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Have you ever been blackmailed for being Gay


Submitted by relishing_love Location: Mumbai (Maharashtra, India)

Even though section 377 is revoked with regards to LGBT, being gay in India is not welcoming to the society. To make friends and for sexual gratification many a times we indulge in certain behaviour which might not be acceptable to the society. We might visit certain spas, malls, loos, secluded places, 2x2 trains etc to get what we need.

At times due to heat of the moment, we might even end up doing things in public loos etc.

This post is to highlight events where we indulged in something unacceptable or wrong to the society and were caught by someone who blackmailed us. We also need to mention how we handled the situation and how we got out of it.

This will help us identify the situation and be prepared for future should we face them. This will also help those who were victimized to help vent their pain and find a solution.

Let me start with mine in the next post.

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avnidharakhkh
Posted On Apr 29, 2019

Well this happened before 377 was depenalized.One guy had posted his muscular body pic on Grindr with his mobile number saying his is paid escort.
I pinged him on WhatsApp and asked directly about 'kya karega?*** pic?' kind of questions.
He was insisting me to come to his Virar place but I insisted because it was a weekday and travelling to Virar is hell rush in evening.
Then the incidence started:He started abusing me on WhatsApp(chakke,gud kind of abuses)
He sent me screenshots of my earlier chats which was showing my dp and threatened me that if I don't meet him by next day he will post them on internet.
This was the very first time I got scared a lot and asked him for forgiveness.
He said either pay his full fee 2k and have fun or pay 1.5k and no need to meet.
I sent him 1.5k through paytm and requested him to delete my chat screenshots.
After getting the amount he became nice and said 'I have been Target of people's time pass so I do this to people who do time pass with me'.
I said I wasn't doing tp but coming to Virar that side was difficult.
He asked me to remain as a friend I said I will never contact him again.
After this incidence I remain very careful while talking to paid guys.Sometimes Money can make things worse.

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panpipe69@gmail
Posted On May 3, 2019

My hellish experience was now close to two years ago. I was a victim of extortion by GRP cops.
This was in the afternoon inside the Churchgate Station loo. I was stupidly *** & without thinking made eye contact with an attractive young man.
He went to a urinal & then almost immediately came to the urinal next to where I was. I peeped over. He had taken out his *** & was fondling it.
I got tempted & reached out & fondled it. Something didn't make me want to continue. Now looking back, I think it was the fact the bugger wasn't responding.
As soon as I stepped out, another guy came & caught my neck from behind. He quickly flashed an police ID & started humiliating me by shouting.

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panpipe69@gmail
Posted On May 3, 2019

There were three guys by now. The decoy whose *** I had touched, this guy who caught me & a "mystery man"; whom till this date I haven't figured out who he was.
They forcefully took me by train to a room in Grant Road Station. It looked like a room used by cops.
There I was questioned & intimidated. Was told that their boss said I had to be sent to the lock up.
They asked me to call someone to pay.
I was told that I would be taken for a medical examination.
The guy who had caught me went through my mobile & threatened to call up family & friends.
I felt *** scared & guilty.
To cut a miserable story short, I ended up drawing Rs. 50,000/- & giving it to the bastard.
He gave me a missed call.
I asked a friend later to help me trace this rogue cop. My friend found out that this guy was a GRP (railway police).
Using Humsafar's help I filed a non cognizable offence at the Marine Drive Police Station.
However, later I felt embarrassed if the cops would ask personal questions. This was before the reading down of Section 377.

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Sinful
Posted On May 4, 2019

Happened last month,
I have read/heard many stories as such never experienced it.
around 10 ish in the night at Borival Stn Platform (famous one), cute drunk lad walks and stands up right next to me pretending to P
Stood for some time seeing my Tool, I didn't object he held it after a Min, just when he touched mine and I didn't object He said lets go I have place.
I was in Lust
I followed him, towards east he took to me to some second grade mall/business center which is right opposite station.
On first Floor, I saw some one was behind me and felt like being followed but when I saw that man went in some IT shop, so i went ahead in the loo where this Punk was waiting
He latched the door behind me and took mine out instantly.
He said if anyone comes say we are using loo together ??? Again lust took over common sense.
The moment my Jeans were below my knees he started moaning harder then Sunny Leo..
I figured something is wrong here and pulled my pants up to leave.
There was a Loud knocking on that door.
that punk didn't took a second and opened the door when I was all Ere-t and Jeans down whereas he was butt naked and shirt up.
Man on door was same man who was following me and when I saw him went into some random shop.
6 Feet tall huge with very strong Kashmiri accent, He is Fair sweats a lot, looks like a bouncer or watchmen of some Bar nearby.
He started shouting at only me and not the Punk.Kya G--D marwa raha hai ?
I still didn't realise whats happening to me and I thought that punk should be protected by that bouncer so I took him behind me, Dressed up and Stepped out.
Im being blessed with husky voice so I asked him loudly Problem kya hai teri Chuti-e ?
He started abusing and gathering crowd. Luckily SHops were shut then it was only 3 of us in that market on first floor.
I am decently built but could no way take that Huge uncle out.
He continued his questions - Bha-we G--d Mara raha tha. Gan-u hai etc etc.
I raised my voice and said Maar raha tha aur ab government bh allow karti hai, mera baap yahan ka corporator hai aur teri Maa main Ab Ch--ta hun.
Thats when Punk started walking away from me falling here and there.
That MOFO bouncer was confident, he said he is calling security of the building and went towards stairs where I stood near the loo, lighted a smoke a pretended to call someone on my cell.
that moment Bouncer reached Stairs he started abusing me MC and BC, calling whoever was present in that Mall and get attention to escalate.
Now weather section 377 is up or not, any businessman will get offended to see me when they would have got to know my Intention of coming to the loo and they wouldn't have liked it and possibly beaten me.
I ran towards him in anger because I didn't want to get any attention to me.Bouncer ran down too.
I stopped at the starting of that stairs and pretended to call my friends on the location shared on whatsapp ( I made a fake call and didn't send location to anyone ) i was just playing safe.
I was abusing him loudly as loud as I can, Conner and Cheat and more foul then he could think.
I was Sh--in bricks I tell you, but had to behave strong and smart.
I went down the dark alley of that shopping center smoking and pretending to be on call
No one was there, not even security of the building and lights were off.
I continued to find my way out and I did, from same place i had come i went out.
All was normal
I saw that Punk going towards station, I followed him but he vanished.
I was lucky that day as things didn't turn ugly and it faded as if nothing happened.
But everyone be safe of this guy, i saw that bouncer again sitting outside loo of same station and the moment i saw him i started abusing him and walk fast towards him pretending to call some one.
He ran away.
He sits fishing and waiting to con some one again.
He is 6 feet Tall and strong Fair Kashmiri who has very strong Kashmiri Pathani accent.
Stay safe guys



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Rahulkumarmumba
Posted On May 4, 2019

@sinful I too saw that same man the other day. I saw him talking to a boy not very decent, looked more like a *** addict. The addict was getting in the toilet and observing those who are in and this Kashmir like man was outside. The boy even came next to me and tried to see my ***. I sensed something wrong and came out and started observing them. After some time I saw that a mature man went out with that addict and within a few seconds this man too followed them. After reading your experience, I can only imagine what might have happened to him.

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Ratatouille
Posted On May 15, 2019

I paid cops thru my nose once wen I got caught hooking up wid a guy in my car inside aarey. Dis was close to 7-8 years back. I finished late at work in midc, around 8 or so. Was *** so thought I wud explore d SEEPZ loo. I pulled over my car opp d loo n headed in. D bulbs were out n it was pretty dark in der, bt jus enuf to know wats gng on. As soon as I entered, I saw d usual suspects - a couple of guys hanging around even after der biz was done. U know it wen dey r lkng around instead of focusing on peeing. I took up a cubicle next to a young n short Bengali guy who also seemed to b der beyond d needed time. I finished my business n thought, "wat d heck! Lemme also hang in der n see wat goes on". I stayed unzipped wid my thingie out n as luck wud hv it, d Bengali guy slid his hand over to my side n started feeling my ***. Dis continued fr a bit, n den all of a sudden I realised d riskiness of d situation. I took his hand off n zipped n buttoned up, which he resisted. I told him it s too risky here n moved out. Seeing dat he jus stood der, I motioned him to follow me. As we walked out, I told him dat I had a car n dat v cud hv some fun in d car in aarey. He agreed n v proceeded to aarey. Did a bit of driving around till we found a dark deserted lane on one of d inner roads. I parked d car, switched off d engine n lights. Waited fr a while to b sure der was no one around n approaching. Den v both slid our trousers n undies down, n he bent over to my side n started blowing me. I started feeling his small bt soft n cute arse, pressing it n rubbing it while he continued *** me passionately. In between I got him up n raised his shirt to lick n *** his nipples. N den got him to *** me again. Ten minutes must ve passed wen I got d shock of my life. Out of nowhere, der was a police jeep right in front of us flashing its headlight into our eyes. Realising dat v were in ***, v quickly pulled up our pants. Before I cud zip it, d cops were at my door. I trued to cover d open zipper n button wid my shirt. Bt I knew d cops were aware wat v were upto. Dey started questioning me outside my car, while taking him to d jeep. Threats were made bout tkng it to my parents n needing me to come to d police station. Once dey were sure dat i was at der mercy, dey offered me a way out by way of a bribe of 25k. I told I had very lil money on me n dat I wudnt hv dat much amount in my account eider. Bt wid no oder.option, I offered to withdraw watever money I had in my account n hand it over. Dey agreed n one of d cops accompanied to an atm jus outside aarey in marol. I had 17k odd in my account which I ended up giving d cop. In all this, he also noted down my number. Bt luckily I hv not received a call from anyone asking fr more money... I do not know if d oder guy was involved, although I didn't feel dat simple boy cud b. Bt I hoped d cops let.him off lightly after getting der due frm me

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Darkstarchild
Posted On May 19, 2019

Ive been blackmailed by gay guys in school and college. Just cause i didn't wanna sleep with them.. the funny part was one *** gay guy( i had no interest in him and politely refused a few times) told all the straight boys that i *** ***.. Because ive always be cool and nice to everyone.. the boys beat that boy up for spreading rumors.. and also.. two straights from that group offered me help if anyone said anything about my sexuality no matter of im gay or straight.. they would help protect me. Im 33 years today and when i recall this incident that was in late school, I thought it was a very sweet, humane and mature way to look at it. I felt bad that that gay kid got beat up.. but you know, his intentions were to harm me.. and you know all boys school.. kids can be brutal.. but All's well.. he apologized. In fact, im still i touch with the guys from school.

My moral. just be nice.. because remember kind people. and return the favour.

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Hemandelhi
Posted On Jul 23, 2019

Yesterday I met this guy with Ohmojo ID starting with krocky, who never gave his pic, location etc and asked me to come near Oberoi Mall. He then asked me to come to a building opposite to noorani masjid in pathanwadi, near humera park, shabby area, though I realised it is fishy and asked him that I want to go back. He started abusing me by saying that his brother is in rehab because of bi and gay guys. Then he forced me to go to ATM and took money from my card. He also snatch my mobile and bike keys. Gave back later.So guys please avoid if anyone ask you to meet near Oberoi mall, Malad East, pathanwadi or near by that area.

Appearance- typical Muslim look with beard and kurta. well built, fair, half bald, one eye punctured(blind) wear shades to cover it. Stitch marks on head (failed hair transplant cut)) From look only you can figure out that he is a big cheat/Chor.

Already say near Oberoi mall or Malad East. Never tell about noorani masjid till the time you reach near by n call him. Once you around he calls you continuously so as to hunt u. Mobile number ends with 0083. His trucaller name shows as F*****Z. He deletes his profile quite often or may be after shikaar. Request you all to be aware of this guy or anyone who calls you near Oberoi mall/ Malad East. He talks good on phone and convinces you that he is from good background. So guys spread this thread.

Admin Note:
OhMojo does not allow naming and shaming on the public forums as we have no way of verifying if the information posted is true or someone is just trying to defame someone over a personal fallout. But in this specific instance I'm allowing this post as another user has also reported another version of such an incidence. We have removed any personally identifiable information but have kept enough information so that other users can take note and protect themselves.

From the other user who reported this, this cheat's modus operandi seems to be as follows:

- Talks/chats nicely and calls you to a public place so that you feel comfortable enough. Once you are there, he tries to blackmail/scare you and profits from your fear.

- He operates in the western suburbs of Mumbai around Malad and Goregaon. Users might be called to meet near the station on the pretext that he has place near goregaon or malad station and that he will meet you and take you to his place.

- Sometimes he asks to borrow your phone to make a call and might run away with it.

- He seems to generally target masseurs and other service providers who generally do not ask for lot of details and might be tempted for getting business from him.

- To lure other guys he says he is a cuckold and wants to have threesome with his wife. This is a compulsive bait for some guys who then throw caution to the wind and agree to meet without any further details.


Ohmojo cannot do much about it as the user can easily create a new profile and carry on by seeking new victims. The only tool against such fraudster/cheats is to be always cautious and use common sense to protect yourself. You can do the following things to protect yourself:

- First and foremost: Do not get scared. Fear is the biggest tool a cheat has against you. Do not provide any personally identifiable details when you are meeting a new person. In case of Hemandelhi, what would have happened if he had refused to be scared with the threat of blackmail about whatsapp chat? The cheat would have had no power. What could the cheat have done? He doesn't know Hemandelhi or his address or other details so with whom would he have shared that whatsapp chat? He certainly would not have gone to the police. Was Hemandelhi scared of onlookers in that public place? Well, in most places, people are not bothered about anything. Hemandelhi simply could have fought back and left the place. The cheat would not have been able to do anything. Be confident and tell the cheater you are not scared about any threats. Tell the cheater he can go ahead and do whatever he wants to do. That will immediately make the cheater totally powerless over you.

- Always meet at a location of your choosing so that the cheater does not have home advantage. If there are any kind of red-flags, like Hemandelhi did see, immediately back out and get out. Make a run for it if you need to. Protecting yourself and staying safe should be your first priority. Do not give in to the lure of a hot steamy session. This will blind you to some obvious red flags.

- Do not carry about valuables and definitely not wallets with your Credit and Debit cards. Carry only whatever minimum cash you may need for that occasion.

- As mentioned earlier, do not provide any personally identifiable details to a new person. Give vague details only. Do not mention your office address or company name that can be used to locate you. Do not mention your building or society name where you live. Do not mention personal details about you or your family that can be used to trace you. If the person has not way of locating you, he has not power over you. How exactly will he blackmail you if he does not know anything about you?

- Be confident and do not give in to fear. You don't have to fight with the person. Only fight to the extent of protecting yourself if the cheater resorts to violence. Getting out of there should be your first priority. Look for an opening to make a run for it.

We request other users to post details of such incidences here but do ensure that you are not posting any personally identifiable information. Posting the modus operandi, general location and other details may well be enough for other users to protect themselves.

If you want to take revenge on anyone for cheating you and causing physical and mental trauma and financial loss, we encourage you to contact the police and/or use organizations that may help you (like the Humsafar trust). Do not go on a posting spree here on Ohmojo causing annoyance to other users (which Hemandelhi did. He posted about 20 posts on this and I had to remove all his posts with a warning to him). Just post the details here in one post to warn the others.



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frotty
Posted On Jul 23, 2019

Currently there is high unemployment in the country and certain sections of society are worst affected.

Crime will rise exponentially

Watch out or you become easy prey.

You try to lodge complaint and you get looted more.

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rajeev241
Posted On Jul 23, 2019

well all I can say is that......whoever says they have been blackmailed for being gay are them-self responsible.......if people act so despo & want to have *** in open or in public places & get caught then why cry about being humiliation or blackmail.

There are safe places to *** around but still if you choose to *** around openly then they are inviting trouble for yourself, then one should not cry of being blackmailed or looted...

Use logic guys, u have brains to decide & choose right & wrong......

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Aadibott2
Posted On Jul 24, 2019

Scary yaar ... All the incidents are scary .. we act so stupid some times ..

So this happened with my friend who is not on ohmojo he is very simple guy. He lives in my area and he is also gay (pure Bott little girlish )once I told home about the loo in andheri . This loo is on the bridge in andheri station and one of the most dangerous crusing place.

So 3 months ago my friend went there in evening as this was very new to him he was scared and excited he went n stood there and as it was evening time loo was crowded n lot of action was happening so he assumed it's all safe . After 15 mins he saw a fair cute guy in black t shirt n they both liked each other n decided to go somewhere else to have fun .

They both got down at West side n walked towards a flyover on the road towards churchgate side . There is one bridge under which dark place is there so both went there. My friend said he was not comfortable but as both were *** he went anyway

When he was *** the guy another guy came with Mobile torch n started yelling loudly they both got scared this guy slapped my friend so hard he bangged his head on the wall n was feeling dizzy . He guy started saying "handy chal police station" both were so scared my friend started crying . This guy was constantly hitting my friend . N even on main road he made huge scene

Finally he took 5000 RS from both of them . My friend called me n was crying like hell

When I saw him i also got scared as he was in a bad shape

He was from a poor family n 5000 is huge amount

Guys so please be careful with this Andheri loo as people wait outside n also keep eye on you

Be safe

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Ronaktripathi
Posted On Sep 10, 2019

I had a experience in 2017 December i was coming from work at 10:45 night was very *** as got a hamdjob in train so felt like getting down at matunga station public toilet as there two toilets i want towards Churchgate direction walla..the loo was fully crowded with gay people..i had visited many times before both d side walla loo...i started getting handjob as i stood there n i saw a hot fair tall man came inside he saw here n there smiled and went .... the crowd got little less.. there was man standing out n masturbatng freely in d corner not at urinal place but d Kamod ka place it was full dark and there was a young muslim guy who was touching my ***. then young muslim guy went and stood in d corner urinal n said me to come there..while going there i went to d man who was masturbating alone shagged his c**k after few seconds he removed my hand n went out i started having fun with d young muslim guy took my touser down he started rubbing his ***.. suddenly two people came holded are coller and started shouting..i some how took my tousers up and startd saying sorry crying n all they took us out side the toilet..i saw few girly people who were before in toilet smiling at those the two mans..it was trap the own gay community fucks us..i realised..they took us in train luggage compartment and where shouting to mee n they were hitting the muslim guy bichara.. they took us to railway police station at mahim platform no1.. asking me details... I was begging requesting crying...the fair hot tall guy and d men alone masturbating was COPS...the fair guy was taking my details i was crying so he said u look frm good family so we r not hitting u and plus u r marathi..sorry while he was saying i saw his zip was open n it was distracting..i said m from poor family..mom is old alone at home plz leave me....he said if we put u inside bars as it saturday ul have to stay here till monday..he said call ur frnds or family member i said no frnds n mom only der she is old..dey were not listening they said give 5k i said i dont hv that much sorry...mom was calling continuously.. as it was 12oclck i showed them dey said receive n say u come in half n hour.. again dey asked fr money i said il call my mom forget it u tell her about me...then they were like dont say..asked me how much i vl gv i said 2k..he said if ur account has more then see what il do... i was lik *** yaar..but i alone went to atm n removed 2k n gave till that time dey were hitting that muslim guy his parents or frnds had come. They left me after giving money .....the washroom now a cleaner sits ... I see d cops at Mumbai central and Mahalaxmi some time.

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busboys
Posted On Sep 11, 2019

hey Ronaktripathi, I am also have same experience at Matunga station. same toilet. same taken in luggage compartment to Mahim station platform 1 police stn. and taken 2k from me. this was long time back in 2013. the cops at Mahim stn should be punish. they are always trap people at Matunga toilet.

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grimreaperrr
Posted On Nov 7, 2019

I don't think people generally get blackmailed for being gay. I mean if you're gay and going around doing you're own business like everyone else, no one is going to blackmail you or put you in jail. Even if you tattoo 'gay' on your forehead and walk around in public, they are not going to arrest you. People are usually blackmailed or punished for committing an offence. Even in the most liberal countries, indecent conduct in public places is a punishable offence. I mean if you're *** someone's *** or getting ***, lip-locking, being *** or getting *** in a public place like a public toilet or any other place that is not your home or a hotel room, you're breaking the law. This is generally not related to one's sexuality, but more related to what is considered 'indecent behaviour' in a place shared with others and is punishable by law, so instead of putting someone in jail, the cops may ask for a bribe. If you don't want to pay a bribe or feel you have not broken the law, you can go to the police station, pay a fine or stay in prison for a day or night or get a lawyer involved and prove you did nothing wrong. In most cases, you don't need to do jail time, but you have to pay a fine if you did something illegal. Even grabbing an unwilling or non-consenting person's genitals in a train or a bus is a punishable offence by law regardless of whether you're straight or gay. As long as we remember that toilets, buses, trains, bridges and parks are all public places and they are not meant for having sexual encounters, we will be fine. If we still choose to break the law, we must prepare ourselves for all repercussions.

I'm not stopping anyone from doing what they want to but let's be real and not make it about being gay.

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Kharbottom
Posted On Nov 7, 2019

It's not always like this...I brought one top to my place ...I was not much satisfied with *** so I I said no when he asked next time to come home ...but still he keep on coming to my building..I didn't not opened the door...for many days he keep on coming to my building and used continue call on phone... Annoyed his behaviors I went down I told I don't want to meet u...he said give me lunch at hotel and 1500 rupees ..I did so to get rid of him...

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grimreaperrr
Posted On Nov 7, 2019

I'm sorry to here that Kharbottom. Do you think that was blackmail? Did he threaten to reveal information of a sexual kind about you to the police or your neighbours, relatives, friends or family members? If he wanted to blackmail you, he would have done it immediately. Looks like he wanted to have *** with you, but since you were not interested, he just thought let's check if he could get you to pay him some money. Sounds more like you were harassed like how beggars harass people on roads or at a traffic signal.