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Family's reaction to coming out


Submitted by CluelessHubby Location: All India (All India, India)

It was incredibly brave of Dutee Chand, a female sprinter, no matter what her immediate reason to come out or the familial backlash.

Sonam Kapoor acted in a lesbian plot and the film actually got a commercial release. Ayushman Khurana too shall act in a similar film, we hear.

Wish these things happened ten years sooner. Acceptance from the family or the lack of it can make life long, or just make it feel long.

Those who came out, what were your family reactions like? I lost my home after coming out. We exist in a social construct, but the relation is no longer the same.

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sambhog
Posted On Jul 1, 2019

It is completely an individual decision to come out or not. Not just how to come out, one should also think of how much to come out.

I have a two pence advice for those exploring their sexuality and wanting to 'become' bisexual so they can get married. Sexual attraction is a fairly permanent romantic, emotional and sexual attraction to someone. You don't need to have *** with someone to figure whether you are attracted to them or not. It is in your mind. If you fantasise having *** with someone, spending time with someone, if you have sexual dreams involving someone then you know what gender you are attracted to. No medical or psychological test can determine that for you. Remember success or failure in one sexual encounter with a stranger is no way an indicator of your sexual orientation. You can still be attracted to someone and not be able to get aroused for many reasons. You may show sexual arousal (*** in case of men) without having any attraction to that someone. Explore for yourself. You will figure if you are open to yourself.

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wingedcupid
Posted On Jul 1, 2019

Thanks exotic and coolbisu..made me feel my two cents are worth more than that :)
Here is one more that u can decipher...i fancied trignometry as long as it was in the books...A triangle with a perpendicular never takes precedence over cylinder for me...

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Ebubu
Posted On Jul 23, 2019

@ Sasmathu "That simply doesn't happen in Indian society."

If it was just for you, "Indian society" would stay *** in the medieval times. Your concept of "Indian society" is total bullshit. Indian society has always changed throughout times, LIKE ANY OTHER SOCIETY, and hopefully for the best. And yes, individual coming outs will do as much for society change than the decriminalisation of homosexuality by the Supreme Court. People will think at a relational level, they will realize that gays are not just "others", they are their own sons and daughters, even parents, sometimes, friends, cousins, colleagues....
Yes, coming out requires a bit of courage. But no society change has ever been done without a bit of courage. Never forget that the LGBT revolution in the world started on Christopher Street, by a few trans bashing some cops in a rowdy bar of New York.... These people played with their life.

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Sissypranita1
Posted On Aug 10, 2019

Well today i was talking to my sister older than me,she asked me if i have any girlfriend, i said no but after that she told me,enjoy banglore bro make girlfriends or BOYFRIENDS, I looked at her,then she asked,are you interested in boys? I said future will tell :p then she laughed and said that means you like it :p and then she told me do whatever you are into! I love how people are changing their perspective man!

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Exotic1234
Posted On Aug 11, 2019

@sissypranita - I think your name says it all if you are sissy then you have to be a bit effeminate which your sis would have observed so she probably has a clue about your orientation. However hats off to her for bringing it up Casually and she even normalised it. There is definitely a change in the way the society percieves alternative sexual preferences

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frotty
Posted On Feb 5, 2020

Being Indian & COMING OUT | Amit & Aditya

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Posted On Oct 16, 2021

Bhagat Singh paida hona chahiye ,....par wo dusre ke ghar mein. People want outliers to happen to someone else but not their family. You will find many families still today, irrespective of their socio-economic background, educational upbringing will still pressurize their gay sons to marry a woman (who cares if the poor girls life is ruined, she is collateral damage anyway in act of saving the grace for the family in the society). There are many gays who do not have the balls to stand up and face the music will get married and blame it on family/ societal pressure instead of their lack of backbone.

Yes the urban youth is changing, the world of netflix, amazon prime is exposing the culture and lifestyle they were never aware of. Bollywood is also taking baby steps from Kapoor and sons where not once the word "gay" was used to coming to Shubh Mangal Savadhan where Ayushman Khurana and Jitu play openly gay characters. We see audience laugh and empathise with them.. but the question is how many will accept if their son/ daughter, brother / sister comes out to them?

Imagine for a moment (do not cheat, be very objective), you are straight and your best friend or very close work colleague comes to you, what will be your reaction? How many of you sincerely believe that you will wholeheartedly accept them without judgement, discrimination or ridicule? Remember you cannot cheat. Be very objective.

Now, imagine the same person coming out to your family, friends and other colleagues- what will be their reaction. It is not a rocket science or you don't need a survey- people exhibit their true nature about LGBTQIA community over dinner conversations, causual chats, office gettogethers, family gatherings, college campuses. These same people , make society and families. People who laughed and empathised with Ayushman and Jitu were disgusted by Aligarh, because Manoj Bajpai is not a youthful, chocolate boy and Aligarh was not a romcom.

Be the change that you want to see in the society- Next time someone is cracking an insensitive "gay" joke, humiliating someone , questionning someone for not being married- challenge them. Irrespective, whether you out or not, whether you are gay, bi, questioning, asec, show support to your community. If someone confides in you, listen to them, keep their secret.

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