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Is it difficult being a bottom psychologically? i mean in a conservative society like India and where being a member of LGBT community is seen with hatred . have you ever came across a person who treated you just to fulfill their desires and have looked down upon you for being a bottom..lets share our thoughts

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Ken9
Posted On Jul 21, 2018 - 09:04 PM

Well I have had come across a top skank who was dictating his terms over chat
He wanted my face pic for his *** pic
Wanted to get *** and *** me

I denied his 'proposal for ***', to which He said bottoms are happy with ***, why you want romance.
Now this ugly midget sized top had this sheer audacity to look down on a person even without knowing his looks/interests

First of all, nothing should bring you down. Most self proclaimed tops are BIs and not straights. They end up *** with guys even after marriage.
Bottoms are typically called gays, which is untrue and a bit comical. There is a horde of effeminate tops who are gay, and those Bicurious/bisexual proclaiming tops who can not man down just because they feel that they can ***.
All these cuck seekers on internet media are typical losers of life who neither have money to afford a girl or a real time girl friend.

Being Bottom is a state of mind. If you find a right guy, you might definitely go verse. Well most bottoms find their erections too soft over a period of time as their psyche sends signal to the brain as per body needs.

Being bottom! Hell yeah. I am a proud one! :D
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bouncingonrods
Posted On Jul 22, 2018 - 06:52 AM

Nope. Ppl are nice
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cm_tu
Posted On Jul 22, 2018 - 08:30 AM

I hate those people who only thinks of pleasing themselves. And would t even spend 2 mit doing to please their partner...

Hate those top who thinks all gay like big *** in *** and in ***.. stupid a holes
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sharif322154
Posted On Jul 22, 2018 - 10:22 AM

i faced it when some of the so called tops claimed that i can not satisfy a women as i am a bottom. secondly,when they got to know that i work at a good position in a good company they claimed that i dont deserve it as i m a bottom and i shd be in interior/fashion designing field.
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Valentine84
Posted On Jul 22, 2018 - 05:20 PM

Let alone prejudices by others .. How many gays themselves have prejudices about bottoms ? I will be honest, yes I do had certain prejudices. Especially when it comes to ***. Cos the very first time I had *** *** a bottom, I saw him climax while my strokes were harder.. I was wondering since I am taking control of his body I am happy but how come this guy is happy .. Definitely my perception back then was quite naive, later did I realise sexuality is a spectrum..

Also a person's ability/ caliber / potential has nothing to do with his sexual orientation or for that sake his role ( read bottom)..

Another major issue which is faced by bottoms is the NON EQUALITY in the act.. Mostly bottoms are treated like a weaker ***.. I had heard some confessions from my bottom friends.. Hardly people ask them what pleasures them ? Did they enjoy the act ?

I make it a point to ask the bottoms whom I hook up with the above questions and also try to get to understand their satisfaction in the act..

Tops should understand that you can't call yourselves as a top unless you drive your bottom to the pinnacle of pleasure.. Not getting your satisfaction but satisfying your bottom makes you a good top.
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Mg_123
Posted On Jul 22, 2018 - 06:09 PM

Nicely said @valentine84. Gave me some kind of comfort.
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Love2
Posted On Jul 23, 2018 - 02:31 AM

Very true.. that bottom lose *** after some age because the mind gives them signal that u r bottom.. It has happened with me
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Prashanttt
Posted On Jul 23, 2018 - 03:08 AM

What about versatile? @Love2
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mhere4fun
Posted On Jul 23, 2018 - 04:42 AM

Absolutely true @valentine84.. Ppl should understand that *** s an art and they should know how to explore it... Wheather he s top or bottom.....
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rohit.blr.gupta
Posted On Jul 23, 2018 - 10:50 AM

yes, I have felt aggression in many cases. I used to have a partner, and as he used to have a big huge dk and can sustain for an hour, he used to feel that my only job was to please him and make him ***. He never even touched me once, and I used to *** him the whole time. Once when I asked him to love and caress me, he got angry, and said that was not my his job, and he has come to me to give me chance to make him ***. Then when I again requested the next day, he got angry, and started pushing and abusing me, and said that a bottom's place is to *** ***, and not get entertained. he stated gagging me, and started slapping and abusing. I was in tears, but I still I couldn't leave him. It took me quite while and withstand a lot of abuse before I could forget and get over with him. There was another top guy who asked me to take pictures of females of my family and show it to him while I *** his ***. He always used to abuse me, and torture me. I dont know if to some extent, i was allowing them to do it, but they used to beat and abuse me. There was never a session with the 2nd guy when I could come out of his room without my eyes in tears.
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subs
Posted On Jul 23, 2018 - 11:51 AM

i think u liked getting humiliated and abused and used..while at some point it is really free to surrender and be vulnerable but being beaten and abused is wrong..Glad u had the courage to come out of both the relations.and dont let neone show u down even if u r a bottom.
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sambhog
Posted On Jul 23, 2018 - 03:06 PM

I always wonder about these top-bottom labels. People write here like they are hard wired in their brains to be tops or bottoms. These are sexual PREFERENCES and not orientations. We all have the same bodies and different parts are pleasurable to different people. Some people explore all roles and some people don't. If you have tried penetrating and have not been successful then it is not because you are born to be a bottom. It only means you have erectile problems and need psychological or medical attention. Getting an *** is a commonplace physiological process. How would that make a top any superior in any way? Also this rubbish about tops being bisexuals or straights!! This is only stemming from your own internalised homophobia that gay men are not men enough to penetrate. If you do not like being treated in any way inferior then you mostly have the liberty to walk out of such relationships however brief they are.

The OP also, in his zeal to identify bigoted tops, body shamed him for a small ***. How sensitive is that, to begin with?
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kunalver
Posted On Jul 25, 2018 - 05:10 PM

yes. top guys just belive as *** object..couple of time this exp.. no romance love.. personla talk chat care..just *** object
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girlyBody_Bot
Posted On Jul 26, 2018 - 06:49 AM

Yes, most tops just want to satisfy their lust. They just want their desires to be full filled, whether it is phone *** or real ***. After that, they don't care about me. They'll talk all kinds of nonsense to get me in their bed. But once they have used my body for their enjoyment, they just toss me aside.
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rogertoni22
Posted On Jul 30, 2018 - 10:30 AM

@ rohit : As someone mentioned, looks like you wanted all that *** of getting abused and beaten up... else no sane person would expose himself wittingly.

As i have always held, be unequivocal in what you can expect from an Indian and a foreigner.
A TOP from the developed world, who doesn't have any reservations / inhibitions about being gay/bi would do literally everything - Romance,bodyplay, even *** & Rimming passionately and then ***. (Not a single foreigner i have met is an exception to this ),
The so called Indian "TOPS" ( No pun intended :)) on the other hand are mostly gays / Bis who prefer making out with a guy but however their Machoism would impede their action. Nevertheless, they cannot refrain from indulging and convince themselves that they are actually not having fun with a male, but a bottom(effeminate).

No point in complaining. Romance is something that has to come from within. Even if he does it out of solicitation, it might be done perfunctorily.

Getting down to brass tacks, if he fucks well capitalize on that, if he romances well : thatz the gravy part and if he just wants a BJ and you love giving it, then feast on it. Just Enjoy and walk out.Being emotionally detached is the key. If bonding has to happen it will, over a period of time and not overnight.

Most of the TOPs are good. Neither do they feel high nor do they look down at bottoms. But for those few "MachoS" who think way toooo much about themselves, this is how u got to cut them down to size : Just make him realize that a bottom is attracted to a guy and his phallus which no woman has. But a so called macho Top, despite having a 1000 women around with a ***/ arse is still behind a guy's *** hole. And therefore he is as much a gay as a bottom if not more.

This is the brickbat u can give that would eventually make him grounded or turn him red ( Either of which u can enjoy :):):))
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sambhog
Posted On Jul 30, 2018 - 01:27 PM

@Rogertoni22, I doubt you conducted a large scale study to confirm your hypotheses. I largely doubt if all self identified tops from the developed world fit your description nor do i subscribe to the idea that Indian men who assume in penetrating roles are always such ***. Please don't generalise.
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rogertoni22
Posted On Jul 30, 2018 - 02:14 PM

Read carefully :
Not a single foreigner "I HAVE MET"
"Most of the TOPS" are good.
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cindrella_c
Posted On Jul 31, 2018 - 12:55 PM

http://www.ohmojo.com/viewprofile.aspx?member=218990 is very perfect.

I have met TOPs who are real TOPs. They start and take you through the path of pleasure. They share their body and sexual emotions. It is lovely to be a bottom to those guys. Of course they show their macho-ism and force, but that is the dominance every bottom wants to be under.

But majority of the tops I have met are not like that. With a quick start they move to penetration. *** follows and once *** there will be a quick stop. Bottoms need roughness and being dominated. But not like quick lunch plate. Lot of guys wont even wait for the bottom to *** at the end.

I am not complaining. Something is better than nothing. But bottoms treat the real TOPs mentioned first like hero. I want all the TOPs to become heroes to their bottoms. :)

May be TOPs may have complains about bottoms. I would like to hear that as well. But are bottoms prejudiced towards tops? I doubt.

Prejudice doesn't alone happen in bed. It happens even while chatting. Bottoms have to share the photos and mob no first. Guys, v r all chatting for pleasure n fun. After a long discussion, when one guy asks num, show some decency.
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dingdong
Posted On Jul 31, 2018 - 01:56 PM

well said cindrella_c... yes, passionate play always gives more pleasure to both bottom and top...

have done quiet a lot sensual play with bottoms.. and have noticed that they would ask for more meets when they get satisfied and pleased.. its always good to make sure the partner is satisfied than just own pleasure...
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Gulfisaforever
Posted On Jul 31, 2018 - 04:11 PM

Yes cindrella, prejudice is very much there. I have experienced it. But to submit to such prejudice or not is in our hands. If i detect any supercilious attitude from any guy, i dump him immediately. To treat everyone equally and with respect - that should be the norm. But what happens is, if sm top guy is treating a bot like that, he feels he is doing the bot a favor, going out of the way, going the extra mile. That is not how it should be. It should be natural, inherent, innate. But then there are good and specimens any group of ppl. So just as there are arrogant tops who suffer from superiority complex, there are some nasty bots too. Its just a matter of treating each case on an individual basis.
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Gulfisaforever
Posted On Jul 31, 2018 - 04:24 PM

Just to add to that. My ex bf was one such specimen. He was a mental case almost. Not just this top-btm thing, he had a lot of other prejudices n ill conceived notions abt a lot of other things. He was a typical dehati male chauvinist pig too. Used to call women randis. No respect at all. I had to tell him to stop being lecherous towards girls n learn to be more civilized. But i guess he only agreed to it out of his love for me. Or to put it better, his pretence that he loved me. He was married, a fact which he hadnt shared with me. I just want to highlight how pathetic hus attitude really was. Hence sharing this. Once i told him to take his wife for an outing. As he had told me that he doesnt hv any relation with his wife, doesnt talk to her, etc. I felt sorry for her. While we were discussing abt it, i suggested sm places where he could take her to. I mentioned beaches, nd his reply was, beach pe to randiyaa ghoomti hai nangi hokar. This is my wife, not my girl friend. I felt so disgusted with his reply. Kind of lost all or any respect that i had for him that day. I dont know why i let such a cheap person in my life. Will always regret it.
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manbot
Posted On Aug 4, 2018 - 08:10 AM

To top it all you get judgement from other guys who prefer playing a bottom role. I am a 30+ cis gender man. I look quite butch, i cant help it but my body language is very masculin. Once in a house party one of my old date disclosed that i play as bottom too. It was one of the most humiliating night i have faced. they played his recorded phone call where that due was discribing how he *** me so called desi top guy. Some guys there called me 'behan' and said 'tu hamari category ki hai to itna top hone ka drama kyu. hum bhi straight logo ke sath ghumti hai par hum teri tarah nautanki nahi karti"
I ask you, i am out and proud top guy. I love men. How i have *** with my partner is my business. I never tell any one if i am top or bottom unless they want me to play a specific role in bed. I am a guy and dont like behaving like a girl. So why such prejudice and discrimination from the community itself? I WILL NEVER IDENTIFY MYSELF AS A TOP OR BOTTOM GUY!
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Gulfisaforever
Posted On Aug 4, 2018 - 04:49 PM

Exactly manbot. I faced the same type of thing. "Tu to bottom hai" arre first thing is i never pretend anything. I m who i m. Its not like i m even pretending to be a top. If u look at me n u assume i m top. Its ur fault. Nd as far as hook up or date is concerned i always clarify the pref n stuff. So its not even like i m trying to hide my role there. Its zaahil n gawaar ppl who have such prejudices. They think being top is superior to being bottom. To be honest, i dont care what such cheap ppl think. Let them be. Its not like if they didnt hv this particular prejudice, they wud be good dating material. So better to ignore the trash. N focus on ppl that matter.
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jackscs2005
Posted On Aug 4, 2018 - 06:43 PM

Even i have experienced it. People have general opinion that bottom are bottom because they have small ***. But i am bottom by choice not by size. I enjoy my *** then *** others therefore i am bottom. My *** is not small or less then other tops out there. It just a mindset people have about bottom.
Another perception carries is Top is always master and bottom is always slave. But i play master with my top and they become my slave.. They treat me like a queen because i want them to do so. So come out of these traditional mindset and make your own way...
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wingedcupid
Posted On Aug 4, 2018 - 09:53 PM

My two cents!!
A man who does not conform to masculine behaviour as expected by society, is looked down. Bottoms are looked down for that matter.
A bottom who is masculine takes many ppl by surprise as perhaps they wonder how could he put an man's appendange in his *** or let him enter through rear door!
Masculinity in women is viewed as boldness whereas the opposite is ridiculed
I studied in boys school where lads enjoy flirting with me but in public mock me or dont want to be associated with me
I wish the world soon moves to accept that being effeminate is OK and nothing to be ashamed(or scared) of.

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Yourwife
Posted On Aug 5, 2018 - 10:45 AM

Yes some tops act so rudely. Once I was chatting with a top and we were planning to meet. He said to me that I can never satisfy a girl. So he was forcing me to have breast plant and be his keep. He didn't cared about me or my family. He also spread my number to his friend saying them that I am a transgender bottom. I felt very bad
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rogertoni22
Posted On Aug 5, 2018 - 12:01 PM

As mentioned before, much of these abuses are because of u exposing urself to be vulnerable. If he had the audacity to forward your numb, u should have the guts to forward his number to a couple of bottoms who are bold enough to take him head on. Definitely a cruel guy like him would be driven crazy by ur deed. All the best.
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Elder51forboys
Posted On Aug 8, 2018 - 02:48 PM

if anyone uses u or abuses you, its only becos u hv allowed him to.....remember
in your anxiety to get a gay partner, plz do not lose ur self esteem
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ammeyya
Posted On Aug 8, 2018 - 03:54 PM

after entering into gay life for atleast 5 years so many guys took my disadvantage. there are 90 % tops who treat bottom just as a substitute of girl. they just want to empty there pipes. no respect in their mind about bottom. just are *** seekers. after *** 7-8 times also guys just blocked my number without any reason. 80 % guys always told me their fake identity.
thats why I also decided -now I gather all information abt guy and then only do fun
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bisxxdman
Posted On Aug 9, 2018 - 12:17 PM

Very well summarized @ ken9.
I would add that not all bottoms are feminine.
I look a normal male,even assertive but I am a bottom.