment i climax and c*m, I am not bi ,i am straight again. Just because of hormonal disbalance due to overmasturbation, i think i become a pure bottom boy who likes matured tops! This dual nature puts me in a big dilemma and often makes me think i am insane and brings me to the brink of suicide. I cannot believe the amount of stigma and shock ill face from my family, my friends, my cousins, my relatives if they come to know about my bi nature. I have had numerous risky encounters and great pleasure from many tops, but now its wearing off and i dont feel ANY excitement anymore , nor girls nor boys! Maybe i broke my *** hormones and they are eventually dying out? |
|
No Picture
wingedcupid | Posted On May 19, 2019
Ankit its heartening to read your message
Good news is even on a worst case scenario this does not warrant suicide
Try talking to happy gay friends...or else write your feelings as it is in a mail to yourself. Read it after 10 days. U wud feel how silly we worry about things as time goes on |
|
No Picture
Edward75 | Posted On May 19, 2019
I love being a bottom and have no problem being a *** bitch to straight or top guys. How can you look down on what you are all about. Message me and let's talk any bottoms feeling depressed |
|
No Picture
handsomedude30 | Posted On Jun 11, 2019
Yes, Ankit. Most of the so called gay/bi people on this site have a similar situation. They have come looking for *** from another guy because they couldn't find a girl to have ***.
And many people on this site are *** watchers. First they have watched lots of *** and masturbated a lot. Now they want to take it a step further and have *** with a real girl. But unfortunately they are not able to find a girl. So they come here looking for a guy to have *** with. They think something is better than nothing and satisfy themselves with a guy.
Give these people an option to choose between a girl or a guy to have *** with and I think majority of them would choose a girl. |
|
No Picture
A B | Posted On Jun 26, 2019
Accepting yourself is a task. Knowing if you're in the right path. Well it becomes more difficult when your own people put you down. Give confusions and doubts into your mind. But it is a real important task that one has to take. |
|
No Picture
Alwaysready | Posted On Jul 5, 2019
@Ankit v if still you are going though such turmoils do let me know if u have passed it of .. Well n good ... all u have to do is talk to some one u are realy confortable. we in this forum also had such phase to go through some had passed it some are still pasisng and few had matured in it.
Do reach out for any kind of help as i am part of Sahayavani - Helpline i will provide u those links to proceed to come out of your feelings |
|
No Picture
Suvess | Posted On Sep 9, 2019
Hiii guys..i need a suggestion.. i m 26 yr old, you may laugh on it bt i m not sure wat my orientation is.. I like the company of mens/ boys of my age, i like to watch hot or naked guys in gym, on sites on mobile etc.. Bt Whnevr any guy in cruising spot touches me or touch my privates, i dont like this..evn make me uncomfortable despite of being good nature of dat guy, i dont knw why..
Also, sometimes my family talk about my marriage in future dat scared me.. i know this may ruin someone's life who'll tie to me.. i Cant confess/tell my family wat m i.. wat i like... i knw they will never tolerate n accept this.. wat should i do ?? |
|
No Picture
Lips4hugepoles | Posted On Sep 9, 2019
Those guys in cruising spots, what do they touch? Your ***?
Kind of relevant, because maybe you're not top |
|
No Picture
Apb | Posted On Sep 10, 2019
@ Suvees
Hi it's natural,, still you need some time to open up,, choose anyone with whom you are comfortable, and explore,,,,
No need to worry about you future marriage life,,,,
Once you trust your partner, then it's a smooth flow,,, tc |
|
No Picture
Amar.c | Posted On Sep 10, 2019
@Suves, I was in a similar predicament myself. I enjoyed gay erotica, sometimes even watching gay ***. This got me questioning my sexuality since I've only been with women all my life and enjoyed it a lot. To decide once and for all of I was bisexual or just like gay *** as a festish I met up with a guy on ohmojo to see if I was attracted to him and if I end up having ***. Once I met him and talke stop him it was apparent that I only like gay *** on screen and don't really like men touching me, it wasn't because he was unattractive but because being with a man didn't really turn me on, I even tried to kiss him but I just didn't like it, I didn't feel anything when I kissed him. I still rarely enjoy sexting and sending gay guys a picture of my *** or butt, but that's the extent of it. I wish I was bisexual, I could've had way more *** than I do now, guys are ready to have *** way more early on than women but I guess I'm just not into guys, just like gay erotica or *** as a fetish. So meet s guy and see if you like being with him. If you don't then you're probably not gay. Try to do the same thing with a woman too, preferebly not a prostitute. |
|
No Picture
Debdas | Posted On Sep 10, 2019
@Suvess, let's at with an example. Does a normal average straight girl like it if a stranger touches her inappropriately? She definitely doesn't but that doesn't mean that she's not into having ***.
We, the gay community have set different set of internal rules for ourselves because enjoying *** in our own way used to be a crime here even until a year and 4 days back. So the cruising spot and *** with random people used to be our easy escapades from the reality...
But that does not necessarily mean everyone has to like that. We are different persons with different choices. May be you are not liking the idea of having *** with a stranger. And that's perfectly normal.
There are multiple possibilities for our genders and sexuality. They are not binary at all. You can fit anywhere within the spectrum and it's completely alright. So my advice for you will be to stop trying to fit within those set labels of gay, straight, bisexual etc and just keep on searching for what you like and what or who can make you happy. |
|
No Picture
easyguy | Posted On Sep 24, 2019
Debdas- absolutely true. A person should not restrict himself or get bounded by gay, bi etc orientation. He should go ahead for harmless fun |
|
No Picture
Lips4hugepoles | Posted On Sep 24, 2019
True. It's a transition that I've witnessed. From straight to bicurious, to bisdxual, to pure bottom. Didn't let myself be narrow minded or restricted to anything and it led me to my true sexual identity |
|
No Picture
Sunnyb9 | Posted On Sep 25, 2019
this is exact dilema i faced in my transition from straight to bi sexual it is bit confusing , but i suggest just go with flow never keep boundaries or limitations to thoughts flow with life , it will show it's beauty accept whatever it is. |
|
No Picture
bisxxdman | Posted On Sep 25, 2019
Most mammals are bisexual. We humans are mammals too so biologically we too are but our mind is conditioned by education, religion, society,customs etc |
|
No Picture
shapeoflove | Posted On Sep 25, 2019
My experience of me accepting myself as gay wasn't that hard but not very smooth too. I had obstacles on my part that i needed to go past through. I started feeling attracted to boys from a very young age. And I didn't know until the day a friend of mine explained to me about human reproduction, that men and women also have *** with each other. And later i read about it in my biology textbook and it was totally shocking as well as confusing to me at that time. The real problem started only after that. But before that revelation my life was pretty simple and carefree. I always have a fascination for sports since my younger days, so i used to spend most of my time playing different sports with my local friends in my locality. But first time in my life i started questioning myself and concern about my future started. There were so many questions in my mind that were unanswered and my confidence took a major blow. Most of my friends had also started making girlfriends at that time and they always used to talk about girls.I couldn't connect with any of their talkings and started living alone in my own confusing world. Also, most of the hindi movies at that time used to show gays as a funny character and society making fun of them. Also i come from a middle class family where my parents are quite traditional. All these things further didn't help my cause.
But the real turn around happened to me when i passed my 10th grade. I started reading about several personalities around the world. Also i started reading newspaper on the regular basis. I came to know about several famous gay people around the world. And it helped me a lot. I started believing in the fact that gay people have great respect in the society, even though our society treats us differently. Also the introduction of internet in my life was a boon to me. Several hollywood movies also helped me a lot in understanding things in a better way. Films like Philadelphia, A single man, Milk, Brokeback Mountain and several others changed the course of my thinking. Now, as a 21 year old young man, i proudly accept the fact that i am gay and don't wish to change a single bit of my sexuality. I know i am unique in my own good way and the rigid rules of our society bother me the least now. |
|
No Picture
Mg_123 | Posted On Sep 26, 2019
@shapeoflove.. nicely written..
many of your thoughts are reflected by me
but have you come out on open about your sexuality?
how has been your experience |
|
No Picture
shapeoflove | Posted On Sep 26, 2019
@Mg_123Yeah, i came out to my younger cousin this year. It was just through a casual conversation that i told him about my sexuality. And his reactions were very cool and supportive. |
|
No Picture
Aravbala | Posted On Oct 14, 2019
Being a bisexual is a hell I can't go this side or that side I can't accept myself as a gay I like to be straight but I'm getting much attracted towards boys and also I like girls without accepting both I'm so confused wat to decide |
|
No Picture
humki | Posted On Mar 21, 2024
Self acceptance is very important and this entails a lot of fights with the self. It's hard for some people to accept that they do not follow the conventional method of loving. We humans are trained to conform to a certain standard and when we deviate from that is when we start to question. For this requires not just a fight with the prevalent societal norms but with oneself. It's not easy for all people to come to terms with the fact that they do not belong to the so called "normal". It's also the amplified by the disgust that is shown towards homosexuals (in the larger society) due to lack of awareness and understanding. So one has to come to terms on multiple fronts such as
1. Liking/loving someone from the gender
2. The thoughts that the other person might not like you back
3. What does society think
4. What will my family think? Will they be OK? Will they throw me out? Will they have the courage to stand up for me? What will happen to their societal standing?
5. Will I ever find companionship (I will avoid using the term love here)
6. Will I be lonely
And much much more...
It's not easy at all... but it is important for self happiness that one has to come to terms with oneself. We are what we are... we all belong, maybe not just at this moment... there are many more like us... just need to find the right crowd.
Once we have this, we will start the process of self acceptance. |
|
No Picture
Roykhannaa | Posted On Mar 21, 2024
Nice man |
|
No Picture
jaidesai69 | Posted On Mar 22, 2024
@suvess: as you are still young, you find yourself still unsure. if you like men but dont like them touching you it is because you are afraid your feelings will let you fall for them. so you keep yourself aloof. it does not help your confused brain trying to deny what you enjoy seeing with your eyes.
marriage: you have to decide for yourself if you REALLY want to or not want to get married. forget about family and society. it is upto YOU!
if you have decided not to get married, you have 2 options: 1) go overseas 2) get a GOOD UNDERSTANDING doctor to diagnose that you have *** problems (erectile dysfunction). then open to your family that you are not interested in marrige because of your medical condition and let the doctor speak to them too. this may take a year or two to settle as your parents will want you to get some treatment for the problem (which you dont have) and later you can say NOTHING IS WORKING. |
|
No Picture
jaidesai69 | Posted On Mar 22, 2024
@shapeoflove: you have beautifully laid bare your young life story for others to learn from. WELL DONE AND ENJOY THE ROAD AHEAD!! |
|
No Picture
jaidesai69 | Posted On Mar 22, 2024
@here4love: good facts to learn about. |
|
No Picture
*** | Posted On Mar 23, 2024
It is the threads like these make me miss the chat applets like indiatimes chat, yahoo chat and others. These chatroom though majorly catered to hook ups, also provided platform for people who wanted to just chat.
I think having a live forum for people connect and talk is very important, especially who are struggling and try to come to terms with their orientation or preference.
Thanks Coolbisu for starting this thread and the overwhelming support from all the commentators.
Cheers!! |
|
No Picture
humki | Posted On Mar 23, 2024
@***: totally agree... there seems to be a lack of forums to discuss important stuff... we are caught up with such superficial discussions that we have lost to act towards our own cause. |
|
No Picture
Womaninmanbody | Posted On Mar 23, 2024
I sometimes wish it were as easy to get women in India as it is to get a gay man to *** in India. I wasn't gay always. Even though my first sexual experience was with another guy from my class itself in class 8, I still never really considered myself to be gay. Even now the old me violently tries to come out and take over. I don't know which is real me anymore. I wish a similar blog forums existed for straight people where I could get women. But we all know that all of the Craigslist or locanto personal ads are made by escorts or pimps. Most of those pimps and escorts are fake who will block your number after getting advance money. But a gay man is desperate for *** so we can *** men even without money. Some are paid. Most aren't. I turned towards getting sexual gratification from gay men when I got tired of waiting to get it from women. Women in India are gold diggers who only want to get *** by foreigners or rich men. I fantasized about women so much that I started feeling that it would have been better had I been a woman myself. Being a woman in India is playing life on easy mode. Every thing is free. Dating is easy. Lakhs of men compete for one woman but only two three compete for one man unless that man is a politician's son, IAS officer or some celebrity. I would have been a bisexual had I been a woman myself. I would have kept playing with my naked body whole day and earned millions of dollars from onlyfans or instgram. Lol. It *** my mind. Now I workout like a monster. No one would be able to tell that I secretly fantasize about getting *** by equally strong men like a bitch in heat unless I tell them. Even though I am a tough guy on the outside, on the inside my mind is ***. I don't know. I am *** tired. I want to be caressed and hugged. I want to cuddle naked with a man who is physically stronger than me but understands me and knows how to *** me. But it's difficult to find such men. Forget about getting understanding men, it's too difficult to even find men who are physically stronger than me. |
|
No Picture
Desidesirex | Posted On Mar 24, 2024
@Womaninmanbody , this is the classic gay hookup problem mem only seeking pleasure not connecting.
Some time I feel the same. But problem no one want to connect with community. Like bottom bottom can be friends and top top . Or top bottom....
Guys try to make online friends via chat or mail.
So that we don't feel lonely ... And can share some feels and what is going on with one another. |
|
No Picture
Womaninmanbody | Posted On Mar 24, 2024
*** played a huge role in turning me gay..I never used to watch gay *** but now my erections are strongest while watching gay ***. That too when I imagine being the bottom getting roughly used by a hardcore top. I could have had gay *** with so many men by now. But I still don't go for it because I know that the top is going to just see me as a slutty gay loser who wants to get ***. Tops don't even consider themselves gay in India. The moment I let a man enter me that moment itself he is going to turn me into a woman and I am just going to be a *** doll for him. He is going to think very cheap and vulgar things about me and my naked body. I know it sounds hypocritical given the way I am posing in my dp. But posting nudes online for getting flattering comments is different from actually letting a man *** you. I have received so many messages from men so far asking me to meet them. But obviously there won't be any deep emotions involved such as love, care or understanding. The top is going to see me with lust and in order to get an *** he is going to imagine filthy cheap things about me and my body so that he gets an ***. Once I let a man enter me after that I won't be respected or seen differently by that man ever again. He is always going to see me as a bottom who gets *** and used. And I am not ready to feel that way. In class eight me and the other guy both gave handjobs to each other. None of us was either a top or bottom. It wasn't gay in that sense. It was friendly. But now *** is going to be different. *** is powerplay. I am not ready to be that vulnerable in front of a man yet. But this *** makes me want to be a bottom ***. I still get *** while thinking about *** real women. But I know women are too complicated than men. |
|
No Picture
oh_desi_guy * | Posted On Mar 26, 2024
Did you just call bottoms who get *** gay losers, women, cheap, vulgar and not respected?
And that too in a discussion about self acceptance??
Are you completely unhinged?
And no, *** doesnt turn anyone gay. Its just another excuse to not accept who one is and what one enjoys. |
|
No Picture
Womaninmanbody | Posted On Mar 26, 2024
About bottoms: i personally didn't call them losers. I just said the truth about how we get perceived by society and tops.
About women( especially the millennial and adult gen z ones) : I talked from my observation and experience point of view. Yours might have been different. But we all know what these women are like. |
|
No Picture
Win32 | Posted On Mar 28, 2024
Well @womaninmanbody. I agreed with your post. I also started watching *** too much and surprisingly I started watching gay *** too. I am happily married and I dont want to be a part of this FNF game. There will be a man or boy who can spend time with me or okay to go travelling. Mostly if I ask someone to public meet mostly folks denied. Not even ready for a coffee. Its not about *** its all about feelings for me. I will continue my journey |
|
No Picture
Rohan126 | Posted On Mar 29, 2024
@Win32 you want connection with gays at the same time you are married too.
How and why would someone would connect emotionally with a married man with whom he doesn't see any relationship or potential partner.
Just my thoughts |
|
No Picture
Womaninmanbody | Posted On Mar 29, 2024
Men who were bullied a lot as a kid by other kids and weren't allowed to let their anger out....no one knows what shape those repressed things can form inside such men. I want to emotionally connect with women. But I was bullied due to dark skin and financial issues. And I never got the chance to take revenge. This caused a lot of stress hormones to be released in my body. And my testosterone production declined. Giving me moobs, love handles, small *** and a fat ***. My innate nature is masculine and I workout to become someone who is capable of ripping humans apart with bare hands. But I don't know why at the same time I also want to lay naked in a room and let savage *** *** hungry men fondle me and rub my whole body with their hands. It's all about sexual gratification for me. I don't want to have emotions. I just want to devour and be devoured. *** and other things shaped my sexuality. I remember that I used to give handjobs and received handjobs as well. But it was all because of me wanting to be sexually touched by another person. Man woman didn't matter. It's just that it happened with a guy in my class instead of a girl because men are easier. It takes a lot of effort to score a girl. Men don't have such tantrums. |
|
No Picture
biman4u_2020 | Posted On Mar 30, 2024
i am married now in 30s.. but i always had lust for fit woman /girls and desi MILFS from like 12ht on wards.. yes i too had some sexual touches by my school mates . who those times usdd to come and press *** and run and some stronger guys wud corner a guy and press his cck.. those thngs some how triggged me lot and i too wanted to feel and hard ***.. but i never got chance.... i also had touch in my *** by some elder guys.. say 3-4 yrs elder duing school days.. those somehow gave me thrill and sexually stimulate,.,.,.,.,.,.,. yes i been also subjectd to bullies in school days but that is different thing and its so sad some have to go thrut it.
but sexually i have loads of lust on woman.. those smart fit ones in western outfits and also our desi ones...and regading my bisexual natured. i discovered it during *** vidoes which i only started during college days in 20s... mostly i wud watch those french/italian *** which wa so good and titillating( only talkig abt straight ***).. used to and still enjoyand lust those *** actresses.. but somehow i realized that subconsciously i also was deely enjoying those manly strong man who were banging woman hard and *** ... the angles which they show ***.. men banging woman in missionary.. sometims in 3sum.. the manly hard *** .legs and bareback...... in between those gorgrous woman... the hard wild liplocks and bodies in sweat... and finnaly when a manly man wud ejculate ..the thick sperm wud be tasted by woman..... that was moment in men whee i really started thinking abt hw lucky the woman where honestly... i mean viagina is so good but those beauiful strong *** with balls ! uff that is such a god gift i feel.. so i always been enjoying those rugged manly man ( mmostly brown or dark skinned) ...... i always used to get hard on stroke ( even now) when isee intense sexual act in *** r in real..
yes i lust woman ( with respect onlly) and i still do. i jerk to actress pics alone and with some my frineds etc.. but just love MFM bisexual ( whoch i had few exp)... so the thing is i accepted that i am bisexual... i hat romance and all with men.. tis purely sexual feeling....... and ys i hardly usd to watch Gay ***. mostly straight and sometims some bisexual *** |
|
No Picture
560213 | Posted On Mar 30, 2024
Self acceptance is one other major task at times where u feel mastering rocket science is far better than this. This acceptance is possible if you can understand yourself perfectly without any compromise parameters. Life goes on with many sacrifices and moreover self acceptance is easier when you are surrounded by understanding family,friends,society and more so that one doesn't need to struggle to accept and expose their sexuality. And after acceptance starts the actual journey. We all initially had this point that according to our sexuality we should be loyal to that one special person who comes into our lives and make us feel we are on cloud nine. Like for example a hi man thinks he need to be loyal to one single man and a woman likewise a gay man being loyal to his boyfriend and so on. But now travelling apart and around we try to understand that this is not merely possible due to many circumstances hence hooking up has become a very common practice in our community. More or less sometimes I feel that may not be a very good practice if u are truly looking for one. On the other hand sometimes I feel it's a better choice too because we may or may not get the one were are looking for so why waste our valuable time and beauty searching for all long life way. Additionally we people from this community rarely get chances to express ourselves publicly there are many factors that influence us not to expose. Well thanks to dating apps where these paved way to get in contact with both Samaritans and snakes mutually lol. Upon all these I believe that one must atleast pose luck of a sesame seed to have that one special person who can always be with you no matter the whole world opposes you, who can be a supporting shoulder to you, who can make you feel high, who teases u, fights with u, shares your tears and to have many more memorable moments with u.
It is even said that one must be more lucky to have that love longing last forever. |
|
No Picture
spankman | Posted On Mar 31, 2024
Agree to disagree ....no one have to pronounce or call for gender or to give specifications of who you are and how would u like to be handled...it's plain simple where no lust/*** involved ..(primarily/eventually) ..ready to meet as friend no judgement |
|
| Previous comments: 1 2 |
