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Hello All,

The major problem I am facing these days is fear while I'm cruising different spots. I'm looking for advice on how to overcome this feeling and have a good *** with strangers.

The biggest problem I face is in approach, I do get decent guys they even give a hint but there is no move made from their side and I'm also scared to make a move from my side.

How do we ensure that we do not lose out due to fear while also making sure that we do not fall into traps and other risks?

What all precautions should we take?

Thanks.

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Matured M
Posted On Aug 9, 2018 - 09:59 AM

This is a problem with almost everyone. Fear of getting into trap is every gentle person's concern. I think we should remain normal and natural and judge others , if he looks gentle and humble then you should open up carefully.
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─╣olypop01
Posted On Aug 10, 2018 - 12:44 AM

Fear of getting caught makes me more ***.
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Gayparity
Posted On Aug 10, 2018 - 03:30 AM

While cruising don't carry anything not even mobile and you will feel safe
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starbm
Posted On Aug 10, 2018 - 06:48 AM

It is not the fear of cruising but the fear of getting caught in the act can ruin the day. Be always cautious and read the person well before throwing a hint at him instead of doing random things. Dont be loud and snoozy in your attire and your walks as well. There are some guys who suddenly start behaving weirdly after getting into a place like this. If you sense anything wrong at all, just leave the place. Better be safe then sorry.

Having said all this all these can only reduce the risks, not eleiminate completely. But thats the pleasure and fun also sometimes. You know what I mean
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jockey4nothing
Posted On Aug 10, 2018 - 12:34 PM

Observe cruising spot from safe distance. Check who all are frewuently coming and going... at first place it appears to be dificult if spot is at crowded place but give some time snd u will come to know who is coming bacj again again....watch if these people are talking to each other , standing together .. chances are that they r operating in gang. Avoid obviously looking chapri people.... watch out for footware person is wearing. .cops in plain dress do wear uniform shoes...dont carry anything valuable ..no crdit card debit card ...but 300 to 500 bucks and simple phone is must in case of emergancy... behave confident ; dont do anything that will attract attention of too many people..happy cruising...
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maduraimathan
Posted On Aug 12, 2018 - 05:26 AM

Supreme court is going to deliver the judgement decriminalising gay *** next month.....during the hearing all the 5 judges were in favour of decriminalisation. ...even govt said no objections. ...so wait for a month to get rid off the fear....thereafter having gay relationship in private place with an adult with his consent will not be an offence.....we can use the public places only for pick up
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Gulfisaforever
Posted On Aug 14, 2018 - 03:45 AM

Even when the law gets repelled, they can still book you for indecent exposure in public or molestation etc. So just be careful. And basically avoid cruising in low class areas. Better to cruise in sm upscale places than in a train station loo.
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Manuman
Posted On Aug 14, 2018 - 04:39 PM

Make multiple eye contacts. If he is interested, he will also do the same. Then do something like pressing your bulge and things will move.
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HeadsTailsAndHo
Posted On Aug 14, 2018 - 06:17 PM

Again this multiple eye contact works with genuine guys only.
If the guy is there to harass you, bash you, or has intentions to extort money from you, he also knows all these tricks.
He will give you signal by multiple looks and you will think he is genuine guy and you will follow him.

So far I have observed that
If I listen my 6th sense, which is very rarely wrong, I remain safe.
I avoid too many people around.
One o one or max a 3some is good.
If something is already going on, like you enter a loo and u see ppl doing fun already, that is safe scene for me.
If someone is very handsome, too good to be true, avoid him. Atleast avoid initiating the thing from your end.
By built, thighs, haircut, try to judge the person... A guy of good built, bulky thighs, good height, not fancy hair, infact short hair... Will be a cop or at guy, in 90% cases.

And even if you are caught, be bold.
Remember if you are not afraid, the goons start feeling helpless and nervous.
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Gulfisaforever
Posted On Aug 15, 2018 - 02:45 PM

I know its a bit tough for this to materialize, but i wish we made groups of our own, to teach all these scamsters sm lesson. Whenever one of us is targeted n victimized harassed etc, he could post the details of the whole incident, nd after making suitable investigation, we go n teach the guilty guy, group sm lesson. Sounds fancy, nd like an idea from sm bollywood movie, i know, but just a thought.
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fifty
Posted On Aug 16, 2018 - 05:37 AM

Turn it into a gang war?
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Slavebot
Posted On Aug 17, 2018 - 04:58 AM

Few years back i come across with the teen guy who was standing in loo and pointing his *** to others
Obviously this kind activity atract anybody wheather you are straight or gay
So i glance at his *** as he was teen age i got attracted also but in next movement i rushed out of the loo that gay came out and asked me what is time ?it was night 10pm i told him
He took this apportunity to start quarrel with me saying that i am abused him inside the loo
I said ok lets go to police station solve the problem he got panicked getting cought and called his othere friends they where hidden near by bridge
they were in group of 6 or7 all below 18
with stickes & stones in there hand to attack on me
I tried to deffence myself but one of them manage to hit from my back with chopper
I was lucky enought and servived my life by god grace
But from than i am in fear troma always and got doubt on every person i came across for such hook up activity
My personal life is screwed up due to this
This happened to me in 2009 still i am not coming out of this due to such bull *** guys i lost my enjoyment of life
i dont understand whats wrong if i enjoy doing m2m for my happiness with others mutual concern is that everything is going to solve by low and legally
Its my personal rights to leave my life as the way i wish why people dont undestand this
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dingdong
Posted On Aug 17, 2018 - 06:41 AM

@Slavebot, really sad to hear that scary incident from you. Agree, such situation will make anyone into scary mode.
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Gayparity
Posted On Aug 17, 2018 - 06:51 AM

No words but it's touching really sad
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cruiser83
Posted On Aug 17, 2018 - 09:17 AM

sorry to hear about unpleasant incidents, but i can offer some pointers after many years of experience:
-it's good to frequent a spot that you know of, where you can get friendly with some of the other regulars. this helps build a camaraderie and also discuss possibilities. many times, other regulars have helped me get out of possible sticky situations by telling me to avoid characters who could be dangerous.
-get a sense of the area and don't rush into any situation. know how to leave if that needs to be done.
-trust your instinct. in my many years of going to spots, i have always trusted my gut and if i dont feel comfortable with a guy, i don't go.
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Gulfisaforever
Posted On Aug 17, 2018 - 10:36 AM

@fifty
Its not abt starting a gang war, its abt fighting for our rights. U can give 1 million safety tips to a person here. But the truth is, even after following all those tips, he can still be made a victim by the scamster. The only real way us to get rid if that menace from the root. If we all think of keep avoiding the traps, one of us only is going to fall for that trap one day. May be someone who is not as smart as u n me. Not as bold. Or not as instinctively sharp or physically strong. Shudnt he hv the right to enjoy his life. If we dont care abt our own community who else will.
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Gulfisaforever
Posted On Aug 17, 2018 - 10:46 AM

I would like to appeal to any lgbt ngos staff or admins, if they r reading this, to look into the matter. This is a very real threat n menace thts happening out there. N a lot of us r falling victim to these types of incidents. I wud urge u to take sm steps here. Rather than organizing pink pride parades all over the country.
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letsfuck
Posted On Aug 17, 2018 - 11:24 AM

Pride parades, be it pink or of all the seven colors, have got nothing to do with extortion. The police are abusing their power to make money. Like most of the government offices do.

It is unfair to undermine important events as an antidote to a crime. Pride is very important for the community and has its own place.

We must fight this evil as a collective instead of expecting others to do it for us.
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fifty
Posted On Aug 18, 2018 - 01:32 AM

Engaging in sexual activity, whether gay or straight at a public place cannot be or become a right. Not at least in India.
If one wants to stop that kind of harassment and looting , (not to teach the guys a lesson) it is better to approach the police, directly or in group or via LGBT NGOs.