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Response to fake profiles n images


Submitted by [deleted] Location: Chennai (Tamil Nadu, India)

We all have been cruising online n chatting with guys for over many years now, some are newcomers. But everyone of us definitely would have come across many people with fake pictures or fake profiles too. I'm sure many of us will feel cheated or sometimes even violated mentally. I have come across many such people too.

Sometimes I try to understand their perspective if the person behind the fake profile is really a good person but a coward to use his original image or vice versa. What would be your first impression n would you give that person a second chance if you are really into that person. Or has anyone got cheated badly n have totally a scary or negative experience. Please share. We should learn to see both the sides of the coin in our indian scenario.

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Exotic1234
Posted On Apr 24, 2018

@gayspark - Well like they say "don't judge a book by its cover" but most of us end up making the exact same mistake. I would urge you to give the person a 2nd chance maybe once he warms up to you, you would know why he uses a fake profile or ID.
We all have a 6th Sense which tells us if the person we connect with is reliable. There is a natural tuning which comes without trying hard. If you get the right vibe then the guy is good and a lot of times it's just our intuition. However if after interacting if you find the person is a lier and a fake in real life too it's best to stay away we all have so many real life problems and the last thing we want is dealing with fake people or negative people.

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Exotic1234
Posted On Apr 24, 2018

A quick addition - A lot of people might not want to use their original pic the reason is simple am not sure if cowardice is the right word for it - I work in the corporate in a role where putting up my pic might put me at a major disadvantage professionally. There are others who are worried about family and friends finding out. And then there are married men who would want a certain level of anonimity. We all know the pics can get misused from the social media.

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263363
Posted On Apr 24, 2018

@exotic true, as you said I always give them a second chance, definitely in earlier days we would have done the same at some point or other. So I can't be judgemental. But as you say when u interact with the person over chat we will get a feeling about this person. I prefer to be attracted towards a good heart n a beautiful mind rather than a beautiful body n a bad thought.

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Guru005
Posted On Apr 24, 2018

Don't be judgemental is all I can say. Our intentions on these sites are short lived fantasy. No one wants to reveal anything too much to put themselves in problem too. At least ohmojo is more decent and less abusive people compared to other dating websites

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Exotic1234
Posted On Apr 24, 2018

@gayspark - Well said, I think we all can emotionally connect with someone only if the person has a good heart and not just a great body.Wish more people in the gay world thought like you.
However I believe a larger population of the gay people from across the world give a higher importance to narsiccism, superficial beauty and quick hook ups without realising the physical beauty is only skin deep.

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Valentine84
Posted On Apr 24, 2018

@all - Why a second chance or for that matter why a chance ?

I have been a victim many a times. There are guys who have my pictures in their profiles texted me in PR and Grindr. Worst part one a** h*** shared my very own picture (which was actually my office communicator profile picture) to me in private message when I asked for his face pic. What right do these guys have to misuse a common man's picture ? Doesn't these guys have their own sixth sense when they do this ? Don't they realise the picture they lifted from a site belongs to a person who has a family and repute ? These bastards don't dare to share their own pic even and they call themselves a man .. Shameless bastards..

Thankfully I had friends who tipped me off every time they found a fake profile with my pic. PR has a feature to report spam and with optimum requests such profiles are deleted. Facebook also has a similar feature but it goes around a long process with a claification questionnaire.

Do these guys who use others pic, do they dare to accept the profile picture isn't theirs ?

Did they take any consent before using someone's pic ?

In my case the picture was lifted from my office communicator profile pic? Only people who clear a mandatory information security course at office and sign a NDA will be given access to use office communicator in external networks. In this case that bastard who lifted my pic, doesn't he have a professional ethical responsibility ?

Doesn't he have a moral integrity ?

What do you suggest in such case.. Not being judgemental or giving second chances to such spineless guys ?

People should understand any Greek god or handsome guy has the same *** and *** you have. If you dare to share your pic share it else don't which is your own prerogative. Don't use someone s picture which you lift from the Internet. What you think a harmless sin could actually impact a guy who isn't aware of your sinister moves.

It's not about being judgemental

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Pandi1980
Posted On Apr 24, 2018

@valentine84 - Same incident.It happened to me a year ago.I appreciate people who has empty profile rather uploading some others photo instead of their own.One guy used my pic in PR as his profile pic.I was not aware of it.One of my good friend in my area called me and told about this.It was first time I faced such incident and he helped me to block that account by lodging a complaint in PR site.Though it was my face pic nothing nude I felt bad about that.

P.S : After solving the issue my mind voice " En photo va profile pic ah vacha dating proposals varum nambi vacha athan payan yarunu teriyama pocha...Ada da"

Now at present next incident is going on.I will not waste my time or others time simply by chatting. If I only think that I would meet the person on someday for sure then only I will chat with them.It doesn't mean that I need to have bed with them.Atleast, I need to know with whom I spoke these many days,with whom I am expressing my views, sharing my personals and experiences.I will only chat with those who are ready to meet me at some point in their life time (it may be years but they should keep up their words that is important)

Here in this site, one anonymous msg I got on 2 nd march.Then I shared my points clearly as good friendship with time and fun only if both are comfortable.Our friendship was going good and at one point that guy assured to share number.so I shared mine but he didn't reply with his.i was disturbed since I always keep up my words and like the person also to do the same.Then he convinced me with some reasons.At one point, I felt that I need to avoid him completely but something stopped me so I gave him second chance

Reasons for second chance : We had good conversation only here that too we both often meets online though we don't plan or have specific time.I think fate decides and I wondered and curious about the same

That only is only chatting with me (Though I don't believe with him completely on this).He always asks me to count his msgs.No wonder all 30 messages will get over only with me.

Some form of instinct and his reason for not keeping up his words

Now he assured me to meet me within this month end.I will wait only with that time if not am not that good just simply to believe all those (He might have proper reason again but I don't have strength to bear disappointment) and more over I shouldn't need some one to take me for granted all the times

For me, we should not give our words easily but if we give we should make it happens no matter what.

Simply without Sharing any details I can't blindly trust anyone.I don't have hesitation to do the same




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279743
Posted On Apr 25, 2018

@gayspark: As @exotic mentioned cowardice would not be an apt word. There are a lot of reasons why people choose not to reveal themselves. May be they are not out and don't wanna get into any awkward and embarrassing situation.

The real cowards are people who pass off using others pictures. Catfishing is one of the most prevalent issues all across the globe. Unlike many countries we fail to have stringent personal infringement rights and hence people easily use someone else's image or pic. I have come across a lot of people using celebrities pictures. Technically speaking you actually can't use those too.
One reason is that some people might see your pic and if they are not interested in you they end up not showing their pics playing on an unfair base.

The worst ones are the ones who catfish you on a date! Kinda been there and it sucks really.

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263363
Posted On Apr 25, 2018

Hi guys sorry cowardice may be a wrong and strong terminology. Actually i am asking this question not on a personal perspective but on a third person perspective. During my early days even i had put someone else pic in profiles but some people understood why i did so and some people did not. I know what i did that time was wrong but all of us know why we did it. But whenever the moment came to meet that person in real i always made sure i told them the truth about my identity and when they still agreed to meet i met them. So that way they dont feel cheated and played with their expectation. I didnt have the dare during my scollege days to show myself.